Hey Folks. I have been speaking with a provider who I -v-e-r-y- seriously want to meet with. She is speaking to me on e-mail and has asked for a deposit because I don't have a previous reference.  

There are many ways to pay ahead, see the thread on the Newbie board:

...your last question.... Yes, you probably are the first with "this problem".

Firstly.. I specifically didn't mention the provider for a reason. I don't for a second believe she was doing anything wrong. The problem was entirely on my end.  

should be your new name in Boston.

shes not about making enemies but rather friends.

Every person is not a good fit either. sometimes you have to just pass
best to move on and theres plenty of women.

Next time though if you have any questions ask the lady directly and avoid all the shenanigans.

Let me see if I got this right. So, you had no references and very specific requests? And you found a well-reviewed provider who was willing to accommodate both your special requests and your status as a newbie, assuming you could satisfy a very reasonable request for a deposit? And instead of thanking your lucky stars and making sure that you kept this amazing lady happy by being sure about the deposit amount, you decided that a random (and ridiculous) amount of $75 made sense as a deposit? Even forgetting about the bit about changing dates, this is one whopper of a doozy of a fuck-up.
At least you admit you screwed up; I'll give you that. The important thing is to learn from mistakes. I doubt you've "made an enemy". I'm sure she's bigger than that; she's already moved on and forgotten about you. You probably will have other opportunities in the future. The hobby can be very forgiving of mistakes. Hopefully, you won't take your luck for granted next time.
Happy hunting

Like I said.. I had no issue with the deposit. But I was never told how much. She proposed a "gift card" to a web shopping place. OK, that makes sense. But why would I force her into a large amount when the name of the game is cash?? Why wouldn't I just dump the whole amount in the card? If I do this I am forcing her where and how to spend it. That doesn't make sense now does it?  

There were no shenanigans, just inefficiencies in the system.

I have previously met with Chloe as well and had no problems scheduling or coordinating our rendezvous. In fact, she was very meticulous about keeping track of all the details of our meeting.  She is definitely a professional - really class act.  

Where do you live where there isn't a CVS, Walmart, Walgreens, rite aid, etc.... Within a 15 min drive?
--- I'm interested because I'd like to move there