Some providers complain that they don't get reviewed not even by repeat clients and they must resort to the likes of BP. And yet, after receiving a good review they fail to Whitelist.  Hypocrisy? Absolutely, what is good for the goose is good for the gander.  Ladies, please don't shoot the messenger, I am just trying to help.

As long as you're decent and have cash pretty ladies will see you.

Just stay off the blacklist...

Not lump all ladies into 1 group..

I am not a fan o reviews, Period.. but they are needed yes..My complaint with reviews is.. I don't think it is polite to "kiss and Tell" I also believe that what two people do is intimate and what I do with you I may not do with someone else..

and I never, ever whitelist... If you need a reference just ask..I will be more then glad to provide one....

I dont think a white list is worth a whole bunch.  It is nice, made me smile,  but what the hell.  IMHO it is better to give references and let the lady sort it out as to how she screens.  I just want her to feel safe.

As for reviews; they are actually for other hobbiests to help them find out who they would like to see and who to avoid.  A lot of reviews I have seen arent worth that much. Some reviewers  throw out some numbers and a paragraph and call it done.  But never tell you who she is.  I would much more like to see a softcore review that told me if she is funny, smart,  sassy, passionate, truly GFE, pigeon toed,  wait, strike that last one lol.  But basically I want to know was she a joy to be with.  That is what really counts.  I really dont care if she hangs by her toes from the doorway.  lol

First off why are you posting on this board?  You have 3 reviews of Carolina ladies in the last year and one of them you saw in Florida.   You have many more from other areas so take this to the GD board.

Second you have 3 whitelists in the last 3 months, do you expect every woman to whitelist you?  Sounds like your ego got hurt.

I'm not trying to shoot the messenger and just trying to help but I don't think you did yourself any favors with this post.

**steps down off my soapbox**

Actually my post was not about reviews or the whitelist.  My post was about hypocrisy. (Read post at 2-9-13 @11:36).  A provider complained about lack of reviews yet did not considering Whitelisting.  I do agree with your opinion.

You totally missed the point.  And, the post was relevant to this board.  I would not go to GD to post about this board.  Way to shoot the messenger without really getting the message.  Wow!

....you're not really owed one either because you reviewed her.
I don't think it's hypocrisy if she does not want to publicly give you a reference (which IMO that's what a WL is).

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Nothin hypocritical about it.

I wasn't discussing Reviews.  I wasn't discussing the Whitelist.  I was talking about hypocrisy revealed by a provider complaining on This Board.

Went right over your head, but thanks for your contribution.

Tit for Tat, reviews and whitelists kind of clouds the validity of both.  Plus, a whitelist is a blanket approval, with no room for explanations or other qualifiers, or the "juicy details" as they say, though I suppose you ladies could use the back channel to get that info.  Still not quite the same.

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I actually do not like the review deal either, at least in terms of the specificity. I am a gentleman ( or at least I try to be) and I totally agree with you about "don't kiss and tell". There is something that I just don't like about writing a review which goes into all sorts of graphic details. In a way, it turns what can be a really rewarding experience of intimacy into a glorified Penthouse Letter.

And when there is all this tremendous amount of detail, it takes away from the real allure of this "hobby", for me anyhow, which is the playfulness, the romance (illusory perhaps), the mystery, the "it" factor that goes along with a beautiful, sensual woman.

And for those reasons, I have written very few reviews (well, that and I have not had that many "dates" compared to some other fine gentlemen here). And i know there is a fine line between "enough" reviews and "too many" for many of the fine ladies here.

If they would give me VIP access for free, then I would probably not write any at all. But that would not be fair either, as the reviews, when tastefully done, are indeed one measure or indication that I would use to decide if I wanted to see someone or not. And I respect the men here who write them, especially the ones who post on the board regularly, and I have learned to recognize names and see how they behave in conversations on topics other than graphic portrayals of positions and acts.

I would never try to "trade" a review for a whitelist. As far as I know I am not on anyone's whitelist, but also as far as I know no one has ever been offended by me, and the few ladies that I have had the supreme pleasure of meeting I think will/would vouch for me if I asked or used their names.

Bottom line, I am in Jessica's camp, but I can see where reviews are a necessary "evil" for ladies. I promise that any one that I ever write has been respectful. I actually do not think I have ever written a negative one, hopefully I will never have the urge to do so. But if I did have a bad experience I would feel honor bound to say so.

My two cents...and likely a real ramble...but it is late and I have not eaten, so forgive my rambling..!

Unless she specifically refused to whitelist you then your generalization is totally irrelevant.

Whether or not to write a review is the mans choice (regardless of whether she asks for one or asks not to have one)

To whitelist is her choice  

When you start to trade discounts, whitelists or anything else then it brings into question the truth and validity of both reviews and whitelists like Julia said.

Providers are allowed to complain on this board.  And so are you.  

But the lady asked a question and yes she is tired of backpage and she is tired of no shows.  She wasnt ugly about it and got opinions.  And even found an error in her profile that was hurting her.  And everyone moved on.  

I dont see any hypocrisy here cause she doesnt white list.  

And we're all talking about why you're wrong and its not hypocritical at all. Girls need reviews to get clients and show that they are legitimate. Hobbyists need white lists for what? Most girls require more than that for screening, so other than ego stroking on your part I'm not totally sure what you're complaining about?

This whole thing has "dick" written all over it, to be honest. Creating a thread to bash a lady for wanting to improve her business...