How does one assure a provider when I seldom go out to play. With the leaving of SBR and apparent closing of CF I have no references and no employer. Help please.

It will take you a long way if you are willing to show some initiative, by offering personal info and verifying it by sending a scanned copy of your drivers license after the provider accepts this of course and then if it was me, I would want to do a brief phone call before we meet. Most providers would understand I think. The more open you are about yourself, the more likely the provider will see you.

had not thought of the dl thing. Number too?  She is well reviewed on here but the id theft thing if someone else gets it from her. I am humbled that you would reply, really!

A lot of guys wish not to share personal info. Here is what you do to get started.

THEN you can see Julia after you see that provider.

You may want to join P411 or Date Check. But you'll be giving the necessary info needed by them to verify you. That will give you some "cred" but most ladies don't think it's be all end all as far as screening goes...but it does help!

Do your research here on TER, if you aren't a VIP, become one asap. Even though you have no reviews, your handle will still show up in a search by a lady. And it will allow you to check out ladies and their reviews. It can really help you in finding the type of you feel will be a good match for you!

After researching some ladies you are interested in here, drop an email your top 3 choices and ask them if they are newbie friendly and if so, what info will they require from you to feel comfortable, since you have no references. I know it might make you a tad nervous but you have to give a little if you wanted to get a little, lol! If you have no luck with your top 3, don't get discouraged, just pick out 3 more, rinse and repeat, lol.

Consider post on the ISO Board that you are looking for a newbie friendly lady in the Carolinas. Be specific you where you are based or travel to.

Be wary of Back Page girls, UNLESS they have several reviews here on TER. There are a FEW ladies on Back Page that are legit but they are few and far between. Tread carefully there.

Do everything possible to insure a lady is comfortable because she may be nervous as well since you have no references. Make sure all communication is polite and respectful, as well as any phone conversations.

I don't know who you saw with SBR but some of those ladies are now indies. If you recognize them here or on other sites like Eros, reach out to them, asking if they remember you, You may have to jog their memory since SBR didn't give them your full name. If one of these ladies remembers you see her again asap ask them if you can use them as a reference and write a review.

Go to the Newbie Board read and participate. Participate here on the Carolinas board as well. A lady can get an initial feeling about you by your board posts.

You can get thru this with these suggestions. Be honest with the ladies, it will come back to you ten fold.

Happy 2014

xoxo,

Steph

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and we both know who you meant, 'K? You weren't speaking about what some have on their websites about DLs and we both know it so why so just stop with the it could have been someone else you meant lol.

Happy New Year "Julia".

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Had just started with the hobby last year but then work exploded and I couldn't spare the attention/energy for over a year.  When the dust settled I was ready to play but had no recent activity.  Even my p411 account had expired without making any contacts on it.  Even on the TER boards I barely posted at all.

Several years ago a lil lady that I had finally found myself living within a mile of her home and I made a date.
Then, she disappeared for months---until she contacts me and, being the forgiving soul that I am, was glad to reschedule. During our get acquainted period, I found out to my horror what had happened!  

It is amazing and humbling that ladies I would like to see are encouraging me,, lil ol m Thank you all. no joke thanks.

You have to provide specific information and pay for those sites to get verified.  That's if you feel more comfortable providing those two companies your information instead of a provider.

Safety and mutual consent both ways, always. 2

MatureGFE, thank you so much for your input!  It certainly seems logical, and between your encouragement,  the idea of offering a copy of a dl and a phone call verification, and other's testimonies that P411 is discreet, I feel most excited about meeting most of the lovely ladies I see here on TER.  Again, thank you so much!

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OK, go ahead and laugh, but I'm a newbie.  What are those acronyms?  Thank you.

SBR is an agency. They used to go by Sexy By Raven, now they are "the assistants". Meaning they assist you as the hobbyist, but don't do shit for the girls who pay their rent on literally a weekly basis. They are huge, and LE is specifically targeting them with some recent legislation. I would avoid.  

I googled for "the assistants" and did not find anything relevant. Do you have any additional info? I'm particularly interested to know if one of their (SBR) girls is still around. She was advertised as Dalila Fuentez. Thanks.