So, I am new to the NC area, and I know the market is different here, and I respect and appreciate change. However, where I came from and when traveling it seemed that everyone knew the typical protocol... However, here lately, when I do things my way and with my rules... It seems foreign to the gents... They don't seem to understand my ways or how I do things for safety... All my friends have always done things the way I do.. Heck, I even remember back in the day when people had gents call from pay phones... anyway-- isn't it pretty normal for gents to do a two call system...? That they get to a certain location and then call for the actual room or number to get to... Some girls may give the address of an adjacent building or they will give the hotel and then you call when there for room number or they give building number and you call then for actual condo number etc. That way also a different address is in the GPS incase they forget to delete that.  

Quite a few gents think the girl should email the address to them, and want it upfront.. I worry, about the paper trail, and I also worry, about the email being hacked into and a wife or SO getting it and showing up.. Or some other crazy story...

I knew a gent in the DC area, and I had known him for several years.. We had become good friends and he was going to come visit me one weekend when the wife was out of town. So, he asked me to send my address as I was an hour outside of DC and we normally met at hotels close to his work. This time we were going to have lunch and hang out. I emailed him, and guess what he printed out the email with the address and my phone number and took his wife's vehicle, and then yes, you got it, he left it in the car for her to find... So, now, I steer the gents to a Starbuck's, or an office park, or some other place where there would seem to be an office meeting. I get them very close and then walk them through for the first time if need be so nothing needs to be written down.. Thank goodness nothing came of it and he was quick on his feet with a story. However, I felt that could of been avoided if I had stuck to my rules and not given in with knowing the person well.  

I think about the discretion on both sides the ladies and the gents and ways for us to keep safe...  

I would not want a guy to do something without thinking and end up having to try and explain or in trouble so I try to minimize anything that could go wrong... when one may forget to close an email, slip up in anyway.. Any thoughts on others on what you think it best or most efficient or a way that everyone feels comfortable for a first time gent... or the first time seeing a new lady and going to see her til you know where she may be...  

As, what seems normal to me, and most respect and understand a few I guess don't seem to get it. They don't understand the way things are done... I have been told I am one of the few that does this, that nobody else here does, and that nobody screens or asks for info. Which I know to be different and wrong too, as the friends I know are very safety conscious.  

Well, anyway-- I know certain things raises red flags, but what is most convent for you gents. To get close and have something to put in GPS and then be almost there?  

Just I know the one thing constant in life is change and well, we all have to adapt to the new times etc. Just all a learning thing as everyone is different.  

Thanks again all in advance...  

I would hate to piss anyone off or get them frustrated on getting together as we are to be making things about destressing and happy... no drama or trouble and an escape from life's realities...  

I was just wondering when seeing a new lady even though you have seen other's is what I am asking out of the ordinary?  

xoxo  

I just don't feel comfortable doing things other than how I always have... I have my reasons... They have worked and I don't see changing them, just because of some complaints. I would think most gents understand and value discretion and privacy... Do most ladies just email the location?  

Thanks for letting me vent and any help you guys have for input.. Things do seem different here in NC. But, It is all good...

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Stay with the two call... thats the norm...chances are that if they want the exact location and room # then they are just trying to survey the scene and you first before they commit... but stick to your guns and stay with the two call...my 2 cents

I learned to always do things my way as my way works best for ME! te he he

My system is very similar to yours. I will give a location about 3 miles from my regular incall and 10mins before we meet they are to call me and I then guide them to my place as to never give my direct address out.  

I have NEVER had trouble or any Gents give me problems with this.  

I have however had many Gents tell me that they have never been screened so thoroughly. There are a few that I have met who had previously met upscale Charlotte providers who they said barely screened them. I was very surprised especially when they were named. I do not take chances like that! EVER!  

I hope that you enjoy the Carolinas & Meet ALL the Great Gentlemen that we have and that visit us!!  

xoxo
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I am in Jax but I travel in and around your area.  Your system is very similar to mine.  I see no reason why anyone should have an issue with your system!  Good luck!

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The ladies should have ways to protect themselves. I see nothing wrong with your methods.

I'd be nervous if she sent the actual location up front. I'd be fearful of having a paper trail, especially now with all the news recently about the NSA reading e-mails. Heck, this is why I prefer not to call from my cell phone if at all possible, and not use text either unless it's through my virtual texting app that allows me to change the number at the drop of a hat if I need to

I just had someone get all pissy and cancel their appt. due to my rules and ways and get an attitude, and say I am wasting his time with me having him go to a place and then walk him through. I agree, have to protect ourselves and also I told him it was for his safety to not have the paper trail. Good to know it is appreciated by others that we do look out for them, and they are understanding of us being careful. Thank for all the comments and inputs and good and useful info. Good to know... Thanks so much... I didn't think I was being unreasonable and better safe than sorry. If someone gets angry over that, then I don't want that type of client anyway. We all need to look out for each other. Be safe everyone and always go with your gut and protect yourself... Listen to the red flags. xoxo