Pretty simple, do you prefer younger/older/don't care?

Being in the 40 and above crowd I actually like the ladies closer to my age. Just makes the fantasy seem a little more real?  

Once in a while the early 20 something is fun just because, but many of them have the I'm 20 and hot attitude (not all).

I always find it amazing how many ladies admit they are older than they posted. Do the ladies think we all want young chicks? I think there must be a lot of "cougar experience" seeking guys out there too

It does not matter to me at all as I am an equal opportunity fucker and no fucking provider can ever sue me for age discrimination as I have dated them from 18 to 65.

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I think cougars are as hot or hotter than women in my age range because they know how to look sexy without trying too hard, they can hold their liquor, and they seem to take things slower in bed... When I compare the two girl on girl hookups I have had this year, my more nasty, wild night was with a 21 year old and my more satisfying was with a 40+ year old woman who took her time....

Skyjockey, is the "cougar experience" a slowed down "girl friend experience"?  

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I have a father so the daddy issues are inexplicable really.  
I like the way well-kept older men look, and emotionally I enjoy the power differential.

I don't like to be challenged in the bedroom by a partner who is all over the map because he doesn't know how to make himself feel good or what he truly desires, let alone how to make me feel good.
Sexual relationships between two people in their twenties just feels so...antagonistic for lack of a better word.  Its like "what are you going to do for me"? - "no what are you going to do for ME".  
The older men get the more they develop a taste for giving pleasure which yields a ferocious desire in their partners to return the gift.
In the bedroom older men have just generally experienced enough women to know & understand their own fantasies, needs and express themselves sensually.  
There is a lack of inhibition, an absolute lack of fear of sexual rejection and a willingness to explore even if limited by a limited vanilla sort of taste that comes with older men- even if you can't get kinkier you can always go deeper into each other and that just isn't something I've experienced with younger men.
Out of the bedroom...well, lets just say I'm like a bad toy dog-"YIP YIP YIP YIP YIP" until someone comes along and says "SIT girl" and then I feel I've been given permission to kind of chill the fuck out and not be so high strung.  I'm easily stirred and my temperament needs someone that knows how to handle- and I mean HANDLE a woman and make her purr.  That's something that comes with age- men of a certain age can identify what I need in a matter of minutes.

I admit very freely, when age 21-28 crosses my reservation form I'm not really all that interested unless they seem special or interesting (different?) in some way.  I've had this conversation many times with a certain someone who will chime in any minute now to say how much she loves to corrupt the young boys...but sex with guys younger than me does nothing for me, sex with the 40-60 crowd can fry my brain.  Though I am capable, I'm not the teacher- I like to be taught & I like to follow.

I think age matters in the context of our personal needs.  
What we fetishize in terms of age is as emotional as it is visual for those of us who have preferences about age.  I envy those who are *truly unlimited their attraction and can sleep with any age and be as present with one as they are with next.

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......when I look at a lot of the guys who are interested in seeing me I notice a lot of them have tastes all over the places 20's, 30's and 40's.   I think with this kind of question you're probably gonna get many prefer older and you'll get a sprinkle of "don't care".  Reasons some guys in their 40's might stick to ladies closer their age is they might have kids and don't want to feel older like they're dating their daughter or something, assume they won't anything in common with someone in their 20's, might have had too many meh experiences with 20-something (and maybe even 20-somethings etc)....yeah i've seen this asked more than a few times but all good.

Haha I love to corrupt the youngins.  It's priceless when you can slow their little butts down and show them how to appreciate a woman.  I like to teach sometimes, and sometimes I like to be taught =) I am a provider who posts on BP and sometimes I even post a "come to mama" or "hot for teacher" thread.  This has made it possible for me to encounter obvious virgins.  Sweaty palms.  Outrageous nervousness.  An empty vessel for me to fill with the knowledge they need to become amazing  lovers.  Then patting them on their little bottoms, saying "now go and blow the socks off those young civilian girls in their 20s!" I still get emails from them or follow up emails after they get a girlfriend.  

On the other hand, there's something amazingly sexy about a guy who is confident and comfortable with himself.  Men in their 40s or so do know what they like but they're also ready for experimenting without feeling embarrassed to ask. A man who wants to treat himself to the finer things in life is so much fun to be around, both in the bedroom and out.  These are the ones I go on dinner dates, sporting event dates, concert dates, Charter boat fishing dates, shows, etc... With. I also like the challenge of bringing something new to the table when I see them long term.  After all, if you wanted the same thing out of your partner every time, you'd be fucking your wife or girlfriend.  

Luckily, I'm a provider and I get to experience all ages in all their glory, awkwardness, confidence, cockiness, shyness, etc...

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I dont see anyone under 40 and prefer it that way for so many reasons,
Sex is a like a waltz, practice makes perfect.
The way to better understand sex is to better understand a woman. Now that takes time.
I find men who have been in long term relationships stand a better chance of being able to satisfy and be satisfied. they know women are layered. there are many many sides of us. we are made up of many different layers.
Most men who once have reached 40 sex is greatly appreciated like a waltz they get it. I want that. My days of that fast crazy fucking for that one orgasm are many yrs behind me...I know theres more to it and more than one orgasm to be had by all...lol.
Basically my lovers I prefer in the 40 plus range and the 50s I see as the sweet spot.  
I advertise noone under 40 Im just not interested. The ones that dont get it are under 40...lol
They think sex with a young guy has got to be better...I always say to them Practice makes perfect right, so in 10yrs you are going to be ready to play with.
xox
Nic

Great Post Ally.

It is interesting at my age,  48,  I always thought the "I only see over "40" was because we
were easier dates. I am a "One Pop" guy, could probably do 2 on weekend dates but not really interested. I always figured the younger clients could fuck for an hour. LOL

I will not see men under 40...the 40+ male simply does IT for me

I am with Nicole on this one

attitude and chemistry is everything. For me the only way to know is to meet a woman in person. It is for this reason that I enjoy meet and greets. Just like most people physical is very important but not the end all.

Well said!

Mj
 

I seem to have several late twenty some things that have worked out wonderfully. They are however not what I expected and courted me for quite sometime via email to assure me they were mature and their fun, outgoing personalities were what sealed the deal. I am generally in favor of the 35 plus set. I simply am attracted sexually to a more grown man who is at the point in his life where his more sexually liberated and can fully enjoy himself. I like having fun both in and out of the bedroom and don't take myself too seriously. I want to enjoy time with a man who isn't trying to prove himself but just enjoy the moment as much as he can. More mature men of any age can do this.

Grace

if you ask me if age matters? Nah.
My youngest client: 18/yr old female
My oldest client: 87/yr old professor
I have found, that age has little to do with maturity or couth (in clients).

I have met gentlemen who are well beyond the age of having learned some social graces, and are the most obnoxious, overly tacky, too excitable, awkwardly rough and gawky.....
and I have also met the young buck fellas, who have had such an old soul around them, and an genuine interest in being a good lover and making sure that I have an enjoyable time.....

Age often has little do with with how a booking with turn out

...since I've slept with anyone over 32, but this thread is making me think that I should try someone older.  For the most part, I've been enjoying 19 to 20 year old low volume providers / sugar baby types, and it's very nice.  I'm more the dominant type, and it works well between me and a younger woman.  Especially those with very strong sexual appetites.  Can anyone suggest a non-college aged girl who is petite (I like 5-1 to 5-5, 100 to 115 lbs) with natural boobs and a genuine interest in take-charge older guys?

However, more doesn't mean only. If I see a younger one, that's cool, too. I look younger, am shy, and seem younger, I guess, so it works with the kiddies, as well.
I could be fooling myself, though. haha

Age definitely matters. I had absolutely no concept of the term GFE until I gained years & life experience. GFE is within us- not merely a "service". When I was younger I thought GFE was a set of actions & services provided... How wrong I was.

In civilian dating, our culture offers a formula that keeps the male from chasing too young a female. Principally, it protects very young girls from pursuit by sexually developed teen-age boys. It also works well to prevent the perceived "disgrace" of an aging widower dating a 23-year-old chick. Actually, it works nicely at all civilian age levels.  

* HER AGE shall be no less than half-his-age plus seven years.

That translates to:  

* HIS AGE shall be no more than twice-her-age minus 14 years.

So, for example, if he's 48, she should be 31 or older.

Another example: If she's 22, he should be 30 or younger.  

Maybe this formula could be applied in the P4P world where taste alone fails as a determinant.

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I think this applies to the real dating world a lot more than this world. Your example of a 48 yo guy is very close to my situation and I think dating a 31 yo is a bit young even for me. I met someone on Facebook who is a friend of a friend that is that age and she was hitting on me but I had the I'm almost as old as your parents thing kinda creeps me out

But as far as this hobby goes it doesn't bother me if she is in her 20's because it is just a 1 hr fantasy. I get to sleep with the highschool cheerleader that wouldn't even say Hi to me when I was in school.

Well, the above was the theory. Now for the lab part. Run your age against the age of the provider you saw last. And the provider you hope to see next. Tell us about the results.

Seems as though the culture doesn't mind a guy going with a gal who is perhaps five years older than he. But when she's more than ten years older, eyebrows fly up.  

So, in this example of a 48 year-old guy, the gal could be anywhere from a MINIMUM of 31 to a maximum of, say, 48+5=53. That's really a comfortably broad range (no pun intended).

Yes, P4P is a fantasy; so different tastes and other rules do apply.

last admitted to being 44 advertises 37 lol
Next?? Have tried to contact above, one late 20's but too far away and my 30yo fav but no one is around

I am the same way. Granted, I enjoy sex with all kinds of folks but I do find myself gravitating to folks older than me. I'm bi and this goes for men and women. The average age of folks I get with is mid thirties, so a little over ten years my senior. Its not something I consciously do, it just has turned out that way.  

I think it has a lot to do with the way I live my life. I have been independent for a long time and most of my peers are just leaving mom and dads house for the first time. They just seem way behind the learning curve for me. I am very comfortable with who I am, sexually and otherwise and for whatever reason, that can really throw off other twenty somethings. Plus, I would echo what Ally said- experience does matter. I do enjoy helping folks find their pleasures and find their inhibitions, but I love being with someone who knows what they want, knows how to get it and most importantly, knows how to communicate their wants- mostly I think a lot of twenty somethings are just finding their adult language and that can be difficult to navigate around