I would rather seek out a few serious sugar daddies for me to provide non strings mistress type relationship to. I seek to share passionate intimacy. I would like to travel occasionally. I want someone to laugh with and to be friends with. Think of me as the icing on a married man's cake. I prefer you to be married. Many hobbiests like variety and that is thier choice, but I am looking for a man that wants a quality women who they can depend on and share life's little pleasures with. I want to be the one you can get lost in when you are having a bad day at the homefront. I want to be the exciting sexual dish you slip out to see after a hard day at the office. I am not cut out to escort. It involves being intimate with too many people and I am just not into that anymore. It also requires you to live a secretive life. I was fooling myself to think I was.

I say that sincerely...  I too prefer the warmth and easy familarity of regular interaction to the thrill of variety.  But I don't think it's the norm here!

You might want to try advertising on Craigslist Erotic Services...  There are a lot of guys there who are looking for exactly such NSA arrangements.

Have fun, MG

how would someone find out more about you?

Have you thought about seeing a number local gentlemen, establishing a meeting of minds with one or several of them and progressing from there? I suspect that a lot of providers would like the situation you describe, but it is more easily said than done. I think most guys here are looking for variety, but I'm equally sure there are exceptions, however rare. It is far more likely to happen with clients you have seen over a period of time and with whom you have established a rapport. I think it would be quite a long shot to establish a long term sugar daddy relationship by posting on a public board where you are an unknown newcomer. Though I sympathize with your feelings that you are "not cut out to escort," telling us all that won't bring you many new customers among whom you might have found "Mr. Right-Daddy!" Did you save any money from your escorting years that you could use to fund an education that would provide you opportunities for the living circumstances you seek? That way you could find the companionship you seem to desire without the requirement that he support you as a sugar-daddy. Good luck!

I've got one I've been trying to get rid of for years now but she won't leave. I prefer variety, and not getting too close to anyone.

You should post on Craiglist Erotic services..I am an independent provider and every client I see from Craiglist wants to be my GF but watch out they are cheapos..you need to weeds out the ones willing to pay! ~Good luck~

Like MG, I love familarity, but to me the term sugar daddy spells trouble. It means #1 a lot of money,which I don't have. Even if I did have money to burn, I don't think it would be a good idea. Simply because you could not possibly help falling in love with someone. Where would this possibly lead to other than a lot of heartbreak and an empty bank account? So what's the point? You may as well search for a real GF in the real world.

Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not trying to put you down. I think I understand what you're saying, but I honestly don't know why any guy would want to put himself in a dead end position like that.If I'm misreading your intentions and you want intimacy and freindship with a few select gentlemen, then I think I might be interested in appyling for the job.

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My best friend who lives in MN found a situation like that and I am so jealous
he sees her for one overnight session a week and gives her $300 each time and gives her sweet romantic gifts and all that.
i've been looking for a sugar daddy like that for like a year and she found one in less than a week of being a escort.
I'm a sensual massage provider mostly because of the same reasons you stated, but if I had a sugar daddy I would  do full service cause i'd think of him as more of like a boyfriend with financial benefits.
the only problem is my friends sugar daddy HAS fallen in love with her, even though he's married and although she likes his companionship, she said he's a great person to talk to and hang out with, she's not in love with him.
that's the only downside to something like that
Anyway good luck on that search and throw some of your leftovers this way.


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I have several men I see and they have become great friends, lovers and we share our lives together with certain limits.  In fact I just spent almost 2 days with one and if you can believe it we only made whoopee 3 times.  Proper care of a Sugar Daddy requires more than being a skillful lover.  It requires truly caring about a person, not just a wham bam attitude.

First off I can tell you that a guy who wants a mistress type of no strings affair does not want your face all over the Internet.  If he takes you to dinner, shopping or out to the theater he does not want to feel the whole world knows he is with an escort.  He also does not want to know who else you are seeing.  The time the two of you spend will be very intense, but can be mutually rewarding for both of you.  The warmth and companionship is wonderful, and the steady income is nice too.

You have to be willing to be a little more low key and under the radar for this type of experience because men who can afford such a relationship are usually established professionals.  They want the relationship on their terms, not yours.  Be willing to accommodate them but don't expect them to be part of your life on holidays and some weekends.  It is not a marriage, just a compensated affair that could change any moment.  You need to keep your mouth shut about the arrangement, even to your friends.  (I don't think they would want to be part of an online diary, no offense please as I enjoy your diary but a Sugar Daddy wouldn't)

If you are serious about establishing more upscale clients then you have to treat men right.  The half hour/hour mentality will not cut it.  Pretty Woman just got lucky, but usually it just doesn't happen without you making an effort to change the way you treat clients.  Lots of TLC, no clock watching, being accommodating, etc.  

I hope this has helped you as my intent was not to bash you.  It just seems that women think seeing many men is the way to achieve financial gain in this business, when in reality the true satisfaction in being a Sugar Baby is when you have a solid client base you can depend on because they get lost in the world you both have created over time, yet feel safe enough for you to be their confidant and lover.  This takes a mature attitude and patience.

I wish you success.  

ASB

I got a web site for you to go on where guys are looking to be sugardaddys.

That was a great post. Thanks for the info. Hon.

You know Sugarbaby, I have seen a few ladies in my three years of lurking around the boards raise this issue in one way or another. How they worked out, we never knew. But all seemed to be the same as Michelle, kind of looking for someone to take them down easy street just because the offer was made. You have put the subject in the best perspective I have ever seen it done. While I neither have the desire to be one, or could afford to do the Sugardaddy thing, if I did, it would be with someone like yourself who understands the intricacies of it. I have not seen your screen name before, so I dont know if you are familiar with me or not, but I have lurked the boards for nearly three plus years and have not seen an escort yet. This is a unique lifestyle on both sides of the fence, and for married men, descretion has to be paramount on both sides of the fence. You seem to have the best handle on that that I have seen yet. Really enjoyed your input.......OMR

OMR-

 I once offered to pop your cherry!  Being a Sugar Baby is demanding work and hardly easy street.  I wish it was about smiling, screwing and collecting money.  I have to hear about family problems, business problems, and at times make plans at a moments notice.  Some weeks I feel as though my life is hardly my own but I shouldn't complain because I do enjoy it since they are my relationships, very much like juggling 3 boyfriends.

 Ann, no offense, but I hardly believe Sugar Daddies post on boards.  The relationships I have shared have taken time and patience to develop.  Any guy posting on a board for a LTR with a provider is playing games.  In general, if guys post on a board it is because they are players, not normally guys looking for a second wifey without the strings.  Haven't we all had that new guy call and tell us he is looking to find someone to see on a regular basis?  Right, and it's always B/S. (right along side of "I have a lot of money")

 Thanks though..  OMR, you need to take the step and stop dreaming.  

 ASB

WOW....you could be one of three or four lovely ladies...another mystery unfolds. The step you speak of is tentatively scheduled for tomorrow night.....OMR

You mean you're finally going to jump in the pool? If so, good luck and most of all relax and enjoy.

Thanks for your welcoming insight on this subject. It's not easy being a mistress for a sugardaddy. This lifestyle is not for everyone.

We are all waiting to hear about it! Please let us know who the lucky girl was.