So, after 20 years of marriage, I've had my first extra-marital affair this week. If you check my submitted reviews here, you'll see that I've been with a few women from here in the past, so, yes, I've "cheated" before.  However, I've limited it to escorts.  So, this past week, I ended up hooking up with a woman outside the hobby.  The experience was less that satisfying, compared to the sweet "pros" I've met from here.  Now, I understand that everyone is different and it could have just been the situation and the woman I was with, but I don't know.  Even going back to when I was single, I don't think I've ever had as much fun with a woman as I have with one within the hobby.  Any thoughts anyone?

For me being a provider or Entertainer, I feel I have prepared for this my entire life. I am compassionate and caring about the people I see, I know where the boundaries are and the expectations are pretty much set up as what is going to happen for the evening.  

It takes time to prepare to meet someone and to make sure they feel special. In the end I know what I will be receiving.Kelley

I think it's fair to say, it's just the civvie lady you met maybe mixed in with the situation. Providers, the great providers out there are indeed great. For sure. There are just some limitations that make it difficult to compare really to the possibilities in the civvie world. Depending on how your civvie world experience(s) is (are) as far as time limit, comfortability and such and compared with your provider experiences in the same areas. If you get where Im going. Sounds like your civvie experience wasn't too much different from a provider experience as far as familiarity with each other and maybe time constraints too. Providers or civvies, they are still ladies with lives and experiences of the such that can make the experience good or bad or better than most for you. I for one don't see much of a difference between the chances of a good experience or not between the two! Providers are civvie ladies and some civvie ladies just as well are providers basically. The gift handling is just a tad bit different but it's there a lot of the times! Surely is!

As far as experience and knowing how to "treat" a man or how ever you want to phrase it, it just depends on the lady, you and CHEMISTRY. At least for me. Provider and Civvie, equally the same. Take 50 "provider"experiences and 50 "civvie" experiences, you're more than likely going hit the same percentage of good and bad for you unless you're a 17 year old and all that is required is a blow in your ear to wow you. Lol.

Providers are mostly greater on average (as a comparison to civvies) when it comes down to boundaries being respected at all times. That's about it. Of course depending on the lady and you There are surely a lot of "pros" in the purely civvie world. Married civvie ladies included or so I've been told. Lol.  

Good luck and if you want to keep your status as married, I think I would stay with the Providers. Oh yeah!

I am a cad:  I have had affairs and have seen providers.
Obviously from a financial standpoint the upfront costs of an affair are less.  However, if your AP gets attached or is married herself, there's probably a higher probability of getting caught which could lead to divorce which is VERY expensive!
On the whole, an AP is nice if you are looking for both sexual release and an emotional connection.  
If you are looking for the occasional sexual release and also like (for lack of a better word) variety, then a provider is the way to go.
...just my initial thoughts from my experience.

Having been in an a affair in my younger days and getting attached to my ATF I would certainly agree with your opinion. I was a secretary and he was one of the top notch managers of the plant. Of course the type of behavior was not tolerated by the plant and when things came to a head it was time for me to go.

As discreet as we tried to be it was hard to hide chemistry. I left my marriage and eventually he did to. Yet sadly to say we only ended up hurting other people and in the long run we had started our relationship on a lie and neither one of us truly could develop trust with the other.  

I moved to Charlotte. I felt we both lost a lot and it took me a long time to get over it. Kelley

There's also the fact that a P4P encounter is built around what pleases the customer. That's not to say that the ladies can't have fun too, just that she's not going to expect the reciprocation that she would outside the hobby.

to be able to let all the boundaries down, let go and truly enjoy a physical interaction with a near stranger. Even with the gender gap narrowing most females are raised to have a man work for them, that good girls don't give it up too easy. I don't know a lot of girls that can have NSA sex w a stranger and really get into it and be ok the next day w no further expectations. I think most providers are able to do this, so you are going to have a much better experience. On top of that, most of us, I think, have gotten a lot better at tuning in to peoples needs and reactions. Of course there are going to be some exceptions, but I'd guess as a ruel, yes providers do it better.

Someone mentioned not having a emotional connection, I don't think that's true. Many people see the same person regularly, you inevitably start talking and get to know each other. You do develop a connection, its just for that hour or 2 ever week and everyone knows the boundaries. A heck of a lot neater then an affair or most relationships

You don't get to read reviews for civilian girls, so you won't have the kind of information that you can get for a provider, so it's hard to know what to expect.  

And because the civilian girls don't have to worry about getting a bad review if they do a lackluster job, they don't have as much incentive to put much into it if they are not feeling it.  

And since she probably hasn't had that much experience she's not going to be as intuitive about what will make a great experience.  

And some of the time she's going to make you really work for it.

And speaking for me (and maybe for a lot of guys), she's not going to be anywhere near as young or as attractive as the providers I get to see.

Have you returned and are you healed?
I hope so.

Right now I am having to use a walker yet I am not in any pain. I do have an in-call location which Jenna Raine who is a sweetheart has offered to let me rent from her.

I am still in action. A bit slower, yet most of the people I see do like an un-rushed session. Kelley

Posted by cocktail-party, 4/20/2015 9:12:20 AM  
 There's also the fact that a P4P encounter is built around what pleases the customer. That's not to say that the ladies can't have fun too, just that she's not going to expect the reciprocation that she would outside the hobby.  

I totally agree with what you had to share. Kelle