Long-time member here but using an alias today for personal reasons. Over past couple of months in talking with providers I have heard stories of some breaches of what I would consider common rules of courtesy respect and etiquette as to gents interacting with providers. I will start the list ... and welcome any additions to the list or comments on my suggestions.

1. Providers are human beings worthy of respect, so is their time. They are someone's daughter possibly sister and or mother. They have real life problems and challenges just like we do. Don't act as if they are obligated to see you no matter how you act .... and dont assume that you can treat them rudely or without respect if they cannot meet your time and place demands especially on short notice. If you want a 2 hour appointment ... allow 2 hours notice not including driving time. If you want a 12-hour appointment ... allow 12 hours notice not counting driving time. Don't be rude if they can't drop everything and run when you call. You are not ordering a pizza ... for chrissakes show some respect for their time too.

2. Provider time is money... just like yours... just like your doctor's ... just like your attorneys. Keep your appointments. When you are sure you're ready to make an appointment ... then book it but not before you're sure you're ready. Do your best to keep that appointment and if you cannot give as much notice as possible and reschedule as soon as possible ... with a nice tip. The time they set aside for you requires not just date time but preparation time ... when you cancel at the last minute they may make no money that day and they have bills to pay just like us. Things come up but cold feet is no excuse. Keep your appointments.

3. Providers are not only ladies who are entrusting us with their safety, there are situations where they feel especially vulnerable. If you request an evening out call date to a private home, apartment or condo... go the extra mile and meet her at a nearby coffee shop or gas station ... or make it easy to find you without looking for a dark or hidden house number. Don't make her circle the neighborhood 3 times in the dark ... looking for your house or apartment number. They are doing you a huge favor coming to see you ... possibly a long drive to a strange town ... make it as low stress as possible for them to find you. Makes for a much more pleasant experience for both of you.

Ladies... Gents ... Other suggestions for refreshers on Provider Etiquette?

Hope you are not preaching to the choir, so to speak. Bad peeps laugh at us straight peeps who have values, and try to "do unto others, as you would have others do unto you..." Having worked with them face to face, in the past, I know they are always on the look out for "prey." They just don't care! Ladies, SCREEN, SCREEN, SCREEN, and go with your gut feeling about a meeting.

You're right ... probably am preaching to the choir but maybe this helps a little. Screen screen screen is right. Just hate hearing stories that sound like someone thinks they're ordering a pizza. Makes me sick. SMH

If it helps even just once that is good, however, if you have too much enjoyment from living, the hell fire and brimstone preachers are gonna condem you to that lake of fire--OUCH!, HOT!, HOT!, HOT! And LE is gonna rush in your room and throw your nekked bod  to the floor very roughly,(think black and blue here, no not the local football team colors) then hold you up as a purp in the public eye(,,,,,  

Don't even get me started on what the lil lady of your dreams, if you have such, and one of those church/state agreements that lets you enjoy the Missonary position once a month with her---uh, maybe( But, nothing can be done about that particular chance you take( Ever see that T.V. show--Cheaters---never know who is watching, which reminds me, that the hobby guy who alerted me to the Trafficking thing, also said they are watching your comings and goings throughout the East Coast fun houses---Smile, you  are on that camera show(

Have not had my coffee yet, soooooo, need to calm down and do so)  HOWEVER, isn't it Canada that now has "safe" houses that help protect the ladies from the purps, and don't throw the good gents to the floor, etc. Why, O Why, can't the good ole US of A do the same through out this wonderful land to help these precious ladies spread(no pun intended) their sweetness more safely), OR maybe I need to have a lil lady come spread that sweetness all over me, THEN a cup of coffee;P~~~ O, forgot, have put feelers out to 3 local ladies to visit me in my play room,(no cameras there) and have scored a big fat ZERO, kinda like those soccer games scores, but using my balls to kick around(,,,,

...too bad I ain't closer! I'd be all over you!

You have truly hit the nail right on spot. These 3 common rules should be obeyed by ALL hobbyists. The rules should not be seen as Optional, they should be seen as What I refer to as "Required Protocol." Any hobbyist that doesn't follow the protocol has no place in our community. I would like to expand a little on the three rules a little bit to throw in my 2 cents:

Rule #1
If a provider cancels on you due to a real life emergency, don't throw a fit. A true hobbyist understands that providers aren't robots and have a life of their own too. Don't yell at them over the phone or send them an angry message. Be an understanding human. There's always a "Next Time", unless you handle the situation horribly which could lead to severe consequences.

Rule #2
I always like to be pin-point on my scheduling. I like to schedule my dates at least 1 week in advance at minimum. I usually keep up to date on my schedule so then I know when I'll have free time for the hobby. When I do find some time, I do my homework. I look at both the Carolina Ad Board and on date-check to see who will be in the area on the date/week that I have free time. When I've come to the decision on who I want to see, I immediately contact them and provide them with all the necessary information so that they can expedite the screening process and pencil me in for the Date and time I've requested. If something comes up that gets in the way of me having my appointment, I take action. If it's something I KNOW I can get out of, I have a library of excuses larger than the one in Alexandria to use as a way out of an unexpected surprise that could cause me to cancel. If it's something I can't get out of, I immediately contact the provider and cancel.  

Rule #3
I don't have much to touch on here since I have not done an outcall (yet), but what you have stated would make perfect sense. Meeting the provider at a coffee shop/bar/restaurant at the start of the date makes sense. It provides an opportunity for the hobbyist and provider to get to know each other a little better and makes both of them feel more comfortable. Then once the two are ready to get more intimate, the hobbyist provides the necessary information on the outcall location and any additional details to help the provider find it. If it's a hotel: the name of the hotel and room number (unless you're at the hotel bar/restaurant). If it's an apartment: the name and address of the complex, building number , and apartment number. If it's a house, the house address, a description of the house and any specific details that will help the provider find the house (I.e. Circular driveway, yard decor, etc..). But I'm GUESSING some Of the time the provider follows the hobbyist in their car and walks in with them.

All in all one important rule for hobbyists can be drawn from these 3 Rules....
BE...A...GENTLEMAN !!!!!!
This may be a turnoff for the regular girls you see/hangout with when you're out with your buddies (or not valued), but to providers, it is EXPECTED !!!
This is a Shocker, but all of this is coming from someone who has only been in the hobby for 3 years and is younger than the average age of someone starting out in the hobby ( yes I'm a young buck ).

All valid points. Thanks. Just hate to hear about anyone being disrespected, and thought my post might help a couple people who may be "accidental" or "unwitting" offenders in examples #2 and #3. Have a great day.

Thanks. In #3 ... Hotels are no problem. At night, it can be difficult if not impossible to see apartment building and house numbers in an unfamiliar dark neighborhood or street, therefore it can be a frustrating and stressful experience.

Hope that cup of coffee helped you brother. Wow. Lol