It happened twice recently and I am not exactly a newbie. After talking to a provide and taking appointment, I drive all the way to Raleigh. They ask me to give a call when I am in the area where they stay to get the address of hotel. First one said she is going to dinner and asked me to call 30 mins later. She gave the address of hotel. I called her 5 or 6 times later from the parking and she never answered the phone. The second girl said she is busy and cancelled the appointment.
What am I doing wrong to make them suspicious or whatever??? Or does this happen to others too?

Are you seeing reviewed providers?? Are you asking or mentioning anything you shouldn't when you call??

If you are just grabbing women off backpage or any site and not researching them and seeing that they are reviewed then you can not expect much. Also..if these are women who advertise on any known boards...call them out on it...put it on the boards so they can not cotinue to do it.

Good luck!
Addison

Doing your homework can save you time and money.  Also in most cases if sounds TGTBT then probably is.  Happy Hobbying and I hope things get better for you dear.

Em

they may have saved you some money, if there going to flake out on you they might not be worth your time. On the other hand, the other posts are right on doing your homework. Where these well known Raleigh providers?

A common practice with unreviewed fly-by-night girls is to take more appointments than they can meet, then serve whoever shows up. If other appts. call from the area, they make excuses to try to stall them until they can rush the first guy out the door. Which simply underscores the previous replies to your post.

It happened to me once recently. And yes, I did my homework.  I set up the appt. several days in advance, called and emailed to verify twice the day before.  She said yes and gave me location and told me to call when I got there the next day.  I arrived on time and called as directed and she told me since I had not called her that morning we wouldn't be meeting. WTF,  I had been diligent in staying in touch and followed her direction and requests perfectly.  I had set aside time and driven to see her.  I let her have it for her unprofessionalism and she was cavalier about the whole event.  Second, I think you should do what I did and write a review of what happened and EXPOSE her on the boards.  Just plain tacky and unprofessional.  I obviously would NEVER attempt to see her again and I will do everything in my power to let other know to stay away.  In my opinion, there is NO EXCUSE for that kind of behavior.

This is the main reason I hobby close to home.

And Secondly, Everyone is human and everyone makes mistakes; however doing your homework will greatly reduce the liklihood of it happening.  I never said completely eliminate it.  I have myself flaked on occassion as have many gentleman  Shit happens; however I generally try to make it up in some form or fashion.  You sound like you need a drink to cool off.  I understand your frustration but holding on the that kind of anger may make for a bad experience the next time around.

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Sorry this Happen to you, as stated before there are some girls who will Double book and end up
Screwing someone off... some ppl Don't have consideration of ones Time..

But it goes both ways.. as of lately, I been having gents book Apps confirm and when the time comes
They don't show...  What Bothers me the most is that They don't even bother to call and cancel, let me know they are not going to make it.

I Value my Clients Time,I know everyone has a personal life and sometimes things Happen..
You would think they would do the same in return.

But Hopefully you don't have to go thru it again.

Good Luck next time


Arlette

You are gracious to try and make it up.  I never stated that you or anyone was trying to make an excuse. Just stating my opinion and facts.  I know things happen and can sometimes not be helped. But to confirm, re-confirm and put in all the effort only to meet and then not even get a call, text, email, etc.  Just tacky.  And I don't need a drink to cool off as I am not angry.  I was not happy when it occurred but got over it quickly.  I will not forget it though and have found out from others that this has since happened to them.  So I will make sure the provider is noted for her actions and lack of courtesy.  All your really have is your reputation and a bad one will catch up with you quickly.

Yes, I do my homework and I mostly try to see TER reviewed girls. They both were touring girls visiting Raleigh and  had reviews too( ID: 166459 is the first one).

Hey Chrisboy1, there is homework and then there is homework.

I am not going to be critical and my only aim to to be helpful to you.

In my experience I have on one hand can recall experiences I missed out on or regret.

First of all one review, might have to take an absolute pass on that. She and the reviewer might be from West Virginia and brother and sister!!!!!!!  YIKES!!!!!

Backpage, most circumstances have to take a pass on that. Also who reviewed her? A gal that has stellar reviews from experiences hobbyists, important clue there. I got a couple of hobby buddies and if they see a gal and write a stellar review tha gal is too legit to , ah whatever, I can't talk like that I am just an old country boy but you probably most likely get the point. Where I am from it is better to say,
"that dog can hunt"! Turn around KISS myself! Who sang that???? hehe

If a woman, provider if you want, does not have her own website, cause to put an experience with her
on the backburner, maybe, but a factor to consider. This is only in some cases a gal I visited with recently did not have her own website and is a female ALL STAR in every way. She did have multiple stellar reviews and they were all dead on if they said she was GREAT GREAT GREAT, mine did!!!!!

I have friends who have indulged in the hobby a few times and they forged ahead without asking me to maybe steer them in a direction. Oh well! If I got what they did I would not hobby anymore either!

I can promise the Hobby is like everything else, some can, some can't, some shouldn't.

There have been for me and I can only speak for myself some of the greatest experiences I have ever had toiling around in the hobby.

I will say one of the bad times, probably the worst was a gal in Vegas I spent more to see than any other gal I have seen. I mean her stated rate. I have seen a couple of gals over and over and for good, no great reasons. A couple I would give my right and left arm, my legs, hell all of me to see again but sometimes it isn't possible for various reasons. I will say my respect and admiration for those I am not going to see anymore has not faded. Just sometimes that is just the way it is. Nuff said. My point is what is available and what one can get is a gap farther across than the Grand Canyon.

Mindblowing, unbelievable, not able to put words to experiences are out there. I can think of 10 of the amazing women I have spent time with that fit the bill. If I want to spend time doing that tonight instead of watching American Idol and Law and Order SVU I can think of a gaggle more. Enough of that or I am gonna have to take matters in my own hand and would really rather not tonight! Too much good tv to enjoy for that tonight let me tell ya!

Then there are the few I wished I hadn't. Not many. The feeling of wishing I hadn't is so vivid in my mind I am very careful before deciding to take a plunge.

One thing I did kind of early on was develop some friendships with some of the guys in the hobby. We would share gals that knocked our socks off and those we would not see again.  Most times that knowledge proved very valuable.

Heck I am just a working stiff and work very hard for my money! Too hard to waste on experiences all I can do is regret.

Anyway, multiple stellar reviews, in some but not all a website, advertising on the better places and maybe a friend in the hobby or two that have seen the provider and you most likely can't go wrong.

Bottom line like another song says, "Sometimes you are the windshield and sometimes you are the bug".

I am saying this cause all the homework in the world can't stop once in awhile catching a great gal on a bad day and once in awhile catching a bad gal on a great day! It is all a crapshoot but there are some FANTASTIC gals out there willing to share themselves with us for a little while. When it clicks it is a priceless memory. Take the time to find them and you can be richly rewarded, or just go it alone and get what you get.

Anyone but me know who sang those words? Ok I am older but hey she did have a few great songs!!!  hehe

There are some real All-Stars in and around the Raleigh area. I mean ALL STARS! Here in Charlotte too! One just has to know how to be patient and stay calm till the right one comes along for the next experience.

You ever heard the story about the old bull and the young bull? Lets tippy toe down there and get um all works better than rushing it. Promise.

Anyway, told you I was not intending to be critical and hope I have not been. Much repsect to the ladies out there, thank goodness you are willing to share yourself for periods of time or all I would be doing is watching TV! Hey I love tv but a little female distraction is always a great thing!

Ok enough just hope you are more able to find what you are looking for. Just know GREAT is always there and willing to spend time with you and so is LOUSY! Your choice!

Shifterp OUT

two minutes checking out that TER ID should have told you to stay away. She had only one review and it was bad. The rating was mediocre, but the details described her halfheartedly providing only the most basic service. It should be no surprise that a touring girl with nothing more than that to recommend her would waste your time. Doing your homework means looking beyond the BP glamor pics, and finding a provider with at least a few credible, positive reviews. I hope you can benefit from your experience, and apply the advice you've received here next time around.