Thought I'd throw this out there for Chicagoland ladies and gents. I've noticed when sharing my real dreams and aspirations, hobbyists tend to believe in my ability to accomplish them a hell of a lot more than friends, family, etc. Here are a few reasons why I think this may be, your additions to the list would be appreciated too.

Possible reasons?
- Clients know I make money doing this; therefore, they know I have a means to pay the bills while I try. People who don't know I am an escort are thinking 'paycheck now'.
- They are already walking into the appointment in fantasy/grandiose mode, lol
- They want to believe it so they feel there's substance before them --- makes us more real to them
- They don't have to invest in me other than the scheduled time. My life and consequences thereafter are up to me to deal with.
- They're just being nice so I'll be good to them throughout the appointment.

Ladies, have you had similar experiences?  
Gents, do you have reasons behind this behavior? lol.  

It seems pretty consistent. I'm sure we could say very off the wall things and some would be convinced. (I have on the GD board, just to see, hahaha.)

xoxo

-- Modified on 12/13/2013 10:36:12 PM

Definitely any or all of the above (especially the last bullet!), felt at the same time by the same hobbyist...even us men can be complex creatures ya know ...plus I would add that a hobbyist, who hopefully does not have the same tight ass puritan attitude toward providers that the general public are told they have (yes I wrote that correctly), may believe that she can commit to and achieve a goal just like anyone else can, what does it matter what vocation she holds along the way?  Saying a provider can't be whatever she wants to be is like saying a punk jailed on a gun charge couldn't possibly become a famous actor...not that I'm drawing any parallel between gun possession and providing, but rather that non-mainstream (whatever the hell that means) beginnings can have great endings.

I don't have much experience with providers or other hobbyists to be honest, BUT here's another take.

I think anyone who has achieved success thinks anyone else can to providing they make the necessary commitment. Hell, I was a HS nightmare. Two years later I decided I was going to college. Everyone laughed. My mom thought it was a joke until I bought my books.

After college I up and moved 1300 miles away to Florida. Didn't know a sole. Everyone said I'd be running back. Instead I got a job with a little company that became a big company. Everyone thought the business would fail. Looking back the only reason it didn't was because we were too stupid to realize you couldn't build a 100m business on 4K and a credit card.

My point is, no matter who you are most people in your life have settled for the status quo and think you should to. It's safe, they think. But those who have succeeded know it can be done. And most would rather go down in flames trying than to settle for a life they don't want. And, personally, I would advise anyone, not just a hot provider like you, to never give up your dreams.

Rocker52

Hi Courtney,  
I think it's a bit of both. You most likely have a compelling, interesting story to tell and clients are taking you at your word and believing in what you are saying.  
For me, it's not just self serving. I find people to be interesting. I love hearing unfiltered dreams and ideas from people and this hobby can provide that when you get to know someone a bit. I enjoy hearing and seeing more of the real side of a woman. Not for any sort of advantage or benefit for me, but just because I enjoy hearing and learning from people.
Best,
Dav

Family and friends tend to be critical of everything we do, no matter how well we do it. Being in this hobby, we guys tend to root for girls to better themselves and hope the donations we're tossing in along the way are really making a difference in your lives. For some this is so, for others not but when you share your dreams (and yours are realistic and you have the talent to back them up), we see a way out of the escort life for you eventually. Some of us simply want you to hit your dreams and walk away from this life hopefully realizing that you met some men along the way who were actually good guys and who gave you positive reinforcement. We're not your family, we're not so critical of you, and when we see you working hard toward a real life, we feel like we're helping and that makes us feel better about ourselves.

Yeah, I know, we're just kidding ourselves, we are johns after all but not all johns are created equal. Some of us actually care about the ladies we see and hope to see them succeed in a real, fulfilling life.

I like to think of myself as the best supporting character of a few lives.

Than again many guys want to get a good romp and get out of there.  One of the best ways to accomplish that is to go along with whatever the escort is spewing out.  I think most escorts would have the same philosophy when listening to what their clients have to say.

   I think the bullshit talk and wacky dreams  are pretty deep on both sides of the fence

I don't see any value in trying to dissuade people from their hopes and aspirations, and in many cases, people I know have accomplished stuff that I never believed they would. The truth is, the only thing I know is that I don't know.

I hope that by being patient, kind and funny with people they will be with me as well. And fuck my brains out.

I figure if you have enough courage to be a provider, you probably have enough courage to pursue your dreams whatever they may be.

I find this to be true, and it is really sweet and lovely when a client agrees; It does take some courage to be able to do this. I also agree that most clients don't have the shitty Puritan attitude or regular society's stigma against us and are capable of seeing us as individual entities and humans capable of dreams and aspirations, unlike the generalized population as a whole who seems to think we are all abused, victimized women trapped in the industry, pimped and incapable of free thought, with no personal agency because oh, the horror (or the whore-er) who would choose such a job (this is largely due to the media frenzy around 2nd wave feminist bullshit and trafficking hysteria which is totally over blown out of proportion)? Because I love what I do and am lucky enough to have a wonderful group of friends and family around me I am able to be 'out' about my chosen profession and about what I want for the future, and they are supportive as well, but my clients are the ones who always believe in me the most.

I think the number one reason guys believe in us so much is because they don't know us. Your family knows you're lazy, or didn't finish college, or quit like six jobs in a row that one time (all for good reeeeason), but he doesn't. The image we portray is one of perfection, how is he to know how you don't live up to that image in real life?  

But, that is the beauty of it. They don't know, and their positivity is sometimes all we need. Friends and family sometimes get caught up in the past, but he's only aware of what's happening right now. Maybe you're not lazy, you just have a particular set of skills that isn't appreciated by those around you. Maybe those six jobs in a row really were the worst. Maybe you didn't finish college because you had other things you needed to take care of. The unsupportive people who know you don't tend to recognize the reasons behind the failure, just the fact that it happened. Clients don't know the back story, so they're more likely to say "pick up and move on" than harp on the past.  

And that's another thing I've noticed about our clients. They pick up, and they move the fuck on. I have heard some real doozies, and the common denominator was that they said "well damn", and moved on with life. They didn't say to themselves "ill never be successful again", they didn't wallow in self pity, they didn't shut up and accept that they would be working at McDonald's for the rest of their lives. They moved on to the next thing that they could do well. When you have this attitude, and you have the life experience to back it up, it's easy to believe in others the way you believe in yourself. Anyone can succeed, you just have to have the gumption to push through and keep going until you get there.

well said. show yourself along with your wisdom sometime. no reason to hide behind an alias for a great post like this