Years ago, I saw a respected lady from the boards. When I was meeting her my mind was preoccupied with some bullshit at work that I had to deal with after my date that I forgot to leave the gift before I left. The next day I noticed my wallet had more than it should. I immediately emailed the provider and told her my concern. She said that I had forgotten and thought the reason I didn't pay was because I was unhappy. I made sure the money got to her and we saw each other a fewctimes before she retired. Ever since then I've been a little paranoid about myself because I am a little forgetful. Occasionally, after a date, I get this feeling that I haven't paid, but it always ends up that I did pay after contacting the provider. I always wonder why that provider years ago never contacted me first, and so my question.

If a client stiffs you do you contact him about it?  Or do you just chalk it up to a bad date and put him on some naughty list.

Everyone makes a mistake.  I had a somewhat similar situation. The client stated he got the donation amount mixed up. I nicely suggested he could send it to me electronically or add it to our next date. Needless to say he requested another date and cancelled twice. I was pissed. Felt that guy was a major time waster and douche bag. Bottom line he could or didn't want to pay what I was requesting regarding setting up the appointment. He is now a new resident of the national black list nd I hope he burns in hell......

Yeah I know, I'm not a provider and you don't want responses from hobbyists... but I'm going to say what I assume many providers are thinking about your question...

This isn't dating, its business.  Do you forget to pay the bank for your mortgage?  How about the restaurant for your meal?  Maybe even forget to pay for the gas you just pumped into your car?  Um.... no.

Seriously, placing the envelope on the counter is the FIRST thing a hobbyist is supposed to do when walking into the door.  And guys actually complain when a provider counts the money right away... well folks, its "incidents" like this that force them to have to do it.

Hobbying is not dating.  Pay the woman!


Rant over.

Yes, I have forgotten to pay after pumping gas. Yes, I've left forgetting to pay. I also have left my credit card in the bill fold at restaurants.

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luckily he called on his way home when he realized.  I was still debating the best way to handle it - the right wording to use - when he called.  I was pretty sure he wasn't trying to rip me off - we have always had a great relationship - but I wasn't going to let it go either.  

But yea, I once forgot to pay for gas after pumping it, so I can see how it could happen.

I've also had 2 new clients conveniently realize they 'forgot' their wallets -- those were definitely rip off attempts.  One got away with it, one did not.

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I forgot once with a provider I have seen often.  Fortunately she realized it before I got to my car.  She was very pleasant about it "Did you forget something?"
I was very embarrassed and apologetic.
I think that it is easier to forget when you are seeing someone that you see regularly.  Business or not, you do develop a relationship with that person.

It happens. I forgot to pay an ATF once. We'd seen each other many times. Got too F'd up together and we bother forgot. Way too much fun that night!

....but absolutely the first thing you do is place donation in plain sight when coming in (well somewhere just before or right after some kissing lol) and/but it's getting verified one way or the other before major action begins.
If he's showered just before arriving great but he has to wash his hands and gargle with mouthwash anyways so he has to leave me for at least a minute and unless he's leaving thousands lol it doesn't take long to count 200, 300, 400 etc dollars (hopefully it's not in all 20's).

Although I have not forgot the mortgage, I have forgot to pay for the meal, I have drove off from the gas pump, and I have even forgot to tip a waitress when I use a credit card and want to give her cash.
One of the reasons I follow this hobby is to escape the crazy ass endless day to day events known as "my life". I often forget my keys, phone, laptop, sunglasses before leaving for work simply because my mind turns at 8500 RPM.
Each and every time this has happened, I contact the gas station, resteraunt, or what ever and make it right. All that said, I feel its my reasposibility to ensure I get paid for my work and I would not be offended if a provider politley "reminded" me of the donation, as they ofeten do. I am usually anxious and/or exicided at each encounter so standard operating proceedure isn't always at the top of my list.

I have had a client foget.. I think it really depends on the client as well...

When I am meeting a new friend I always make sure that gifts and presents are available before the fun starts.. As with old friends. I will ask.. if they forgot and treat each person/case as an individual one...

before we begin and any clothes may come off.
I have been so happy so see some good friends at times i have forgotton to ask until later.

one time we both forgot but he came back the next day, luckily I was still in town and so was he!

I have few SOBs like that too...

Posted By: Kandis78

Everyone makes a mistake.  I had a somewhat similar situation. The client stated he got the donation amount mixed up. I nicely suggested he could send it to me electronically or add it to our next date. Needless to say he requested another date and cancelled twice. I was pissed. Felt that guy was a major time waster and douche bag. Bottom line he could or didn't want to pay what I was requesting regarding setting up the appointment. He is now a new resicdent of the national black list nd I hope he burns in hell......

Thank you for having the balls to say the truth.