Hey ladies and gents,  
Just a thought here. How many of you have introduced or role-played as Master/Mistress - Slave with your counterpart (IRL or in hobbyworld)?  

I'm a switch IRL and I receive constant requests for punishment, etc but usually very few for subbing.  

Are there any other switch hobbyers or providers out here in the Carolinas?

(PS I know there's a BDSM board so please don't move this there, I want local opinions)

Thanks,  
Ari

My first introduction into BDSM didn't go so well, I felt degraded and didn't enjoy it at all (see 5/3 review).  My second time was with a regular and I had to keep myself from laughing the entire time (I couldn't help but think he was trying to reenact a "50 shades of grey" scene).  So needless to say I'm not a very good sub, and I definitely can't dominate!

I do offer light BDSM, and do not by any means consider myself an expert. To address your inquiry, I've had a few very real sessions in which I was a sub, and these gentlemen were quite well-versed in the field and knew exactly what they wanted. Conversely, the requests I get to play a dominating role are usually from men who have little to no experience with BDSM, but are curious enough to want to play. I suppose this makes perfect sense, that less experienced hobbiests are naturally in a less dominant position for lack of knowledge and would subsequently have a proclivity to submission.  

I've only had one session in which we switched during the session. This quick turn-around did not feel natural to me at all, and I would much prefer keeping a defined role through the duration of a session

I have been known to use handcuffs, tape, rope, blindfolds and a few other accessories but I am normally in charge of my sessions regardless  

As a general rule, I only do the extracurricular accouterments with civvies and an occasional provider that I have seen at least twice and I am comfortable with. This can all be done without pain, I promise.

Spank you for the thread.

Of course all the typical bondage (rope, cuffs, etc) has been used but I have drawn blood before. That of course is for those who truly enjoy, desire and deserve it.  

I have been in a sub and Dom situation where there was no pain so I play various parts of the field

You're welcome by the way. Thanks for responding  

It's all about how you take on the role.  

My greatest lessons as a Mistress were taught to me as a sub

... just wanted to see how many people would click on this because I said that, haha.

I think you'd be a good DOM. You'd look pretty damned hot pinning that long brown hair up and throwing on that fire engine red lipstick. Chazaaam!

Plus, a lot of it is acting. One thing I was taught in the 'customer service' world was, "If you feel out of control, you still have to act like you're in control." and "If you don't know what you're doing, act like you do." It actually works, but with BDSM, I would think you actually do have to know so you don't hurt the guy.

We should practice on each other. That would be a laughing fest! hahaha.

Really tho, let's practice knot tying and slapping each other with those paddles that imprint words onto your skin. It would be fun, and we'd know how hard to hit, hahaha.

I'd say start to 'corrupt' yourself and watch BDSM porn and hang with BDSM providers, or hang on the BDSM board and learn what the mindframe is like.

I wouldn't do sub in a meeting with a client unless I REALLY knew him because ain't no man tying me up, lol!

P.S. Panthera's "spank you" was funny, lol

I was in a six month relationship where I was the submissive one. No BDSM, but I was sub ALL the time. By the time the end of the relationship rolled around, I started to dominate and I was a monster. He LOVED it!

So, I guess I've got the sub part down, lol.

I love to dominate and kinda' feel bad when a guy wants to dominate. I feel I'm dominant in most of my sessions, guiding the guy in what's going to happen next in regular play. I think I have a natural dom in me.

Hated that relationship, hated the sub thing from the way I was treated, but for some reason because it was so dirty, I get off fantasizing about him dominating me, though I'd never do him again EVER. He's married, and God forbid I ever have sex with a married man. (little joke). But outside of the profession, probably not.

Anywhoo, I think about getting back at him.

I've had a request to do the degrading thing with someone, walking him through parks on a leash, etc. but it was around where I lived and I just can't do that. Also degrading him in sex shops in front of others.

I've also gotten requests to go out to bars and hit on other men/bar tenders right in front of the guy to humiliate him.

It's pretty fun. Not sure about the leash in a park thing tho

I'm sure you can check it out on a few sites. It's quite fun

I have a new bf that loves to spank, cuff and blindfold me. Its been about 4 months and things are going great. Recently I've had a couple of friends ask me to dominate them and I'm not sure I can do it. I find it much easier to find my dominant side when I'm telling a gf what to do to a guy.  

Anyone with suggestions please email me. This thread is helpful and I see that I need to be a better sub first Good luck to you Aria!

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I didn't know, now I do)  Luv that Japanese Hog Tie, the lil whip that came with it,and  the blindfold, the thangs that go BUZZ, all this while the fuzzy red cuffs keep the lil lady spellbound, but free to wiggle and gasp, as I make it hurt so good---JCM song lyric that fits this thread to a tee.  
Pleasurable "pain" only)

BDSM...It can not control you nor can you control it! It's a feeling that you have always had..All you have to do is find It in yourself! I "Submit" to it every chance I get. I am a passive submissive and allow him to feel he has total control over my mind, body, and soul. In return, he get's off thinking this and has his way with me(consensual of course) it's very orgasmic for both of us! BTW: there is always a safe word or body gesture when we are into the role of Dom/Sub

I can remember being 20 something and had a GF who was a Dominatrix, She begged me to learn the ropes with her ( LOL) I was such a shy girl who had 0 confidence in myself. I am sad that  We lost touch....

A few years later.. I am again introduced to an amazing friend who actually teaches, bondage and safe rope tying/photography... From there I started exploring Fetish parties called Purgatory!

I never, ever thought I had it in me.. I do!

How did I learn? I figured out quickly I was submissive by nature, But wanted the power of being dominant.. Once I realized that my partner got as much pleasure out of it as I did.. GAME O