So, I am new to the NC area, and I know the market is different here, and I respect and appreciate change. However, where I came from and when traveling it seemed that everyone knew the typical protocol... However, here lately, when I do things my way and with my rules... It seems foreign to the gents... They don't seem to understand my ways or how I do things for safety... All my friends have always done things the way I do.. Heck, I even remember back in the day when people had gents call from pay phones... anyway-- isn't it pretty normal for gents to do a two call system...? That they get to a certain location and then call for the actual room or number to get to... Some girls may give the address of an adjacent building or they will give the hotel and then you call when there for room number or they give building number and you call then for actual condo number etc. That way also a different address is in the GPS incase they forget to delete that.  

Quite a few gents think the girl should email the address to them, and want it upfront.. I worry, about the paper trail, and I also worry, about the email being hacked into and a wife or SO getting it and showing up.. Or some other crazy story...

I knew a gent in the DC area, and I had known him for several years.. We had become good friends and he was going to come visit me one weekend when the wife was out of town. So, he asked me to send my address as I was an hour outside of DC and we normally met at hotels close to his work. This time we were going to have lunch and hang out. I emailed him, and guess what he printed out the email with the address and my phone number and took his wife's vehicle, and then yes, you got it, he left it in the car for her to find... So, now, I steer the gents to a Starbuck's, or an office park, or some other place where there would seem to be an office meeting. I get them very close and then walk them through for the first time if need be so nothing needs to be written down.. Thank goodness nothing came of it and he was quick on his feet with a story. However, I felt that could of been avoided if I had stuck to my rules and not given in with knowing the person well.  

I think about the discretion on both sides the ladies and the gents and ways for us to keep safe...  

I would not want a guy to do something without thinking and end up having to try and explain or in trouble so I try to minimize anything that could go wrong... when one may forget to close an email, slip up in anyway.. Any thoughts on others on what you think it best or most efficient or a way that everyone feels comfortable for a first time gent... or the first time seeing a new lady and going to see her til you know where she may be...  

As, what seems normal to me, and most respect and understand a few I guess don't seem to get it. They don't understand the way things are done... I have been told I am one of the few that does this, that nobody else here does, and that nobody screens or asks for info. Which I know to be different and wrong too, as the friends I know are very safety conscious.  

Well, anyway-- I know certain things raises red flags, but what is most convent for you gents. To get close and have something to put in GPS and then be almost there?  

Just I know the one thing constant in life is change and well, we all have to adapt to the new times etc. Just all a learning thing as everyone is different.  

Thanks again all in advance...  

I would hate to piss anyone off or get them frustrated on getting together as we are to be making things about destressing and happy... no drama or trouble and an escape from life's realities...  

I was just wondering when seeing a new lady even though you have seen other's is what I am asking out of the ordinary?  

xoxo  

I just don't feel comfortable doing things other than how I always have... I have my reasons... They have worked and I don't see changing them, just because of some complaints. I would think most gents understand and value discretion and privacy... Do most ladies just email the location?  

Thanks for letting me vent and any help you guys have for input.. Things do seem different here in NC. But, It is all good...

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