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waterboy55 4 Reviews 565 reads

posted 12 years ago

1 / 10

How far out do you book?

First, I am a real planner and mostly hobby when I travel. I occasionally do play about 1 1/2 hours from me, as I can make that a day trip. No hobby action in my area, it's big time Podunk. My travel dates I tend to book as far as 2 months out, as I like to get what I want. More local, about 7-10 days, when I know I can get away for a good part of the day.

Last week I booked a date at the beginning of the week for Friday, unaware that my secretary had scheduled a important meeting for that morning. I had to cancel with plenty of notice. I rescheduled for 9 days out, only to have to cancel again today, for a Thursday date, because of a possible security issue at home. I always play safe, no chances. Now, she won't respond to me at all, probably thinking I am a tire kicker. Things happen, especially when I tend to book in advance.

My question is, how far is reasonable for you ladies? The further out, the more chance of some problem coming up. What's the answer here? Head to the backpage 1 hour notice ladies? Please help, I don't want to make any Lady angry for having to do that

breannabreeze See my TER Reviews 583 reads

posted 12 years ago

2 / 10

I may be in the minority...

But I prefer no longer than a couple of days notice. I like my schedule to be flexible and it's a real downer when someone schedules a date far out in advance and I work my schedule around it and then they cancel. Not to mention I have a mother with health problems and siblings that need to be taken care of when ever the need arises.

waterboy55 4 Reviews 351 reads

posted 12 years ago

3 / 10

Re: I have an overnight scheduled for June

It was helpful, thanks. I guess the answer is to only book when I travel, as I have almost no chance of my plans changing. More hours for the out of town ladies!

Posted By: JuliasLilSecret

but this person has a flight booked to come here so the chances of cancellation are very slim.

Now, I have seen you a couple of times, and when I have met with you it has been during an event that you would not likely cancel, so I feel pretty comfortable when I hold time for you. However, if we had not met and you cancelled a meeting twice, even with notice, I would not likely hold time for you again.

I realize that many people consider meeting with a lady to be an extra curricular activity, maybe like meeting up for beers after work with the guys, and if something else comes up they don't think much of cancelling. But for some of the ladies, including myself, keeping a stable schedule is very important and we will stop setting aside time for friends who have a higher risk of cancellation. I've had to stop reserving time for people I really, really enjoy only because their schedules are unreliable and they have cancelled too many times. Sure, work and home take priority, but I have very limited availability so I need it to be utilized in the most efficient way possible, which is with friends who I can depend on.

I know you're a good person, but try to look at it from a lady's perspective. She may love her "job" more than anything in the world, but she needs to have reliable "work" and you are not giving the impression that you will be a good risk for her to take. She will not want to block her schedule, maybe pay for a room, spend time getting herself ready and setting the mood, and maybe arrange child care, only for you to possibly no show her. We have to weigh risk vs. reward much of the time with what we do.

Anyhow, be well, my friend, and I hope this was a little helpful!

It was helpful, thanks. I guess the answer is to only book when I travel, as I have almost no chance of my plans changing. More hours for the out of town ladies!

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SouthernGent51 10 Reviews 355 reads

posted 12 years ago

4 / 10

Scheduling

I'm like you and like to plan ahead by several weeks when possible, but will settle for a few days.

I can remember being in Raleigh last year for a business trip and a long scheduled appointment when I received call that a family member had passed. I called the well-reviewed lady to apologize and explain what had happened and that I had to return home. I ended up getting cussed out by the lady. Gotta admit a "little" understanding goes a long way in defining the real personality.

Another trip is scheduled soon, and connections started about 6-8 weeks early. Appointment is set, and truly looking forward to it

cocktail-party 332 reads

posted 12 years ago

5 / 10

If you still really want to see her, offer a deposit. Eom

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seductivesloan See my TER Reviews 452 reads

posted 12 years ago

6 / 10

Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance

So I guess it just depends on the individuals and how organized they are.

I have a friend who visits Columbia on business and plans his next quarterly visit during our current visit which is fine because I can plan to be in town on those dates the following Qtr. Although he has had to cancel once, he gave as much notice as his company provided to him so I could open those dates. These are some of the risks we take I guess.

I prefer a week or two out so that I have a good grip on my next weeks plans because I have obligations to my mother and bands. But I am sometimes available on same day notice. It just depends on what is going on.

When I know that I am going to be out of town for travel or the bands activities then I advertise as far in advance as I know so again, I have plenty of time to work around all schedules. I am headed to Florida in August and then on a cruise so I have advertised for those cities & ports since I booked the trip. It's nice to build friendships/relationships with both hobbyists as well as providers over the next few months and then meet in person.
I find it exhilarating anyway!

Happy Single Tasking Day!
Sloan