If your are black listed and you feel this was vindictive for no real reason by one person where do you go or how can you get rid of this. Especially when your side as a guy is not heard and you have a good rep with a lot of other providers

as long as your overall "body of work" is positive, I wouldn't let it bother me too much. I would be amazed if I don't have a BL or two from women I have never even met due to my big mouth on the boards. I do however have dozens of okays and a solid reputation from the women I have actually met. If I don't have problems booking dates, neither should the OP.

how does one know if they've been black listed? Where would one find this info?

just google your handle..i have had the honor of being falsely blacklisted several times..i have Aids and every imaginable STD known to man..the site is mostly made-up vindictive bullshit..

Depending on the BL site...simply google your handle, alias, phone, email, real name and then add "blacklist" to the search.

If you want to see if you're on private sites...create a fake provider account and join.  I wouldn't waste my money on that...but others seem to want to see what's out there.  Or you can just ask others who are paying members to see if you're on there.

I'm afraid that with the explosion of paranoia here that most folks (both sides) are on various sites for moronic reasons.  Don't be terribly concerned about it...most of this crap is pure nonsense.  As I said to Sage...the best methods today are to backchannel with those you trust.  

 

then this should not be an insurmountable obstacle.   You may want to disclose this false blacklisting to any new lady you wish to meet when first contacting her, and provide the names of those who can vouch for you before she even asks.    

When verifying clients, I occasionally stumble across some negative reports, but usually if it's just one I will still give him a chance.  And when that person does not do anything wrong with me, I will submit a positive report on him to balance out the negative.  

 

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Totally agree...