Sunday my ATF for the past couple of years was supposed to come over my place,  which has been the arrangment the past few months. She never showed up and no call or text either, I text her a few times and even called her which I don't like to do because I dont want to bother her etc. I cant help to worry about her and hope that she didn't have an accident on her way to see me. It may seem weird but while I love what she does for me in the bedroom I truly like and respect her as a person, she is a single parent and I was also and having an alcoholic ex. with a ton of drama  was the reason I started to hobby in the first place. Yesterday I stayed home from work and have been drinking and worrying for 2 days now, one more day and I will have to let it go and hope for the best maybe she found her Prince or maybe she lost her phone, etc. It sucks worrying about someone you care about but don't really know.

Get that book...Lemme explain something to you these,girls are out here for one thing and one thing only..Thats your money..

I want you to read the reviews on your ATF and you will notice similarities between your visit and the next guys visit.. What she did with you she did with countless other guys..

So I can assure you she is fine and doing well but for some reason she didn't want to see you..You need to now do what she did and that's move on to the next one..

FYI some of the big drama going on out here lately is a provider ask to borrower money from a hobbyist and never paid him back then she black listed him..He thought he was cool with her but not so much..

END OF MESSAGE

Unless she was in a car accident, got kidnapped by Aliens, or something worst, any other excuse at this point is not valid. Part of the problem that most gentlemen complain about, is the lack of common courtesy (yes, providers are affected by that also). It takes two minutes to send a text and cancel but it make time a long time to make things right to the other person.. Golden rule always!

... this is probably the worst place for you to meet someone and start getting attached to them. It's easy to forget that it's business.

Ok sgtrock43 I will try to be PC..

lovestodive...I'm sure she has a reasonable explanation for all of this..I'm sure your feelings are mutual for each other.So give it some time she will be back..  


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Now doesn't that feel better

"Your just a trick to me" sad but true this is what many of these women feel about men.

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When we do truly admire you and have had a relationship with you for years...after a while we realize that the simplest changes in our behavior can make our tasty client think it will be over soon.

Worrying about someone you care for is natural, but worry moreso that she is safe and healthy both physically & mentally. You never know what is going on and since this is a "secret life" its not as simple to keep our secret friends informed up to the minute as we would like. Not making excuses for your friend at all. Just encouraging a more positive outlook in case positive energy is what she needs sent her way even if she is in the wrong. We all make mistakes and it sounds like this is a rare thing.  

Please note I have not read each response to the OP

I appreciate the Summer reading suggestion but I will probably wait for the movie, but it sounds like a chick flick and probably skip all together. I suffer from "CRS" like a lot of us do and in a couple of weeks  and it will probably be game on!!! I have had my heart broken by plenty of women my whole life but this was the 1st time by a GFE. Somehow I know I will bounce back better than ever. Lol

Yes that's the way I see it and appreciate your thoughts and hope that she is ok, you summed it up better than me. I broke 1 of my own rules. That Booze and electronic devices don't mix. Lol

If you've been visiting someone regularly, in spite of the secrecy of it all, you do get to know the other person to a degree and it's normal healthy human behavior to like the person, feel empathy towards them and be concerned for their well being. In fact I'd think it more abnormal if one simply shrugged it off and didn't think of it. It's normal to like the people you visit over and over; if you didn't like them you wouldn't repeat visit.

I truly like the person I have seen regularly this year. She's a very nice, genuine, caring person. That's not to say I lose track of the circumstances we find our aqaintence and I'm certainly not suffering under any delusions as to what this is in the end, a client/customer relationship. Also just because I genuinely like her as a person that doesn't necessarily mean she thinks that way about me necessarily. Although she does have the freedom to not to schedule a visit with me if she disliked me. I have clients at work who are genuine, nice people also. I would worry about them if they disappeared just as I'd worry if suddenly my regular friend in this world disappeared. I have clients at work who probably like me but I don't really like them, because they aren't nice to me or especially if they aren't nice to my staff.  But even if they disappeared I'd be concerned for them/their family.  

It's not an unhealthy thing, it's just humanistic concern for the well being of another.  

Something the world could use a whole lot more of.