Seen a lady on ter that interest me.  Would love traveling to Greece while together.  Never have with a provider before.   Is that something that usually takes place on a revisit?  Whats the best way to ask without having your intial call ended.  

Thanks

Of all the things a girl might do, this is the one that is really, truly, an "it depends" type of thing. You can talk about it all day and night, I can prepare as much as possible, but there are a ton of reasons why, when the time comes, it just might not be a good ass day.  

Physical stuff going on with her, you just can't help. Sometimes we can't even help it!  But, maybe I can help you with the part that you can control  

I can usually tell from the first time a guy and I hook up whether or not I want to ever go there with him, just from the way he behaves himself. Guys who just don't seem very in tune with me and my body don't usually get to experience this because, well, it's great that they're excited, but they're going to hurt me. Guys who seem like that's the main reason they're with me don't usually get to either because, again, the guys who act like this are the guys who are most likely to hurt me. Sure, maybe there's a guy out there that will turn into a super gentle love muffin once we get to the butt, but that has not been my experience, and baby I used to WORK, LOL!

Oh, and dry fingers... fingers are amazing, such useful and versatile things, but a dry finger repeatedly shoved up there is going to, you guessed it, hurt. And even if I wanted to, I would already be too sore. Many a rendezvous has been ruined this way  Lube, lube, and more lube are *your* friends in this situation. That and female condoms, ha!

I have to be honest, one of the best ways to accomplish this is to just make the girl feel comfortable. It is a muscle, and one that we can't totally voluntarily control, so we do have to be somewhat relaxed and trust you at least a little bit to "get 'er done". Kind of like the rest of the fun stuff, the guy who makes me feel like he's happy to be there, I mean just to be there, is the one who makes me want to swing from the chandeliers. If I can feel comfortable and sexy, I will want to do more for you, and my body will be more likely to be able to follow through. I know it's not really about us, but hey, even we are a smidge human sometimes ;-p  

And once you have been granted access to the holy kingdom of the bootay, just be gentle. It has to start out a lot slower than even I realize most times (see why the excited guys and I don't mix well? lol), and it's almost like you have to just tease it in until she's all the way ready. I find that if the guy does that... slow, gentle, and not very deep while I relax around him, I'm ready for a railing much much faster, and can go a lot longer. I've tried to rush it before, and it just ends up with me having to stop before even I get off, which is not an appropriate excuse for a trip to bummertown.

No one can guarantee that it's going to happen TODAY, but if you've expressed an interest, and you come across as the kind of guy the lady can trust to be gentle, she will remember. We like making ya happy  

Charlotte's butt pirate PSA of the day :-

and not that much fun honestly.  Feels nothing like a women's other spot.

Thank you! Men's fascination with the butt cracks me up. Whatever someone prefers is fine but somes fascination about it to me, is just too funny. I love rubbing the area though on an extreeeeeeemely clean lady but that's it.

And why in the living hell would a man not be able to control his aggression with a woman in such situations. Retards. It just screams.......Juvenile, I don't get laid enough or I have no respect for women and want to feel dominate.

Beautifully put, Charlie.

I have only experienced it once and that was when she was in total control and impaled herself on me. It was part of the package deal and I really didn't even know until it was happening. It didn't feel any different at all once the movement began. The entry was a bit snug but after that, no difference that I could tell. I have never asked for that service and will never ask for it. Well maybe when I'm old and crazy and living in a nursing home but with my luck I'll be the recipient from Bubba the orderly instead of giving it to nurse Cratchet. Yeah it sucks to be old sometimes.

From all the hype and talk, you'd think it was the second coming.  (small joke, sorry)  I had a very wonderful provider take me on a tour of the Greek islands recently and it was nice and different and exotic, but didn't compare to her regular.  Of course, she is a super-tight, very fit girl up front, too.  I asked her if she just tolerated anal or enjoyed it.  She said no, she loved it.  Huh.
All I can make out of the preoccupation with anal is that for guys, is the dominating of the woman that they want.  I can certainly see why a girl would want to be very selective about who has the keys to the back door.  It's easy for her to get hurt back there.  Maybe girls that love anal have a little sub in them?

Excellent answer! There is really nothing more that I could even think of to add. This Charlie is one smart girl ...

Different strokes for different strokes. I love pretty much everything butt related - touching, licking and penetration - both giving and receiving. Gentleman - having a woman insert a nice butt plug and stimulating your prostrate, you don't really know what an orgasm can be.

Of course, YMMV, but it takes some practice for anyone to get comfortable. It's not a stick it in without lube and go gig. And obviously your mileage may vary. But I had a session last week with a provider who enjoys it. After about 10 minutes of lazy doggie anal, she had left the largest wet spot I have ever seen in person. But it's only for those who enjoy it and requires good safe sex practices. Plus, there occasionally can be "stuff". But we all do it, even gorgeous women :

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Thanks for taking time to answer in detail.  Responses like this helps everyone.  Even those who know it all...lol  THANKS AGAIN!!

Thanks to everyone for the convesation.  Really a lot of insight and help.  You guys and ladies are great!

For me, it actually is "all about you".

Sean

I learned a long time ago that I get much more pleasure if my partner is having a good time. So if I need to make you feel "comfortable and sexy" (Which really should not be an issue! Yowsa!) and take it "slow, gentle, and not very deep while I relax around him" to make it enjoyable for you, then I don't have a problem with that. And I'm totally willing to receive as well if that blows your dress up.

This is supposed to be FUN, d**n it!