...to talk about when booking a session, especially when done over email? What kind of non-intercourse, but sex-related activities can safely/respectfully be brought up ahead of time without setting off alarm bells or possibly getting anyone in trouble? Is there a way of asking without asking? For instance, by saying, "I get really turned on when a woman does xxx", versus, "I want to do xxx with you"? Is asking for something as simple as a lapdance or striptease too much to say? The most I've ever talked about ahead of time is an outfit request.

I'm asking because I only get to hobby a few times a year, and recently only when traveling for work. Since I'm treating myself I often want to try things I've never done before (or may never do again). These might be things to easily discuss and arrange with a provider I'm seeing regularly, but no such provider exists. Showing up to a session with a new provider with a bunch of requests seems a recipe for disappointment. Is it OK to bring up these kinds of requests after verification but before the appointment? Does that change the provider's attitude? Of course, I would have already checked out the lady's reviews to see if what I'm looking for is even in the realm of possibility before bothering to go through verification.

So here's the ISO part of my post: I would like to have a session which starts with the afore-mentioned striptease then progresses into a slippery, shiny, messy, oiled-up romp a la the Oil Overload scenes (http://www.pornhub.com/video/search?search=oil+overload). The extra effort, setup, and clean up for this to take place definitely requires some prearranging. The woman in my fantasy would be fit with large, man-made breasts. The faker looking, the better. This would be an extended session. I don't see squeezing this into just an hour.

Also, what kind of oil are they using in these type of porn scenes? Massage oils and lubes aren't that shiny and tend to rub in too quickly, and from what I understand oil-based products such as baby oil don't mesh well with a lady's physiology and weaken latex condoms.

Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading. Feel free to PM with suggestions.

Not that there is anything wrong with the occasional salacious and sizzling email *wink wink*

But when its all said and done, If I am fulfilling your physical and mental needs online, then what else is there to lust after? What else can you look forward to in person? Just the touch?  

It's always great to keep the anticipation there. However - the emails, texts, and calls should not be the bulk of the session. Most talking, chatting, and moaning needs to be behind closed doors. Not keyboards.  

But, polite conversation is absolutely key prior to any special engagement! Please do tell the provider about your desires, needs, and wants, and please don't forget to ask her if she is fine to catering to your personal desires.  

Better yet, a great provider will ask of your likes, dislikes, and anything else that may tickle your fancy before the date! There are a lot of great ladies out there who love to make their lovers happy and satisfied.  

Also - As far as the body oil thing goes, it sounds like you are talking about NURU gel - It's great stuff! Never dries up, and has a very wet, "slimy" feeling. Kinda like silicone lube.

With Sweetness,  
- Brown Sugar Bab

I agree with the other replies here. If there's something you have to be explicit about, just ask, is it okay if I speak frankly? Or, can I be explicit so you know how to prepare for the session? Then after getting permission, use the words you need to use.

I would say don't ask about big fake breasts though (!) You should have that information from your research.

Have fun!