I had a date with a provider last month in Chicago and it was a first for me.I am not a newbie and belong to and use P411 and RS2k. The date was set up thru an assistant for 11:30 am on a week day.Her incall was till 1pm so I had plenty of time to get my hour in. First mistake. I was traveling from Wi into Chicago and ran into construction and assumed I was going to be late. I text the assistant and asked if we should cancel and she responded back no.I arrived at the hotel and got to the room by noon. The provider was very cool and did not appear concerned. We finished round one, talked and I asked about round 2. She said that we ran out of time and she had a late checkout? I had fun and did not hassle the provider as the issue seemed to be with the assistant. I wrote a review and did not mention the paid for an hour and only got a half hour issue. Mistake # 2. I e-mailed the assistant and thought that by not hassling the provider and not wriring a bad review that I would get some accomadation. Zero Ziltch response. Mistake #3. How would you have handled it differently? Oh and by the way the providers last statement as we exchanged kisses was It is alwals to schelule an incall at 11:30  on the day of late checkout. Duh!

You got your pop, if you want the consideration of two pops be considerate enough to leave early enough to be on time. This whining via Alias by a guy who was initially at fault is getting no sympathy from me- or the respect of MY real handle either.

ImJustSayin

Construction Season is the 5th and longest.  When planning your drive to Chicago, Google the distance and always add 90 minutes to the travel time Google estimates.  If you arrive early, go to the hotel bar and have a drink while you fantasize about what awaits.

Bottom line is, you were late... that's your fault not hers.  You got what the "accommodation" you were entitled... nothing.

We all get stuck in unexpected traffic jams. The best-case scenario is she'ss late as well but it's usually shorter playtime. If she was running late and you were on time, then you'd have something to complain about.

Here's a link to all the grid-locked construction jam-ups in the Chicago metropolitan area. Read it and weep - it's gonna be a long, SLOW summer once again.

1st, if the assistant told you no, why didn't you just cancel upfront??

..and if you prepaid, that was a stupid mistake.  Never do that.

However, traffic is a problem, and if a provider wants to book near the airport, this is no surprise.  She should have given you the hour (everyone knows you can check out in Chicago up to 3 pm), or suggested cancelling - which brings me to my first point - why didnt you just say no unless you prepaid..

Either way, stop begging and pleading.  You've been pushed around.  Accept it, learn from it, and move on.  

I am the assistant mentioned in this thread. I am not going to get into a pissing contest over this because the man voicing the complaint isn't telling the full story and he is actually blatantly lying about some of it. I will bring up a few points, in my (and my girl's) defense:

I am always very thorough when I provide location information, contact information, and instructions. I also always ask for a confirmatiion that the person I am sending this info to got it and I make sure that if he has any questions, I answer them. Didn't hear a peep from this guy. Ended up hving to text him to make sure he received the info (he said he's be on the road without access to email after a certain time). He addressed me by MY name (not the provider's name) and said he was fine, he knew how to get there and he knew to call the provider to get the room number when he arrived (I made certain of this). Around 10 after 11 I get this text saying that he's going to be late and did I want him to cancel. I asked "how late?" He said 15 minutes. I told him no, that 15 minutes late is okay and I would let the provider know.

Not sure what happened but he and the provider didn't end up getting into contact until almost noon when she called HIM to see what was going on. I guess he was just sitting in the parking lot, not too sure. He finally got up to her room and she gave him as much time as she could, but late check out WAS at 1 pm (I'm not sure what hotels give you until 3, but this is an upscale brand and they still only granted a 1 pm late checkout). Also, the hotel wasn't near any airport. It was actually in Oak Brook not far from 294. After speaking with her, I get the impression that he actually got most of his hour, save maybe 5-10 minutes at the end because the provider needed a few moments to clean up and dress herself before the inevitable rap on the door and shrill voice yipping "housekeeping" at 1.

IF he had just been 15 minutes late then there woud not have been an issue at all. HIS estimate of 15 minutes is why I said "no dont cancel" (not to mention the fact that we did everything possible to accommodate him that day and he asks about canceling 20 minutes prior to the appointment). REGARDLESS of what I said, it IS his decision if he wants/needs to cancel, ultimately. He did not.

I wasnt even made aware that there was a problem until I received an email saying that the provider kicked him out early but he still submitted a fantastic review, so "what, *insert my name here*, are we going to do about this?"

Ummmm...no. Homey don't play that. I have been in the business for years, and I stopped deaig with that kind of crap long ago. When I spoke with the provider about it, she wanted to give him a free appointment to "keep him happy". I told her it's ultimately her decision (I am her assistant and her friend, not her boss), but she does NOT need to do that for this guy, who clearly tried to manipulate the situation so he could get some free a** out of it. I told her that she ALWAYS does the best she can (she really does) and she is worth every penny of what she asks (which is actually not a lot for such a well-reviewed, gorgeous woman) and that she didn't do anything wrong.

The first thing that needs to be understood here is NO ONE is going to manipulate me or anyone I associate with with a review-related threat. I simply won't have it. It's total CRAP to do that, an abuse of "power" and honestly makes you start to wonder about the validity of some of the reviews. Guys know how TER reviews are very important to a provider's livelihood and some use this to get discounts, freebies, etc...we all know it goes on. The man that wrote the original post tried to get something for nothing and when it backfired, he came on the board to whine.

Sorry. The lady I schedule for is an exceptional person--she is not only beautiful, but smart, talented, and has a heart of gold. She is worth every penny of what she asks...and I will not allow anyone to make her feel like she owes them because she lacked in some way when she doesn't and didn't.

At the end of the day, I know that I do my best to do right by people. And, by golly, what this guy tried to do just was not right.

Okay, end of manifesto.

I want to thank all of you for your honest answers. I plead guilty to belng stupid. In retrospect I was late,and was wrong to try to blame both the provider and the assistant. I sincerely apoligise to the Chicago TER community and to the provider and her assistant . I am glad you all spoke freely and allowed me to learn some things.

I need to meet this girl!   50 minutes late, sees her for almost an hour, and then offered a free appointment??

If all you say is true, sounds like your friend ended up with a good review, so no harm.  At least he didn't give her name.  

The review threat works both ways too..  A provider can give a guy a black mark, even without doing it publically, with no way to pled your case.  Pretty sad when you have a better chance of getting your old shoes reviewed on EBAY more accurately than your body.

I enjoyed the manifesto.  PM your friend's page - she sounds like someone I should meet.

Apology accepted. Email me and we can probably work something out. I am not against compromising when the situation calls for it and neither is Abbie. It is important to me that she is always treated with respect and is given what she is worth. Your apology realy does speak volumes about your character, bagcity--thank you very much for that.