If she says  she does not orgasm / get turned on during sex , is she really saying she doesn't enjoy it with me ?

Some providers are simply not doing it for the pleasure while others find it rewarding both financially and personally. If the "she" you are referring to is your significant other, then it could be time to get some counseling and figure out why she isn't having any fun.

I know plenty of women who dint enjoy sex nearly as much as they can because they don't explore their bodies and don't feel sexy themselves. In order to be sexy, one must first feel sexy.