First of all this should go without saying but ladies, if you decline a date because you don't want to go get a hotel room and refer him to someone else...DO NOT change your mind and decided to take the date back.

I spent a lot of time setting up a date with this guy, had the date set, the booking set...2 hrs and he even told me what gift he was bringing me. Then low and behold SHE writes him back and says she's changed her mind she will get a hotel room to see him. WTF??? He thinks, are she said no the first time that he owes it to HER to see her since she changed her mind!

Well, not after contacing me and having MANY e-mails back and forth setting this up. Once a guy comitts to seeing somone else because the first lady chose not to accomodate him AND he has a perticular date set to see the lady (ME) he contacted and NO he doesn't owe the first lady the date.

And this jerk actually had the nreve to say he wanted to see me in March or April...like I would give him the time of day now.

Since this was a referral from this delisted person, I'm betting this guy isn't a TER member...let me go on record and say I have NEVER had any gentleman from TER do something like this, so he's probably one of her "Back Page" dudes.

He does a 180 from your his last e-mail last night until the one he sent this morning so I  had a feeling his cancelling wasn't due to some kind of emergency!

Is he a jerk? Hell yes...but for a provider to refer a guy to another lady and and then change her mind is beyond low class and tacky. Did she even bother to ask him if he had already contacted me and made plans....who knows.

I would NEVER do this to another provider. I won't name her here because she's been delisted (big surprise).

Anyone wanting the name of the jerk who cancelled on me after comitting to a date and comitting to how long he was booking me for AND telling me what he was bringing me...please feel free to write me and I'll give you his "name" and e-mail addy.

I DO NOT like to be jerked around and have my time wasted. I don't do this to others and I don't expect OR tolerate it from others.

And to the provider who did this, since I know she still lurks here on a different computer...THANKS FOR NOTHING AND GET MY BANNER OFF YOUR SITE NOW IF YOU HAVN'T ALREADY DONE SO.

Sorry but this just needed to be said.

Steph

Steph I am so sorry this happened to you....but let's put it this way....when he shows up at the door and finds out that her pics are fake and so are her reviews.....well he will be begging to see you.  He will show up to a very old 60 year old lady that has pics of a 25 year old and she posts her own reviews and stalks and threatens both hobbyist and providers....well he will get what is coming to him....and one day she will too!

Blow it off....there is a wonderful TER gent coming your way soon to make up for this fuck up!


big kisses and hugs

But you are very intuative (sp, lol?)

I just don't appreciate someone referring a client to me then changing her mind and taking him back.

Ans I do know that this same provider wrote VERY nasty things to a well respected hobbyest this week. He was visiting our fair state and she really outdid herself

Steph

This was before I ever met her in person...my ATF client a millionaire is 55...he got soooo pisst at me for referring her to him....he said that she was way toooo old for even him!!!  He realized that I was as dooped at her fake photos as every one else and forgave me.

I saw her in person and I almost died when I saw how old and wrinkly she is...eeeegaddds!  She has fake photos up of like a 25 year old and she has fake reviews.  Threatens all clients an providers....huge danger to our community.

the guy is nothing to write home about either. That is simply something that you don't do. Once you've moved on, and "scheduled" a date with another lady, well, basically it's just too goddamn bad for the first one, who wasn't going to accomodate you in the first place.

Sounds like they belong together.

BTW...Yer spellin wuz korrekt!!!

If every man was as nice and respectful as you NONE of us would ever retire

And he was a total jerk. You know I NEVER get up on a board and vent, but this was just plain wrong on two different levels. I had the room booked and was so excited

xoxo,

Steph

Pretty PLEEZE

im very sorry that happy to me also  that why i allways  have the guy get the room so that way you want lose nothing

this explains quite a bit.

I can see how this has been a very stressful couple of days.

I'm very sorry you had to deal with this.

Hopefully, things will be better in a couple of days.

Just my opinion...
B

We'll get you three shrimp cocktails!!!

And please don't retire too soon, at least not until I can get back the the right coast.

I have no history with this unnamed (by you at least LOL) provider so have no reason to doubt she pulled a number on you. And for that she deserves scorn. Worse is the hobbyist that decided on his own to break your date. Apparently at the last moment.

Not to imply this is what happened in this particular case, but I can see an innocent scenario from a provider whereby she informs a hobbyist that she is unable to meet on a particular day and refers him to someone else. Then later, her plans change (perhaps someone cancels on her or whatever) and gets back in touch with the hobbyist to let him know she will be available after all, not knowing if he has indeed made a date with someone else yet or even ever contacted the other provider. After all, just because you suggest someone doesn't mean the hobbyist will automatically act on the recommendation, or that the other provider was available to make a date. I don't think the first provider would be wrong to let the person know she is now available. It would be up to the hobbyist to honor his agreement if he had made one. Of course is the provider does know an alternative date had been made, she should never entice someone to break it.

Regardless, I feel for your frustration. And I have the perfect solution to lift your spirits. Post another knockout pic of yourself. Oh wait, no, that would lift MY spirits.

Hugs.

SHE passed because she didn't want o get a hotel room and she referred him to me. And no my date with him was broken last minute, but he WASTED my timee all day and half the night with e-mails.

He had set date, how many hours he was booking me for AND even told me what he was bringing for me as a special gift. He was all excited about meeting me. Then today I get this vague reson for why he's cancelling...I ask him for an explanation and he came clean.

Then he get an e-mail from HER saying she's changed her mind, she'll get a room. I suspect that he e-mailed her to let her know he had made contact with me, told her he was booking for more than an hour AND had generously said he would pay for the room since it wasn't on one fo my regular incall day.

Then all of a sudden she will get a room, so bam, he cancels on me, out of some loyalty to her...and NO he's never seen her before.

She declined the date because she didn't want to go to the trouble to get a room to accomodate his special needs! I was all to happy to do so for him without any hesitation. Then I get the shaft!

But here's a pic for you baby...still hoping you'll eventually make the drive to RTP to see me.

xoxo,

Steph

still hoping for that edit feature to come back to us...

I was just offering up an alternative scenario where a provider could re-offer after suggesting someone else, so it shouldn't be an absolute rule not to do that. Still, a date might get cancelled as a result and the second provider gets burned, but in the scenario I dreamed up, the entirety of the blame goes to the hobbyist.

I did not mean to imply that is what happened to you. Its clear from your description that both original provider and hobbyist are at fault, and you are the one who got shafted.

Thank you for posting the pic. I never tire of them. Absolutely stunning.

What's it goona take to get you to make the drive, lol?

xoxo,

Steph

awwwwwwwww


ummm, a shorter commute? lol

and thru PMs.

It's why I can't live without my TER friends

xoxo,

Steph

Steph, not to pick on you, but as a word of advice to the ladies and the gentleman.  It's safest to give your opinion and recommendation on 1st hand info.  If it's not 1st hand, then you should be very clear of that.

Several of the legit ladies have highly recommended our delisted lady friend in the past.  Why?  Because our delisted lady friend is a good salewomen.  She was always quick to compliment and recommend other ladies.  A mutual admiration society of sorts develops with free flowing non-factual recommendations.

Our delisted lady friend has been running a scam for years.  The pictures from a year or so ago were actually of a known net model.  One of our fellow hobbiest posted a challenge with a link to the two web sites.  She acknowledged the fake photos on this forum and justified it as protecting her identity.  The logic was not quite there as the face was hidden in the fake photos.

The fakes reviews were obvious. 9/10 were all the same.  1/10 would say that the photos were fake.  I will say that most of the 10% did give her a positive review in the 5-7 range.  So, she must not be all bad.  All though, all 10% did mention that she was flaky and a LOT older and heavier than the fake photos.

Back to my caution, plugging for ladies that you really don't have 1st hand knowledge on is a mistake.  It affects the hobbiest and could affect your own reputation.

Our sweet gem of a friend has a staunch supporter in a BBW that posts under the name of an "upscale" town near Raleigh.  The support is mutual with free flowing mutual recommendation.  

C's reviews are also obviously fake self-reviews.  There is no way she can get all those 8's and 9's, with a 10.  I do not have 1st hand experience.  But, I will give her credit for not posting fake pics.  Her photos have to be real for I assume that no one would use fake photos that look like hers.

Guys, do your homework.  Look at all the boards, not just this one.  Use the search feature..  Google the phone number.  Back channel when in doubt

Steph, sorry to steal your thread to preach.  You're a real gem.  You've steered me to several more and away from a couple of problems.

I never mentioned her by name and my brrf had NOTHING to do with anything you're even talking about!

My posy was about HER referring a client to me becayse she didn't want to accomodate his special needs. He needed someone to get a hotel. SHE didn'y want to do that so she referred him to ME.

Then AFTER he had contacted me, set the date to see me, told me how long he was booking me for AND even boasted of special gifts he's be bringing me, SHE all of a sudden decided she wanted to see him and would accomodate him after all.

I really think she found out it was going to be a multiple hour date for me, with rembursement for the room included (he said he would do this for me), and at that point told him she would do it for  him.

My point is, if a lady passes in a date AND refers it to another lady, and knows the other lady (me) has a date with the guy, then it's just WRONG to try and get the date back.

As far as I'm conerned they were both wrong and showed a total lack of any regard for me whatsoever.

I wanted her to take my banner off her site (she put it up without my knowledge at first) as I don't want to be associated with her in any way.

And it's my understanding that at the present time she has pics of STORMY DANIELS up on her site as HER.

But my post was about me getting jerked around by two unprofessional, inconsiderate people.

Steph

PS And from your 3 reviews, you have some things to learn get about the selection process.

please excuse the numerous typos above. I need a new keyboard as half of my keys have the letters worn off completely, lol!

Steph