needed friendly advice i even edited it for that purpose!

She said she wanted to stay UTR.  I think her wishes as an employee should come first.  Dont know why she wishes that but I will assume she has her reasons and telling others would be a breach of confidence.  If I provider asks me not to post a review I dont.  Now saying you wont confirm or deny pretty much allows the assumption to be made.  If you answer "didnt mistress x retire?" migh be a better answer.