Darling, you just went H.A.M. for no reason.

LOL

There are rules that govern provider ad posts and DD is merely posting them.  How is this over moderation?  You don't even have to open the post since you are not a provider...

Why is it that only the Boston and New England Boards is where the moderator feels it is so imperative to post a 600 word, “Provider Ad Posting Guideline” all the time?  

And why is it stated in all CAPS that it is REQUIRED reading ?  

Is Boston and New England the only area in the country where the ad posting situation is so bad that we need these Nazi like rules spelled out every 4-5 days in a 600 word post?

And what if the providers don’t do the REQUIRED reading?  Do they get spanked?
And who monitors this reading REQUIREMENT?    
Are the ladies in the rest of the country following some rules of order but when they post on the New England and Boston boards they go all wily nily just to jam up the moderator?

Where does this compulsion come from to treat grown adults like children?

Am I the only one who feels we’re being over moderated and is bothered by this Nazi like phenomenon?    I’d don’t see any other moderator posting any “REQUIRED reading” post of Ad Guidelines every week and I don’t see why we need it here.

I find these "REQUIRED" reading post every week, 10 times more offensive than any Provider ad I've ever seen posted here.

sitting back down now....

that might be seen as an ad for your new Dom services
lol

Do a search on other regional boards, and you will find similar posts to what DD put up here. You have NO clue what moderators put up with behind the scenes, and you obviously have no respect for authority. A moderator has authority over the board members, and those who choose to ignore helpful FYI posts do so at their own risk.

The last thing moderators need is something(or someone) hindering their ability to function and maintain order, especially a veritable newbie like you. You've been here just over a year, and you think you know it all, don't you?

I'd bet that nobody can tell you a damn thing.

I was over-moderated last week,and last month ,too.I think.

http://theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=148792&boardID=9&page=1

Enjoy!

When you ask:
"Where does this compulsion come from to treat grown adults like children?"

The answer is:
When grown adults act like children.

Your own post, and the number of inaccuracies in it, is a perfect example.

You truly have no idea what you are talking about.
Beyond that....Sojourner7 and Bostonguy57 stated it extremely well.

The fact that your post was allowed to see the light of day...is proof that this board is not "over moderated".
You can feel free to ponder that until your head explodes from the irony.

Just sayin'

That does beg the question, what has happened to the Boston "Discussion" Board?

Has it been moderated to the point that it just allows and encourages "discussion" about when the ladies are available?

Just review the threads on the Board.  Yes, DD, this thread answers his question.

This Board has eliminated everything but ads from the Boston "Discussion" Board.

I will agree that the Boston board is woefully devoid of "discussion.
I will agree that it is presently not much more than an ad board, at best.

If you, or anyone else, wants to blame that on moderation...you can join the ranks of those who have no clue what they are talking about.
You'd be hard pressed to find anyone who hates an "ad board" more than I do.....but I can only approve posts if someone makes them.
Got that? Simple concept.
There's no discussion because no one is trying to liven up the board with any.
I've started the Provider Friday thread since I began here....and occasionally a lady will attempt to start a daily picture theme thread.

What YOU and others need to be concerned about is what have YOU done to improve YOUR board and make it what YOU want it to be?

If some of you want to sit back, contribute nothing, and occasionally bitch about me and whine about the board....go right ahead. I'll approve 'em because I believe in freedom of speech.
But don't make the common mistake of blaming someone else when you offer nothing in the way of improvement.

Bottom line is that this is YOUR board, people. Make it what YOU want it to be!!

Classic denial.

You are the Mod, but you don't believe in moderating.  You believe in freedom of speech.

Don't blame the moderator, cuz he can't approve posts that aren't being made?

Huh??  You approve everything?  I'll guess I'll take you at your word, since no one but you would have that info.  Oh, and the posters who don't get posted.

Perhaps the Board is where it is, not because of you (giving U the benefit of the doubt (wink)) but because of your predecessors?

DD, are you an elected politician?  If not, you may want to consider a change in careers.  

I know, DD, you are not the problem, you are the solution.

Do you accept PayPal?

The board is not being micro moderated. YOU are.

The job of the moderator is to monitor the board and approve posts that are not spam, do not contain viruses, and are not against the rules of the site admins.
It's an easy description, and it's exactly what I do. Even people who I don't like, or are painfully stupid, get to post.

You're upset because a post you made did not get approved. I explained in private, and will do so in public, that crapping on a provider ad is NOT allowed. Not on any board....not on this one....not ever.
If you have an issue with a provider you should contact her privately...as I suggested you do.
You didn't want to to that...you wanted to call names and start an argument.
So yet AGAIN today you try to slip the same thing in. Guess what? That one won't see the light of day either.
You're more than welcome to start your own thread if you want to bring your issues up in public...and you'll likely get your ass handed to you....just like the last time.
If you want to blame me when it's you who is too oblivious, rude, or dense to understand the rules....well that's your problem and not mine.

Once again, for any whiners and complainers out there, follow the SIMPLE rules of the board and damn near anything you want will go up.
FYI....I post the rules for provider ads....and helpful tips about how to post pictures....so that I don't have to deny 20 ads a day, then get all the follow up PMs about why the ad was denied.


Maybe I'll just take my foot off the brake and approve every single post in the approval queue for a day or two. Then you can see the first page of your board covered in spam ads from providers, spam from different countries, web links that contain viruses, and posts written in other languages.
Something tells me that the very same complainers would still be complaining.

Is this an example of the "humor & intelligence" you were saying you bring to the board?

Nice try. Epic fail.....but nice try.

That must be why this post never saw the light of day last Monday????



"Today the birds sounded a little sweeter, the grass a little greener, the air a little cleaner. RIH(rot in hell) Bin Laden!!!"

...and if Ally starts a BDSM service I want to be her first client... I can do a fantastic "YES MISTRESS!" *WINK*

Personally, I am not ignorant to TER's processes and I understand the position, limitations and responsibilities of a moderator.

I respect authority and I give respect to those who earn it through consistent, unbiased action.
RCProNo1 (formerly of the DC board) was the finest TER moderator I've seen in my five years (firm, exceedingly fair and without personal agendas or vendettas), and I lament that MrFrench's over the Boston tenure was so short.

With being said I think that if a moderator encourages a
"fight club" atmosphere (or drives one with his own alias use) it can mean users are less inclined to participating.

Posters do not post here because they know that the minute the do they will be verbally assaulted.

"Epic fail"?  "Try again"?  This sort of language is precisely the problem.

The problem with moderation on this board and others is that adults are spoken to with the sort of language that thirteen year olds or nerds living in their mothers basements speak to each other with.

Now before a fellow moderator from another region who does not nor has ever contributed to the Boston market or sycophantic follower reads this post and incinerates his keyboard to call me a bitch, fat, or without business-

Posters can be corrected using direct, genuine language.  Points can be made without smarmy, belittling language used to assure others that you  are smarter than everyone else present.

Instead the moderation chooses to use condescending tones dripping with sarcasm to adjust users and attack us under aliases.

To be frank- I don't give a fuck at this point.
There is fun to be had and I'm happy to have it posting  my weekly ad and only cropping up on occasion.

But I do wish that there were a board where civility and intelligent discourse could occur amongst adults instead of having to constantly endure the Dungeons and Dragons speak or being told to lighten up because I don't find antagonism funny.

We're constantly reminded that these are just words on our computer screen and that we are all aliases- yet by varying degrees we are all connected and rely upon each other in a very real way.  To me  that fact completely neutralizes that "its just the internet" argument.

ImagineUs's post picked a bone I wouldn't have, I know that moderation has to deal with the
****~~~S^U*PA@St!AR###G%F$E**** posters and other garbage.  I know that other moderators have consistently posted TER's required notifications.

However, he unintentionally addressed a real problem here- and that is how some moderators choose to approach users, many of whom have been here for years supporting TER financially and contributing reviews, allowing reviews.

Moderation is and was always just another hobbyist who spends an inordinate amount of time on TER and was endorsed by their peers.  I wish that they would remember that when elected to their post instead of developing a God-complex and reminding everyone of the difficulties of the position for which they volunteered for.

That post didn't see the light of day because it added nothing of value to the board and would have taken up one of the limited 25 spaces available on page 1.
It was more suited to the P&R board.

You have repeated your malformed opinions here, other boards, and in private. As with any misinformation....stating it multiple times, and with conviction, doesn't give it any more validity.

Without wasting a tremendous amount of time belaboring the point....you are simply wrong. Beyond that, you are insulting.
I would hope that anyone with a brain could read your post and see the massive chip you have on your shoulder. Alluding to some other moderator, and your not so thinly veiled accusations of me, clearly show that you indeed have your own agenda.
The very last paragraph of your diatribe makes quite clear your opinion of moderators, despite your attempts at putting on a good face in the beginning of your post.

I'm sorry if you find my language unacceptable for your high standards...but sometimes being sarcastic is easier and more polite than being blatant. In one case you mention..."epic fail" is much nicer than saying "this is the same smartass (insert expletives here) that called me out for being moderated....says I'm full of shit....then is proven WRONG when it's proven that he DID actually break the rules of the board!"
Interesting....and quite telling....how you missed that integral point. No surprise.

I encourage, and enjoy, healthy debate on any subject. What most people fail to realize is that debate requires a somewhat open mind to the opposing points being made, and the intelligence to address the points made. I will respectfully not go into detail how so many fail on both counts.

You have gotten a pass...and will continue to do so (for now)...for your insulting and baseless accusations of me. I have attempted to engage in discussion with you after you contacted me privately and, as typical, you seem unable to handle any opinion other than your own. Your approach was to put me on your "ignore" list....of course right after another one of your contemptuous diatribes. Out of respect...I'll not comment on the maturity level of that action as it speaks volumes on it's own.

Once again I will say, as I've said multiple times...and has been conveniently ignored multiple times, that I merely make sure posts meet site rules...and I stay out of everyone's way.

Once more for those in the cheap seats......
It's YOUR board. Participate and make it what YOU want it to be!!

It takes no talent to sit idly by and bitch about things....yet that's the easy route so many choose to take.

"Lighten up, play nicely and get over it lol"

Very well said!!!!

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As per usual, you are right and I am wrong, loud and repetitive.
 
Attempts at putting on a good face?  
You're confused- unlike some people I don't make insincere comments.  

I tell it like it is and when I'm incorrect I have no qualms about genuinely apologizing after accepting correction.  
I like to contribute to solutions- not contribute to problems.   If those solutions include me being cognizant of my own participation or understanding and accepting an alternative point of view I have absolutely no issues with that but because of your uniformed personal opinion of me you can't exactly see that.

No, I haven't missed any point - the point is that certain moderators are unwilling to modify their participation for the greater good of the boards instead choosing to indulge their own ego.
As such the boards are now virtual wastelands.
Its curious to me that moderators behave as though there is absolutely no reason for the mass exodus from the boards and if there is- well it has nothing to do with the "fight club" atmosphere that is encouraged and allowed by a handful of users.

I'll tell you what my opinion of moderators is:

Its one extreme to the other- extreme moderation or the Wild Wild West.  It would be nice to have a series of moderators who allow a balance of alternative opinions, criticisms and civility yet very few seem to perfect that formula.  The ones who do?  
Well, they don't often waste their precious time telling users how stupid and wrong they are.
I have a great deal of respect for the time and contribution of moderators.  I have no respect for moderators who speak to users the way that you and a few others do.  If that sounds like a massive chip?  So be it considering how much I have financially contributed to TER in fees over five years, my reviews which TER assigns a fiscal value to and the direction of my clients who were not previously aware of this website to TER.

I'm insulting? Your aliases are insulting. Your tone is insulting.
But thats fine- play your games if it brings you pleasure.  

At any rate I'll wait for the day when I don't get a pass as you put it- oh thats right, you don't actually have any control over my reviews or my advertisement posts.

I must say I do appreciate you not commenting on the maturity of me putting you on private message ignore- but what does the fact that you just had to bring that tidbit forth (or our private exchange at all for that matter) for public consumption say about you and your need for the last word?

Considering that I've sat out at least five moderators during my time in Boston you're no different.

Your mouth and ego are going to talk you into resignation or dismissal within a matter of months- I'll wait.

Bottom line is ,this guy is always right,no matter what we say.It's always a 'nice try' or a 'fail' with him.We're (or at least, you're) being micro moderated.

that's not saying much.

You run a fine "Discussion" Board, DD.  

You and I differ on what exactly "free speech" is.

As most napoleonic despots, you think "free speech" is anything that you happen to agree with.

Love to meet you at the next Boston M&G, we could discuss the finer points, and I could buy you a beer or whatever your poison of choice is.

Something tells me you would rather give him the whoppin???

I think you are doing a fine job, and let the few whine all they want.
You know, sometimes you are in a lose-lose as a mod. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Just moderate the board according to the rules and as you see fit.

Keep up the good work, bro.

Get over it already. How many times have you bitched about the TER mods over the years? Countless times!
What will satisfy Ally? Nothing short of Ally being in the position. Forget it. It will never happen, get over it.

...in 'Word' & edit a sentence or 2, prob. she saved it under "Best of Ally". lol....it's getting pretty old & tired for sure.

"That post didn't see the light of day because it added nothing of value to the board and would have taken up one of the limited 25 spaces available on page 1.
It was more suited to the P&R board."


Then don't complain that the board is not more than an ad board!

Not sure why I have lost interest in posting.  I used to enjoy posting a lot more...and the open debate of issues on the board.  Now just read the ads and pick my girl of the week.

I understand rules are issued by "Staff" and each moderator has to run regional boards accordingly.  Being moderator is a difficult and thankless job I am sure.  Would not want to do it.  All kinds of crap and traps to deal with.

Oh well, back to my porn vids.  Goodnight.