Gentlemen, How Important is it to you that you are the 1st Appointment of the day?? What if you call the lady of your choice and want to schedule an Appointment for 12pm on such n such day, and she says that she is already booked for that day and time, but can schedule "You" for later in the day. Do you accept the later appointment b/c she is a must see? or do you reschedule b/c you want to be her 1st of the day? Ladies...Is this common for you as well? Do you receive alot of requests for "1st appointment of the day only" clients?

After all why is it so important to be the first?  People try to schedule in the mornings with me in order to be the first and I'm definitely not a morning person so you really can't use the "she will be at the peak of her energy" excuse.  I just don't understand why it's such a big deal if the provider cleans herself up between appointments.

I want to be the first. And yeah, I know there is no way to know for sure. I've been bumped for earlier appointments and it didn't cause me to cancel, but IMHO the service wasn't as good. Is it all in my head or was she just worn out from the previous encounter? I have no idea, but so far, in my admittedly limited experience, first is better

It's like owning a boat, no matter how big your boat is, someone always has a bigger boat. If I'm trying to impress the land-bounders, I don't want to pull into the dock right after the QE2 has left.

I prefer early AM appointments.. What a great way to start the day.. For me,, I also only see 1 person on the day I am working anyway...

 

Guys that have seen high volume BP girls typically are under the impression that since you are a provider (regardless of status) you too are are high volume. They want to get "first dibs" for a few reasons. Reason 1 is because they want you at your peak performance. Reason 2 is because they don't want sloppy seconds (third, fourth, fifth, sixth..etc) Reason 3 is they feel you may not clean up well for them if they are not "first"

Let's dissect this for a moment:

Ever see a guy check out your bathroom? He's looking to see how many used towels are laying around..to him, this means you have seen other people.

Ever see if a guy inspects the bed? He's looking for those "spots" and making sure he's not laying on soiled sheets.

Ever see a guy look around the room like he lost something? He's checking every place to see if there is evidence of previous activity. (trash bin, unmade bed, empty envelopes, "wrappers", Etc)

The difference is, are you clean? Do you see 1 or 2 people only in any given day? Do you maintain your location so that it's pristine, inviting and comfortable for others? If you cannot answer "yes" to these questions then you cannot produce the image of a guy being first. We all know those well seasoned, reputable providers can pull this off and tell us we are first and we believe it because the image portrayed supports it.

Personally, It's about selection. Seeking some of the more reputable providers is a best bet to avoid our manly mental issues.

The Jaded-

The mentality upon a lot of providers (that have jaded the industry) is:
 "how much can I make in a single day"
 "I'm available 24 hours (to maximize my gains)"
 "Low rate to draw in more people"
 "No screening to make it easier to get to me"
 "Ads on bp because it's a high traffic mall"
 "Book back to back to capitalize on time"
 "Get you out as fast as I can(to get the next one in)"

These types have instituted a mentality to hobbywood that just about every provider works like this. The characteristics mentioned above are NOT providers. They are straight up cum dumpsters that you want to avoid even if she offers a very low attractive rate. It's been said before and will never end. Stay away from BP girls!

A story I once heard was a lady offered a low hour rate and saw 8-12 guys just about every day. She thought that that's how it worked because her friend showed her the ropes. Needless to say she burned out fast, stepped away for a few months. She reinvented herself, imposed policies, screening and higher rates. She now earns the same if not more than before seeing considerably less people. She is now a very reputable provider...giving first appointments every time.

Remember, it's all in your head and the image that is produced. However, meeting with the proper provider that suits your desires is the best option. Those that typically have a higher rate and reputation are in the mindset that they want to give quality time and put forth a lot of effort because you are probably the only person they see that day or maybe the next one is later on in the day/eve. This type of effort requires more mental and physical energy that could ultimately make a provider feel like she has seen a lot of people in one day. This is why she may elect to be low volume to enhance the quality she can put into a date to keep you coming back.

I probably shouldn't have taken that Human Sexuality Class in College. I'm too cynical for my own good. At most, I analyze probability of a good date versus a bad one. Providers enjoy my topic conversations though

As long as she is focused on me when we're together and we can take our time (within reason , I could care less if I'm first, middle, or last.  I know that may be important to some gents, but it's not to me.

guys that like to be first timers usually are paranoid about cleanliness..insecurity and fear are his overriding factors on booking..

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They don't have to know, and probably don't want to. Sometimes if someone wants to extend and I can't BC I want to eat and shower before next appt I try to dodge saying it but have to sometimes so he understands.  

If I have a two hour request for the AM I'll take it even if I have a noon Appt. Its a lot of money and a potential regular if its a new guy.  

If that's what YOU prefer, work it out that way. its your money and your fantasy. Do it your way. Just wouldn't suggest saying 'pls don't take any appointments before me.' May not be the best approach. pretending is better

No one wants to know they aren't the first that day. Honestly we all know what happens here but no one wants to know. We all know we share but we don't want to think about it. One reason I don't read reviews much. I'll read before seeing a new lady but if its a lady I repeat with or an ATF I'll never read another review after I've seen her. I know I'm not the only guy, she'd be broke if she depended on only me, but it's nice to think you're the only one for a couple hours if she sells the fantasy well.  Makes the illusion much better. Like they say ignorance is bliss!!

So now that request doesn't bother me.

IMO though if a guy wants to be first he should give the lady a real good reason to be first with a multi hour request.

xoxo,

Steph

And the ladies I see always insist they are...

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There is only one provider I see that I know for sure does multiples in a day. She does advertise on backpage. I happen to get lucky back in the beginning when I used backpage and found a true gem. So know if I want to see her I only will if I know/think I am the first for the day. I think it's a mental thing for me.  
And now that I am aware and connected with other site no more backpage for me

if that's what he wants, it's his choice.

PERFECTLY STATED!

It depends on how hot I am for the lady.  Most times I like to be second or third.  Kinky minds are enjoying the anticipation.

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Personally always want to be the first of the day and request it each and everytime.

The way I see it is..... if you made an appointment to see someone you made it for many reasons. She is beautiful, sexy, great reviews, etc..... if you haven't seen her before you made an appointment based on the way she looks, her reviews and perhaps because of some interaction you had with her. To me, that is what it is all about. It is called blind faith fellas, if you are trusting her enough to be safe and treat you right then trust her enough to be clean and excited to see you. If you are not satisfied then you do not have to see her again and if she has seen someone else and hasn't cleaned up, word will get out and she will not be around for long.  

Look at it this way, if you have seen her before or as some of you like to say she is your ATF and you find out that many times before she has seen you she was with another man a few hours before. Is she no longer your ATF?  

The bottom line is once you decide to see the beautiful lady there is a great deal of trust on both parts, let her be her and trust her. Unless she is shuffling someone out while holding the motel door for you to walk in........ trust her. And if she is then you are seeing street walkers or the dregs from Back Page.

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None of us have to deal with ridiculous requests or rudeness.  Yes it is stupid, because you will never know if you are the first or not as it's quite easy to create that perception.

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