I was wondering if this has happened to any one, or is it common today?

I had a extend date with a lady ( 6 plus hours ) We agreed to meet about half way from each other as we both were several hours drive away from each other. We had a wonderful dinner date with a amazing play time after.  
The next day I get a message from her saying that i did not include the room rate in the gift. There was a tip on top of the roses that we agreed on.
We never talked about me paying for the room. I am at a cross roads about sending her the money for the room. I had a wonderful time with her and would like to see her again.
I would like to know everyone's thoughts, good, bad, or creative

Since this was neither technically an incall or outcall, it is one of those items that should have been agreed to in advance.  That said, it seems since she got the room with no clear indication that you would be responsible, then my inference would be it was part of her fee.  I guess it really depends on if you plan on seeing her again.  If so, and since she raised the issue, you now have a decision to make.

So I have to imagine her donation was well into the four digits, without any agreement to the contrary a "normal" person would assume that a donation that amounted to several times the actual room cost would have the room cost built in.

 
Now if you had seen her for a one hour session for only a few hundred bucks, I could see how it would be unreasonable to expect her to absorb the cost of the room.

 
I agree that if your time with her was so great, you might want to just "suck it up" and give in, I mean what's a couple of hundred bucks, right? but do I feel you "owe" her for the room? No I do not.

 
One last thought on the subject, If the room was less than 10% of the cost of the date, she really ought to absorb it. Let's say you gave her $2,000+ for the date and the room was $150, she really should absorb the cost. OTOH, if you only gave her $1,500 for the 6 hour date and the room was $250, I think I would be more likely to take her side on this

I do have to say though that as a lady in the biz, if she didn't have this specifically in her 6 hour package that the hotel room was an extra charge to be paid, I hope she has learned a lesson here. To prevent any confusion/disappointment all of this should have been covered beforehand so the gentleman could really "forget it was a service" instead of reminded it was after the fact!

Steph XO

You probably paid her enough money for her to cover her living expenses for the next 3 months and tipped her on top. Now you get a text looking for something that is in a grey area and is so small and inconsequential that she couldn’t let slide, I would send her the money with a note saying that you are glad to straighten this out and how much you are saving by cutting her off for good.

As a frequent extended dater this is silly!

1- Gambler or someone pointed out the higher math:  the cost of the hotel, assuming we’re not talking a Ritz Carlton is minuscule vs. the cost of the date. I’m Menza Menza - that’s Italian for “half and half” on whether the lady should have discussed said hotel bill up front

2- said lady is silly/wrong, bad bizwoman!  She wants to complain about $200 hotel $bill and piss off a Good Client who spent and presumably would spend much more.  She might win the $battle (cost of hotel) and lose the war (future $dates.

My $.02

Her actions were not well thought out but that’s how greed is, shortsighted and dumb.

You're going to take time using up mental space with this anyway, so why not use the time to scan over her website to look for a few things? Possibly you may have missed something.

If she is outcall only, and you specifically needed a room, or you two wanted to meet halfway to make it easier on her, or to get her to agree to go out of her way for you, I would say it's automatically assumed that is still an out call. Again, especially if she is outcall only.

Also scan to see if she has any etiquette for securing a room for you to visit her. Sometimes it could be on the etiquette page, sometimes it could be on the rate page in the notes section.

I may be wrong, but I'm gathering from this that you may have requested an outcall, and since it was several hours away, she agreed to meet you halfway distance wise in order to accommodate your request. This may not be the situation, but if it is, I would think that she would expect it to still be an outcall. Or at least take on the cost of an outcall. Several hours of driving, there and back, even halfway sounds like she's in the car for at least 4 hours round trip.

Depending on the distance, did she say that long of a drive was too much for her, and that's why you decided to meet halfway?

In the end, I'm a firm believer of having all Financial communication up front, but sometimes that's hard to do without ruining the fantasy. At least for some, I'm usually pretty straightforward with my expectations.

In my case, the rooms I get are 350-500/night. But I incorporate that cost into my minimum rate. Some do not, especially if they are generally outcall only.

Some things to think about, but I think it's just best to go through the emails to see if it was mentioned, go through her site, her etiquette page, and her rates page again. Like I said, you will be using mental space for it anyway, so a little research might give you some peace, and also some Trust for both her and you, so your future dates can be free of resentment on both ends.

Just an added note, this sounds like a miscommunication, I personally feel those kinds of expectations should be brought up if they are in a gray area before the client makes a decision to solidify the date. It's always great to know that everybody is good with all of the expectations. The problem here is, we don't have a whole lot of information to go by. Would you be able to clarify to help us?

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I do commend, based on your intention, that you tipped her. It sounds like you did appreciate her going out of her way to accommodate a date for you.

It sounds like you had good intentions

I’ve never discussed/negotiated $$ with a TER lady.  I confirm the $cost upfront and say “OK.”  That’s the absolute end of all $$money discussions.  I leave the envelope and that’s it.
Actually, I like my way of doing this! No drama!

I agree with everyone else that her expectations as to receiving compensation for the room should have been discussed earlier, and explicitly. However, I can understand a newer escort, or a provider new to touring, etc., may not be aware of industry norms, perhaps? I also like to give people the benefit of the doubt rather than just attribute something to greed and short-sightedness immediately, especially if you felt a connection.  
If you'd like to see her again and you feel it fair, perhaps ask if she's willing to absorb half the cost, and just split the room?

Thank to every ones input on this issue. I checked the room rate it was less that $200.00 and the time spent with her was almost $2,500.00
So i am going to say with the tip which was almost 10% I more that covered the room
The room rate is hers to cover, we never discussed the room.
So it looks like i may need to find a new lady.
Again Thank You to everyone for the input, it help greatly

Wow
I wanna pay for the room
And I'll spend 6 hours with you and save you some dough
And we will have a helluva good time
Just thinking 😍

She wants to argue about $200 when she received $2500+.  Brilliant. “How NOT to win friends and create enemies!”
If it were me I might do her a favor and send her the $200 and a note saying “here’s the $200 and I will never see you again!.”  Maybe she’ll “get it,” but, frankly I doubt it
My $03

Just a total insult, especially after leaving her a tip that more than covered the room. I suggest you contact her about paying for the room and say that you will pay her providing she returns your tip and request a check from her for $50 to make things even. Or a simpler solution would be a 3 worded response G.F.Y.

Given the details stated below than their is no other conclusion, the woman is a thoughtless mercenary and yes both shortsighted and greedy.

END OF MESSAGE

and for a date of that size she shouldn't have said anything to you about covering the room. I'd love to entertain you on an extended date! Feel free to reach out to me anytime!

Steph XO

I think she has a lot of balls to ask for more money in this case. Have you considered that maybe she doesnt give a shit if she sees you again?

It sure sounds like it. Iknow it may not be a big deal to just give her the money, but I dont like the way she went about this. It just doesnt sound like she values you as a client to me.

...if it's not on any her ads or profiles or her website and she didn't bring it up that's all on her.
She shouldn't be harassing after the fact.  
Is she new?

I can't believe a woman would want more money?! 6 hours ($2500+ later)?!  

If there wasn't anything mentioned in her decorum/etiquette section of her website, you don't owe her a DAMN thing!

I'm a working girl... Plus find someone else. She's making it bad for the rest of us.

Thanks to every one for the info it was greatly appreciated,
to clear everything up.
No mentioning on her web site about room payment
As far as the traveling Her dive was about 2 hours mine was about 4 hours
Let her pick the town and hotel.
We have seen each other many times over a couple of years. ( even extended dates over weekend and on trips ) That is what up set me on the issue.
So as of day, I am over her and looking for a new lady
Any ladies in NC please fill free to send me a message

I’m sorry you had to go through all that. I too believe any added expenses should have been discussed prior to meeting. Avoids issues like the one you’re experiencing.  

On the other hand it has now freed you up to experience some new ladies!

I visit the Carolinas often and would love it if you checked out my profile.

xoxo, JJ

She was just greedy. If it was only an hour then I would understand her concern, but you have paid her a good amount of money... I would have never asked for that!  

Saludos,

Kaeleen

Sorry to hear you had a great time and then the next day that happened!