Happy Hot Saturday:

Im curious if any of the ladies in the carolinas ever meet each other? Of course I know there has to be some level of comfort and a balance of class for someone to be willing to meet another individual like them. Or at least that would be a considering factor for me.  Im just curious as the new kid on the block because I would love to meet some of the ladies.  

Hugs,

Ivy O.

Are at least cordial to each other, we exchange references etc but when it comes to actually meeting a lot of ladies are very cautious. I know some of us have met. I've met several Carolina ladies over time. One is now a good friend but I can still remember our first time we had lunch! Talk about us both being guarded LOL! I think its tough to establish that trust with other ladies on a personal level, which sucks because it's SO good for your emotional health to have at least one lady in the biz that you can confide in, discuss work, trade stories, get/give advice etc.

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I've met a lot of nice ladies from the South at the Atlanta M&G's.  I've attended Summer's and Jimmy's events.  You can find their past ads in the M&G section on the GB using Atlanta in the search terms.  They typically post on Atlanta Board as well.  I believe some of those ladies get together privately to chat and relax.

Hi ItalianGabriella:

I agree with you 100% I have those reservations. I have a close friend who Ive been friends with for 8yrs who worked in a strip club and the interactions among the women in the club were sad....very sad. I would occasionally go to support her  and at times I encountered some disgusting attitudes from the girls perhaps it was because of my close friend. However, because of their attitudes I never wanted them to know anything about me not even my real name. The environment we share can be fun, exciting, stressful, emotional taxing, and very profitable. So, you are right agian  it would be a great benefit if women could trust each other in this line of business. I guess that would be too much like "Right".  lol

Hope you're having a good weekend

 
Ivy O

Hi Lea_ThePrivAsst:

Thanks for the info. I will look into it.

Have a good weekend,

Ivy O.

Hi JuliasLittleSecret:

Yes, I agree every girl needs that one hooker friend that she can just be herself with.  In my normal life I appear as this conservative shy girl for my own protection with very little interaction with females. Ive been burnt/used before and it only took once. Most of my friends are males but they would be shocked to discover that I am a dirty lil girl.  

If by chance I do have the pleasure of building a genuine relationship with a girl like me we would certainly have a relationship very similar to yours and G's. You two are lucky to have found each other.  I can imagine the convos and jokes you ladies share...lmao.  

Happy Weekend  

Xoxo,

Ivy O.

Ladies could put their insecurities aside! Unfortunately most I've met were either BSC or too insecure. Their need to be the center of attention and competitiveness made even being acquaintances impossible. Though I do have some funny stories haha.  
I guess I'm lucky that someone I met in the very beginning turned out to be a friend and I've since met one other. It great to have someone to talk to and a "co-worker" to cover you if needed.  
I think both ladies being confident in what they have going on is key. You have to see them as back up, not competition. Too often I hear stories of ladies bringing a "friend" in for a double and that person going behind their back after their clients.
After all, variety is the spice of life, we are all awesome in our own way and there is plenty to go around

Hi Tylor:

What is BSC? I am still a member of the sugar community and the girls there have the same insecurities and sense of competitiveness which is why I dont interact as much. Some call others mean names because of how they date and others just think they are the best thing to ever happen in the world. Nothing is wrong with confidence but being nasty is another thing. I don't know whats wrong with us women. We could accomplish a lot together than against each other.  One time I hooked my so called "sugar sister" up with my old SD because she was having car problems and other financial issues. A flaw Ive always had is having a big heart and being kind but not stupid or weak. However, I think she had sadly mistaken me for being stupid and weak.  

Later she came back to tell me how much better in bed she was than me and how my old sd liked her more....bluh bluh bluh!!!  Basically anything that would make me feel insecure or jealous she said it. Why? I still dont know!!! Ive always had confidence so I wasnt affected in that  way but felt more betrayed than anything. I was at a lost for words listening to how stupid she sounded. That was just one trifling thing she did out of 3 or 4 things.  To be honest I ended up putting up with her deceit longer than I should have only because I wanted a friend who shared the same secret world as me. Not too long after I realized our mind sets were different, our goals were totally different and life would be better for me minus her.  So, I added her sour ass to my ignore for life list.  

I do believe there is one hooker friend out there for girl. So yes my dear you are lucky! Hold on to  her and keep supporting each other. Thats more than money could buy.  

Have a great week,

Ivy O.

BSC=Bat Shit Crazy
The money and attention that come w this seems to draw a lot of greedy, insecure girls looking for an ego boost.  
I'm not opposed to helping someone trying to get started but it seems ladies that have been successful for a little while are better friend candidates. I don't think you can last too long (at least not w a good reputation) if you don't have your stuff at least a little bit together.
You would think given all the aspects of this  we'd be better at working to help eachother but you def cant be the nice guy all the time.
Feel free to drop me a line if your in Chas!

I use to often wonder the same thing about linking up with another provider.My thoughts were that if approached correctly with a mature entrepreneurial mindset, the benefits to teaming up or interacting with another provider would prove to be productive.

Think about it,there's really not a lot of people of people in this world who understand,nor respect our job as providers.So to have someone like minded would be great.  

I recently had a top provider reach out to me about teaming up together for a tour.To sat the least we are both guarded,as to be expected, and having had been independent providers working alone for so long,exposed our differences in the way we work and operate our business individually,as well as exposed some errors in my system of doing business that she have been in the business longer than I,was able to help me see.We were able to put our brains together and integrate  smarter ways of conducting businesses and ways to improve our imaging and brand...Unfortunately we also learned how discriminative hotel staffs can be when they see two beautiful friends simply hanging out in their upscale establishmemt (a whole other story).But just there's good and bad that comes with working with another provider.It's tricky bc you have to fid someone who complements your style of business,someone who together you both can go to the net level and eventually exit the business.

Overall the meeting went well.We don't contact one another much.We keep our communication simple and sweet.We have a photo shoot scheduled toget her soon and hopefully our tour will go well.

LMAO....BSC is a term I will apply in this line of work as well as my normal life cause it applies to all....lmbo.

I saw your website and its hot. Your photos are very nice too.  

I will def be in contact with you if its just to say, hi.

 
HOpe you have a great week

Hugs,

Ivy O

Hi SeductiveKelly:

I agree not many people agree with this line of work. Some would rather ruin your life once they find out your real day job. Thats the downside of the world we share. Its even worse that we are willing to deceive each other.  

I guess the best most of us can do is continue to share positive vibes and support each other from afar if we decide to. At least thats what I plan to do.  

Im happy that you have found someone you trust and that trust you to work with. That opens up so many opportunities for the both of you. I wish you guys nothing but good luck and much success. Your website is hot and you have a nice body so I know your tour will be sold out....lol!!  

Happy & Safe Traveling beautiful  

Hugs,

Ivy O

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other providers in the Carolinas. I am semi new coming off a hiatus of other work, finding myself alone looking for other providers in the area. I will give codes that only providers would pick up on hoping a girl is one but I never meet one. This is my first time on TER so I feel super uber new and its just nice to have a friend so to speak.

Hi ErickaxStacy:

How are you? Where are you located in the Carolinas? I am located in Charlotte.  Are you able to receive PM's?

Hugs,

Ivy O.