I am living with a seasoned provider . I accept and support her work .  She does not enjoy sex with me but she is affectionate . As hard as I try I cannot turn her on ! She loves me but I'm thinking she may gave a fear if intimacy or maybe she cannot lower the walks she has used to protect herself from involvement with her clients ! I would appreciate any thoughts /advice . I'm attractive and in great shape , I don't think it's me ! Please help ! I want to be good for her !

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I had to break up with a provider because our sex life was so bad. She was a high volume provider and she was much like a chef having to come home and cook. She just got too much sex to still enjoy it with me. Shallow pig that I am, I could not deal with being the only guy in town who could not have sex with her, so I broke up with her. We remained friends for years, but I have can't be in a sexless, or under sexed relationship.

Now this is not the case with all high volume girls, I had a Thai GF who was by any definition of the word "high volume" but she ALWAYS had gas in the tank for me. Every one's sex drive is different.

I guess you have to decide if you love her enough to accept a largely sexless relationship. I am too shallow to do so myself, but of course we aren't talking about me. I know some people will suggest counseling, but I am not one of them. Either you turn her on or you don't, I don't think this is something that can be "talked out"

Very intelligent response ! Thank you !