disclosing information on ladies.

There are lots of messages posted on TER boards by members mentioning their ATFs, including members of this board.  I don’t see a lot of gentlemen volunteered the name of their ATFs, their latest finds or what special services they got from the ladies as their regulars.  We all respect their rights to keep the info to themselves as they are the ones that put their money on the line.  Most of us won’t email or PM those gentleman and request their privilege info.

I think we should extend the same courtesy to loarthan as well.  He might still have strong feelings for that lady and simply regret the fact that his generosity and goodwill towards the lady are being wasted.  May be “witch hunt” is too strong a word to use.  However, reading his previous message, I can sympathize and understand the feeling of besiegement loarthan must have felt.  It is time to move on and take the lesson from his original message:  Behavior of a lady can change in a heartbeat; even previously reliable lady can turn into someone that is untrustworthy.

p.s. I am hesitant to get involve as I don’t live in the Boston area; hence I won’t be affected by the lady mentioned in loarthan’s original message.  However, I think it is worthwhile to post this message and present a more compassionate and understanding point of view on this matter.

.......than meets the eye! I seem to recall (actually I know the entire story!) an incident that happened to a very good friend of mine not too long ago. Not that the situation(s) were similar but the end result might have been. The gentleman (no he is not a member of a "club") had been badly "mistreated" (o.k. - he was used!) by a provider and he posted his concerns on the "other" board. He had written to me earlier and asked what I thought his options were and I had told him to just get out the paper towels, clean up the mess and move on. The reactions on the board ran the complete gaunlet from lynching to appeasement with the "normal" praise coming from some on the surface and the opposite words in their back channel remarks. In other words, the normal!

What wasn't written by the poster was that the provider had personal information about him and had "threatened" to contact people that were "influential" in his life if he did post her name. BTW -- this does NOT mean I am in favor of LESS verification or more a client to give whatever information the provider requests for her comfort level. Quite the opposite. If you, as a client, aren't comfortable with giving out the information requested then move on -- there are ladies that will see you and will meet YOUR comfort level as well. Anyway, my point is that my friend was left in a very precarious position and finally simply posted that the matter had been mutually resolved.

I would "think" that perhaps Loarthan might give out more of the information - PRIVATELY - but that decision still remains entirely with him!

Just my 50 cents.

Ted