Being a provider and having a significant other will never work unless he doesn't know about it. REGARDLESS of how OK he says he is with it - he isn't. Then if your conscience is OK with him not knowing about it, kudos.

 
Gotta pick a side. For Hire, or For Love.

 
What side would you pick?

On if I have another job lined up and/or a lot of money saved up. I recently rejected a pretty awesome lovie-dovey relationship so I can have a roof over my head and the bills paid.

I was in love with the guy, but I'm not guaranteed he's going to stay with me, especially if I'm broke!

So... for now? For hire.

~ Courtney ~

Unless I found myself madly in love someone.  But the odds of that happening are pretty slimmm.

Why slim odds?  I'm oblivious to the lives providers lead except during that one sliver of time that I get to share with y'all, but from meeting some of you and reading board posts, I am surprised that someone hasn't snatched you up for good.

are in solid relationships with men who know what we do.  In my case, my man does not particularly like what Natasha does, but he accepts me and loves me nonetheless.  A relationship based on lies is doomed no matter what; our relationship is not.

Well first off its a super hard decision to make.. You decide based on what type of personality your SO has.. Along with his characteristics; morals, his beliefs, his  overall opinion of what entails a working girl...  

My connection is  I myself have been living and dating SO for over 5 years.. AND SADLY HE DOES NOT KNOW.. Well lets just say I am a very open woman, I have a good heart and I just dont have it in me to try and make some guy accept that what I do is ok.. Just because I kno in my heart the difference, doesnt mean that his heart is open enough to understand the same.. Does it effect my relationship at home, OFCOURSE. .But nothing would ever make me feel bad or trashy or whatever you wanna call it bc I get paid for sex, and my time.... I know my heart adn i cam distinguish between the 2.....  

As far as concience.. Um I have a good head on my shoulders and I know Im working and am completely able to know the diference betweem the 2.. I would like to say that these 2 worlds dont collide but they do!!  

Im not sure if I said pro' or con's because either way its very difficult, whether to be open and honest or is it worth your mental health to just plain out lie... My SO is disgusted by 'hookers', he see's them as dishonest workers, he's very old school matter of fact.. Him and his friends DONT wanna switch girlfriends, or even watch their girls kiss.. Which totally has me baffledd..LMAO

 
One more thing, and Im sorry its lengthy... The $$$ is coming from somewhere.. Ive accepted that my family most likely knows, and I dont really care about what they think, but Im sure everyone is happy Im not EVER asking for money, or help paying bills.. And in my chosen career path Ive been lucky to alwrays be careful and not EVER have a bad experience... Cross fingers..

Prostitution is the oldest proffession in the US baby afterall!!!!  

Just a reminder, I am independent amd work for myself, I have a family and in school (bc my mind may be up for it, I am getting older)so Im not a money digger.. Really enjoy being a provider TOTALLY, so pleawse dont get my words mixed up.. I am being genuine in my reply to Jessie regarding whether to tell the new guy or not...

 
Sammy  

AKA Lil' Bit

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It so happens that this particular bf does NOT know.. I will never willingly create any uncessary drama in my life.. IMO he is very closed minded and I dont even think old school is the term however I dont wanna make a big deal about something I KNOW is safe and makes me feel sexxxy. Maybe it IS a white lie, and I uphold myself with my open honesty, but some things are noone's business....

 
I did however have a bf when I started working as an internet whore (lol)... We were young and I was doing too much dumb shit, drinking, some drugging, so we took off to Florida where I absolutely made bank!! I totally was taking care of us and we just relaxed and emjoyed the benefits We were absolutely in sync with eachother, I could go to him when I had a hard call or something.. Thres something wonderful about being completely honest with a man who didnt judge me but made things easier on me...... I would do 4 calls by noon then go to paddle boats at Universal and eat corn dogs.. Like retired folks.

Oh the old days, would I change my current situation with one like that, most definetly but what can one say? My NY life consists of a certain man who I cannot ccme to and cry or laugh or whatever.. And thats bull... Also I dont think I will do it again, not being 100% honest about what I do for money....  

So long story goes like this.. Do what makes you happy!!! An open honest relastionship is recomended but when its not that easy, make believe you just really love sex..

Oh ALSO i will say that I DO think being a working girl affects my current situation in a bad way.. BC I look at him like why does he not adore me like my clients? I want to be his fantasy also and when you cant then that's really demoralizing...... Anotherwords if biz is slow, Im depressed, not ony bc my 'easymoney' isnt coming in but it really affects how I feel about myself... And to be with someone who doesnt treat you like a princess and a total famtasy then it make you double think about yourself.. Thats a bad thing too!!
Im a lover not a fighter and i just really love to kiss.... (and be slapped in face with cocks) I  dunno, it just really is super hot... Kinda a fetish, along  with calves.. Some nice cut calves are so sexxxy

Sammy

I have two SO's, in different states.  Both know what I do, they don't really like it, but don't complain about it.

For the ladies that think  real relationships could never work are subconsciously allowing the stigma of the hobby to drag down their self-esteem and self-worth.

Would you not date an abortion doctor because you were against abortion?  Maybe.

Would you not date OJ's lawyer because he helped a murdered walk free?  Maybe.

The job doesn't make the person, and the person isn't the job.  In most instances, that is

I think you are Smoking Hot and a GREAT Gal so your SO is lucky to be with you.

I Concur!

Shifterp Back to the Present

Hey I had a fun night with my gf Tatooed Asain Kim last night in the city (Manhattan).. And these very sincere posts are a bit sensitive and I cam hardly believe I was soo into this thread.. Umm, I do have alot going on in my mind... Fixing to leave the bf,  bc he doesnt compare to any wonderful guys that I've met in my days.... He actually doesnt deserve me, and I plan to work on Little Bit (and have lotsa fun too!!)..

Bit

Shifterp.... You are always as cute as a a button and Im sending you virtual hugs and I cANNOT wait to see you next week!! I hope your ready, we (me and son) are coming back home Tuesday Check the ad board...

 
xxx
http://www.imagecoast.com/images/LittleBitSamm/photo.jpg
Cute pic, even though I need some more.. But its easy to put face to name (or the crazy lady yappen on this thread)... hhaha

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...and they'd have to be really good in bed, lol! Gotta' have both

Men and women trying to work this relationship thingy since when?

Ok since the start. How we doing? In USA I think 50% of marriages fail, lots of the ones failing just still together, right?

A better question Jess might be if your SO is breathing, what are your chances?

Seems that might be a better question than what either does for the cash.

Never civie dated a provider, but woulda if I coulda, with a select few.

Why not every other way has about a 80% chance of failing!

Plus my ATF is one hell of a woman, see her as a great friend who is a provider.

Why wouldn't I be interested in more life with a SEXY HOT GREAT GAL, my friend??

DOUBLE DUH?????????????

That gals provide is not their whole life. I would be more interested in OUR connection, our  

friendship. One day I won't be this HOT, what then, why would she stay with me then?

Something to think about, right?

And they won't be providers all their lives and at some point they will want something more lasting  

and have it with somebody. Right?

Maybe, all I knows I hope they get it. Heck I hope everyone gets what they want. What kind of a  

scumbag would I be if I didn't?

And Jess, are Dudes dating providers who have been happily together for years. If so and I think that its true in your experience you just might have not met them? They are there. True or not?

Plus what about the swinging lifestyle ? Does money make it wrong for your gal to blow another dude? How about 5 dudes at a gang bang at a swingers party? Is it only wrong if pay is involved?

Just trying to say I think folks trying to get along or not is not as easily answered with asking providing or not.

You have any idea how rich I would be if I could answer the question of how folks could be successful in relationships? I'd visit ALL of you over and over you suited my taste in women.

If I win lottery and ask my ATF to go live on a beach somewhere, got that money for life thingy
worked out. Yeah when that happens I will let ya'll know how it works out.

How crushing would it be if that happened and she wouldn't go??????  OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!  LOL

Oh  ONE, yeah what I have learned is most relationships have trouble because of money. Now was it in trouble anyway and the money issues brought it ought? Who knows?

And TWO when I meet a happy couple older couple been married long time............I always ask what is the secret to your long successful fulfilling relationship?

The answer is always the same......they ALL say, that person over there I been with so long.......... is my best friend.

Maybe one day my dear friend will figure being with me broke or not is a great idea since it is really

friendship that matters most anyways?

Maybe not, if not just enjoy the friendship as much as I can cause it is really great. Plus she is

REALLY HOTT and that is always a plus!!!!! LOL

Anyways, what do know, if I did, would I be here, writing about this, to you, would I ? hehe

Boils down to we are not getting what we desire from the person we want it from, right?

"Wish he treated me like my clients".  Well if he did maybe he would not treat you that great that

long. Ever hear familiarity breeds contempt? The cold hard fact is after we are with folks we ALL

start taking them for granted. How bout from the fellas perspective! "Wish my wife banged me

like my ATF"!! Again cold hard truth is if she was your wife for years she probably wouldn't. Right?

Just tough to work it out. I know trying to myself. To love and be loved, what a feeling, right?

From what

I have observed about the relationships that work it out is,  they both stick to their commitment.

And recommit when the familiarity breeds the contempt as it most certainly will. That is what it  

does. What then, what is the plan?

They both realize the grass is only greener in the other pasture for a period of time. Not watered

it withers away too, at some point. Think that is why friendship is the most important quality in a  

long lasting loving mutually supportive fulfilling relationship.

Could get it from someone else, but we want it from them, right? For a time YEP, but then gets to

THAT point, you know where they farted and it is not cute any more? Then what?

Then we are back to basics of all human experience, fear of not getting what we think we need or losing what we think we have to have?

Again most important thing I can say is I have no a CLUE!!!!!!!! Thing that might separate me from

the herd is I know I don't know and I am willing to admit it.

I Concur!

Shifterp Back to the Present!

 

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was WONDERFUL!

Honest expression. How is that anything but truly Wonderful?

If you are on the market some Dude is fixing to be the luckiest fella on earth drawing breath!

Ready to see you?

How does one actually go about a being ready for a little slice of heaven?

Not sure but I will do my best to find out, GOOGLE AWAY!!!!!!!!!

Wonder how many results I will get for "what to do to prepare for a little
slice of heaven" I will get? hope a few, I like choices, plural!!!!!!!!!

Take care have a safe trip back home.

I Concur!

Shifterp Back to the Present!

A provider that I was friendly with years ago in the Boston area worked closely with her husband regarding her career. He photographed her and helped her with many of the details of the job, they kept a schedule that allowed them lots of play time, and had incredible sex (if I believe every word she told me She was extremely popular, they had a 5 year plan (I believe) and when she retired, they rode off into the sunset together. One of the happiest couples I have ever met.

I have dated a couple  of providers in my life and would be ecstatic to find the kind of relationship that they had. So far no luck, but not for lack of trying.

There are couples out there that have had relationships work out with the hobby not being the reason it failed or succeeded.

Figure it is about the time between the hobbying that counts.

Said above there were couples out there Jess just did not know about.

Still yet she may not believe it. She may think it is only a matter of time till it blows up. She may be right!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who knows?

Maybe since everything changes our definition of a relationship WINNING is what is off! Maybe folks together and having a great time and then it is time for it to end is success. No matter how long it lasts.

Who knows?

For me if I happen to stumble into another relationship I am gonna only engage if it is a woman
who believes what I believe. Then we have a great friendship.

Next relationship for me if it happens will be based on those two things, not money and lust.

If that don't happen cool getting together with awesome women here when I can.

Cool either way, happy either way.

I Concur!

Shifterp OUT!

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Are you as off-the-wall crazy and interesting in real life as you are here?

Or are you a nerdy world-of-warcraft kind of guy who blushes and gets
tongue-tied when he talks to girls? Tell the truth!

                           

 
clarence37 OUT!

Depends on the girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  hehe

What character can I pretend to be that really gets her off???? What is her most exciting fantasy?

Schoolboy, poolboy, Dominator, Fabio(that is the toughest one since I am short, cute and balding, they really have to want to believe that one)! Tall dark and handsome and hung is pretty much impossible unless they are like drunk, really drunk and can't see too well without their glasses. I just do what I can with what I got to work with. Or if the gal I get together with is a midget. Then I am TALL!!!!!!

Whatever they need, it is all about them and their desires and fantasies.

LOL  

I Concur!!!!!!

Shifterp Back to the Present!  might actually be question better asked by the gals who whitelisted me? Maybe, possibly?

This is kinda what happens when you sober and clean up for 29 years and live a life

based on rigorous honesty! Good bad or indifferent, I is what I is!

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What type of guy is shifterp? Hhmm

Well for sure he ALWAYS has alot to say!! LMAO.. But he really is a sweetheart, not nerdy, and NO he doesnt get tongue tied.. He is actually VERY GOOD with his tongue lol...  

No but on the real, shifterp has alot of real things to say, he has been a long way time (thankGOD) away from a crazy lifestyle, and he's always in a good mood...  

Lu