Recently a member of the Boston board community posted regarding his frustration with a local agency. According to the poster, he was refused services because he is black. Other threads relevant to this topic have appeared this week on the Florida, Boston, Atlanta and National boards.

This topic goes beyond the issue of racism. Some would say that providers should see everyone. We know that, realistically, this is not the case. Some ladies impose age restrictions or weight or other restrictions related to physical appearance as well as race restrictions. What is the answer?

A. See everybody or get out of the business.

B. The other restrictions are okay but restrictions based on race are not.

C. It’s her body; she can impose whatever restrictions that she feels necessary.

D. The answer is C but she must tell us about it upfront.

E. [Your solution]

This is a hot button topic without question. Take a look at the existing threads.

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=19377&boardID=9&page=6

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=77725&boardID=12&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=7407&boardID=16&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=15420&boardID=18&page=1

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=19878&boardID=9&page=1

I would like to invite everyone who has an opinion on this topic to a chat in the Boston chat room next Wednesday, February 18th @ 9:00 P.M. ET/ 6:00 P.M. PT. (If you’re located in another time zone and you’re confused, just enter the chat room the night before. At least you’ll be guaranteed a good seat.

thirsty

Hey Thirsty!

I am going to put in my 2 cents right now since I get too heated up about things like this, plus I don't have my laptop right now to join the chat.  I have read some of the posts on the other boards and everyone is entitled to their opinion.

From my stand point I feel that in this day and age racism is absurd.  The fact that someone had the audacity to say that certain ethnic groups smell is beyond me.  I have seen quite a few african american men and seem to attract a lot of middle eastern men.  Cleanliness has never been an issue with ethnic groups but is ocassionally with some men in general (and women I'm sure).  I have seen "Anglo" clients that have not bathed prior to seeing me and I find that anyone knowingly scheduling an appointment and not practicing proper hygeine is gross.  I make damn sure I am clean before seeing anyone.  Is washing your privates or using deodorant so hard??  On the other hand 99% of my clientele is squeaky clean so that's not usually issue.

As far as the age, size, handicap, etc issues I don't discrimate there either.  For age I do prefer someone over 30 due to maturity level and in this business people have to understand discretion.  I have found that some of the younger ones don't get that.  It doesn't mean that I don't have clients under 30 because I do. Some of the older men act immature so it's a case by case basis.

With all that said I do agree with you that it is the providers choice to see who she wants and for whatever reason not see who she wants.  It is also the choice of the hobbiest to see who is wants, etc.  Many men have expressed the feelings that they don't like BBW's.  That is their purgative.

This is a unique "career/hobby" where the rules are made by the people involved.  One of my reviews was not a favorable one because the hobbiest had never been with a larger woman and wanted to "try me out since I was close".  Wrong reason but it happened.  When reading his other reviews I apparently was the only one that provided full service but because I am larger and not model material he didn't find the session enjoyable. He is entitled to his opinion.

And life goes on....

Rose  

It doesn't matter if you call it racism, bigotry or ignorance because it all comes down to freedom of choice of the provider.  I can't say if this particular instance is right or wrong because I don't know all of the details.  None of us do, only the provider and hobbyist know for sure.  From his point of view it doesn’t sound right.  If she had a problem, she should have made it known up front.  There is so much screening that goes on and none of it seems to be about looks.  We screen providers all the time by their looks; it’s only fair that they have the same opportunity.  Although, I don’t agree with what Lady Rose said about certain people smelling, because I didn’t see that written in the previous thread.  If I missed it, I’m sorry.  I really feel for the gentleman that this happened to and I wouldn’t return to that service again either.  The easiest way to keep something like this from happening in the future is for the provider to list any and all guidelines for potential hobbyists.  They do it all the time regarding age.  And if they have too many issues, maybe they’re in the wrong line of work.
I could go on forever, but I’ll stop with my $.02 worth

you can't require a provider to see ANYBODY. at least the one in question made it clear upfront her prejudice.

i find prejudice repulsive and i try to avoid association with those people. if a provider embodied every adolescent fantasy i have ever harbored but stated on her website that she would not see people of certain race, creed, or color, then i would not see her no matter how much i wanted her.

ageism is a little more difficult. ROSE, you know i love you, but think about what you are saying: it's NOT ok to deny clients because of their race, but it IS ok to deny them because of their age? "prejudice" just means to pre-judge. aren't you pre-judging all those under-30 men who want to get together with you? why is it ok to set a limit based on an age prejudice but not on a race prejudice? i have several under-30 male friends that i would trust with my life, and quite a number of 30 - 50 male acquaintances that i would not allow to bag my groceries.

anyway, i think that there is a misconception about prejudice in our culture. we've made it politically incorrect so we think that maybe it has gone away. it's there, it's strong, it's just as ugly as it has always been. we're just required to make believe that it doesn't exist while we're in public.

p.s. rose, didn't mean to pick on you sorry about your lonely upcoming valentine's day, i hope at least one of the nice guys from around here grows a brain and calls you up (trust me boys, you can't go wrong) i myself will be spending most of the day with 20-25 teenage girls in spandex

Clarence,

I love you too babe and I'm not pissed about what you said.  I said or meant to say that I "prefer" men over 30.  I don't NOT see a guy because he is in his 20's.  However, if I feel that the person in question is immature through his emails or phone calls then I won't see him.  In general and/or my experience some of the younger ones tend to ask rude and explicit questions.  That doesn't mean that older men haven't done the exact same thing and I will quickly deny seeing them as well.  Actually, the only appointment I have EVER cancelled during was with a man (not gentleman) that was in his 40's.  We went out for dinner prior to "dessert" and he was extremely rude to me, the waiter, the hostess....I don't put up with that crap.

That being said Clarence I highly suggest you get your cute butt up here to be my Valentine or at least send those under 30 guys up in your place.  I can take 'em all...I woman hear me roar!!