Went to your website and took a look around.
Here are a few comments that reflect my feelings.
I reflect here on both your site and your service.
First, I really dislike sites that attempt to lay down the law in no uncertain terms. You can set rules and boundaries without sounding like the Gestapo. Melinda and Marcella both have sites which set their limits without coming off like a drill instructor. You might consider modeling their attempts more closely. Your site is clear in what you will and will not do, what you expect for donations, protocol and the like, While I was informed, I also felt like I was reading the instructions for filling out my 1040's in April. Not the experience you want your potential clients to have.
Second, the matter of kissing. Sorry, this may be your preference, but this always gets my goat. You are willing to engage in several, very intimate activities with me, but when it comes to kissing, I am not good enough? Please!!!! Get off the Julia Roberts bandwagon and remember that kissing is fun, nothing more. You can be a GFE without kissing and personally, I won't see providers that don't kiss. BTW, you don't have to engage in full out, down the throat, tickle the tonsils, tongue wagging DFK to be a good kisser. Some of the best kissers know how to kiss without a full-blown exchange fo salivia.
Finally, find someone with a good digital camera and some sense of photography and retake your pictures. You are probably a great looking woman, but I can hardly tell it from the pictures on your website. BTW, that outfit works for some women, but not for you. I am quite sure you would look better in just about any other outfit, but that one is NOT doing anything for your presentation. I am not trying to be mean here, just honest. Again, take a look at Melinda's & Marcella's sites for examples of selecting outfits that complement and present well.
Hope you really wanted commentary and can accept my observations as constructive. I wasn't responding to hurt you, just to help you as requested.
Good luck and good life,
Loarthan
PS: If you are offended by my comments, please send me an email and address me directly. Don't castrate me in public, we get that enough around here anyway. If anyone else thinks I was out of line, sorry, but I don't live for your put-downs.
If you don't want her blasting you on TER, why didn't you email her privately yourself? You were a bit harsh on the poor girl, constructive criticism is one thing, but you probably embarrassed her. Have some tact...
Thank You caradown, You are right I am quite embarrassed and feel quite degraded by his comments.
Like I said, that's just him. Tactful?? He doesn't know the meaning of the word
You'll get use to him in time. I wish you all the best.
He is very blunt but constructive criticism is good..he makes some very valid points.
~Good luck & welcome~
If you feel degraded and embarrassed by this bit of commentary, you really aren't going to last long in business as a provider or in any other profession for that matter.
Grow up little girl, its real life out here, no one is going to candy coat the world for you.
I agree, but that's Loarthan , at least he's honest about it
He has a pretty good point about the kissing. It is everything to me too...but having said that, I respect a ladies right to pick and choose....
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After your posting you do deserve a public castration. I asked for feedback, not a bashing comentary. But I am very much a lady, so I will leave it at that. Like I said I am new at the internet provider service and did not see your criticism as constructive. I found it derogatory, insulting, and hurtful.
I agree that his comments were not politically correct. But while you can dismiss his comments as derogatory, insulting, and hurtful, he was expressing his honest (albeit blunt) opinion. And honesty can actually be a scarce and valuable commodity in this business. It's quite possible that others who do not share his frank style might share his opinions...
It's always tempting to dismiss criticism, especially when it's delivered with the finesse and tact of a sledgehammer. But the ladies and agencies who succeed best keep an open ear, even as they decry the tone...
In any case, welcome to our rough-and-tumble home on the internet!
Have fun, MG
Enough with the mock indignation.
His comments were just his honest opinion. Get a grip and be grateful. It's called constructive critism. The BS of sugar-coated political correctness is sickening. It common to see this tactic. Instead of arguing the issue, you argue the delivery.
You can accept or reject his comments but a public castration?! Oh, please... enough already. I guess this is where "diversity" of opinion is unwanted.
Off with their balls!
... you might want to upgrade your site at some point.
I had looked at your site earlier. The writing sounds defensive (to my ears). I wouldn't see you because of your concerns about kissing, but you have to make your own choices. Most of us don't want to dominate you. However we don't view the encounter as a question about who dominates whom. Words and their meaining are often misunderstood. However, you don't describe yourself as I woman I would enjoy making love with.
Have you thought about restricting your practice to S&M only. You might be more comfortable with that approach (How does Mistress Katie sound?).
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