Carolinas
Wow that's crazy!!
Probally in my case I would steer clear. I don't have the risk tolerance some of the single guys here have. If ya don't mind PM me if ya don't mind as to who the lady is. Last thing I need is drama.
A gentleman on another board received an email from a guy claiming to be a providers husband, who he has seen or was planning to see. The email suggested if he didn't stay away he would call the cops and personally search him out.
This kind of drama isn't good for the hobby, so what would be a course of action? The obvious thing to me is to stay away from the lady until this is all sorted out but is that fair to her? I know she is relatively new to the hobby and at least one Carolina guy has seen her. I do not know if he received the same email, since he is away on vaca.
Probally in my case I would steer clear. I don't have the risk tolerance some of the single guys here have. If ya don't mind PM me if ya don't mind as to who the lady is. Last thing I need is drama.
First off, how sure is he that this is the providers husband? Where did the e-mail come from? Her account or a different account? Is it his hobby account or his real account? How much does he have to lose if all hell breaks loose? What's this guy gonna report to the cops that can't be denied? How's he gonna "search him out"? Is the guy reporting this reliable or just stirring the pot?
Too many questions are unanswered and the information is vague.
If it's true and he feels its a viable threat then he should take whatever steps are necessary to protect himself. Personally, I'd at least let the lady know I had received a threat so she could take whatever steps she felt was necessary. Burnable e-mail addresses are free and it just might save her some major problems.
Hi Guys!
Sadly some providers do not close the doors to their "other" or "previous" life and thus jerks like these get their info and BOOM... All Hell Breaks Loose!
I do know of a provider who had a horrid time with an ex getting into her accounts, accounts she was managing screenings for other providers as well as getting the phone nos and emails addresses to clients.
He later stalked her on appointments because she did not know he had accessed her accounts and knew where she was meeting.
It is a MUST that YOU GUYS SCREEN US JUST AS WELL AS WE SCREEN YALL!!!
If you have to ask or second guess a situation.. DO NOT GO THROUGH WITH IT!!!
DFKisses,
Sloan
but I have run like hell after researching or "screening" some too. I have even left appointments because it just didn't feel right......still left the roses.......but got out of dodge none-the-less.
If it doesn't feel right, why do it?
It is a tough situation but I think this is about all you can do to make people aware. I think it is up to this guy or any others who actually got the email to call anyone out specifically, which is what he did on the other board. I don't know if he is a member here. I think you did right bringing it up. PM is the place for specifics.
First off, the husband has NO business contacting the hobbyist! AT ALL!! His "issue" is with his "wife" What reasons a "married" woman has for doing things like this while she is married is just TOTALLY beyond me!!! Unless it is a mutual agreement between her and her husband! This kind of drama DEFINETLY isn't good for the hobby. Just reminds you that you cant control the ignorance and carelessness of others! I would MOST DEFINETLY STAY AWAY FROM THIS GIRL!!!!!
If she received a text from a wife of a hobbyist with the same threats, what do you think she would do? Not see you that's for sure. Unless you want to show up on some attorneys list to depose I suggest you stay away. Trust me, I know. Doesn't matter that the husband approved of her business afore time, Things get nasty when money and attorneys get involved.
Another option no one has mentioned yet is could this email have originated from another party or provider who used to have a working relationship with the provider and they had a falling out? I personally know a provider who terminated her relationship with a booking agent who then attacked her character, called LE, etc. trying to sabotage her reputation and business relationships by claiming she was on drugs, stole, etc.
Brando, I was on that path. Maybe even an extremely infatuated client stalking her because he wants her all to himself.
To credit the op, the provider in question has dropped her website so the husband issue very well could be the culprit.
I Don't have the worries of an SO. If I got an email like that, depending on the provider, it might encourage me to accept the challenge and go for that one last roll in the sheets hoping the hubby shows up...would be like a cheesy porn plot! LOL
On a serious note, I agree there is no place for that kind of drama here.
Case says he doesn't "have the risk tolerance" --- Amen to that brother !!
Sloan says "YOU GUYS SCREEN US JUST AS WELL AS WE SCREEN YALL" Amen to that sister !!
Hobbywood is supposed to be fun and gets you away from the real world everyday B.S.
IMHO -- If and when any kind of drama gets involved, it's time to remove yourself from that situation since in reality the choices and decisions you make are the ONLY thing you can control.
Here's to a great week everyone !!!
All previous posts are spot on, stay away and don't expose yourself to the drama and potential major issues.
Besides there are so many fantastic, no drama Carolina ladies to choose from, so there's no need to pursue this scenario.
Happy hobbying everyone and stay safe ladies and gents.
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