I love CIM/COF, but I see many gals who won't do this, yet their demeanor and passion is such that I would call them GFE.

To me, it's more about their way of relating and passion rather than the specific activities.

There are pleny of PSEs that do the activities you mention.  Yet, becuase they tend to be a bit offish, I would not call them GFE.  Some guys like their gals that way too, so that is not a knock on them.

I know this topic has been discussed before, ad nauseum, but I fear that the GFE service standard is being diluted in the industry.  In my opinion GFE service MUST include bbbj, cim and or facial.  Our option on the cim or facial.  Swallowing elevates the service closer to the pse range.  Your thoughts?

I also want to add lfk,dfk and dont act like a zombie

lmao, too funny.

what does that make ME? Lol!

xoxo
Caylee

so... for me, with the obvious exception of uncovered intercourse... GFE means BBBJ and DFK at a minimum.  She also gets to bitch me out if my behavior is less than impeccable.  Just like a girlfriend, right?   Oh, and don't forget to bring flowers and chocolate.   Just as a provider can be "offish"... I try not to be "oafish"    All jokes aside... BBBJ, DFK and the personality and state of mind which encourages the appearance of a  connection  (real or feigned)

I second and third the request....come to Boston!! For the history...for the food...for me!!

As for my personal definition GFE is not a series of acts.

I can perform any act- but if it is mechanical, perfunctory or cold it would not be recognized as a  girlfriend experience by my clients..

Obviously the term GFE has been used to identify providers who reliably perform certain services (deep french kissing, light french kissing, any kissing at a minimum, BBBJ) but I think that it is also applicable to providers who can warmly engage with clients enough to provide the illusion of familiarity, comfort and genuine passion.

I don't think a client's desire for a real sense of intimacy vs. using a live blow-up doll for an hour is "looking for love in the wrong places" either-
everyone should be able to define and fulfill their needs here, if only here (so long as they're able to keep perspective).  That may be your bag but it isn't necessarily the next client's.

CIM & facials as a requirement?  I don't think so.
I don't feel obligated to provide any specific service or act to complete a girlfriend experience session- I do what comes naturally to myself and my guests with real enthusiasm and happiness.  
If someone happens to have a specific interest in a "harder, faster, better, stronger" session with those acts then I try to the best of my ability to fulfill their needs- and I would qualify swallowing & facials as more of a PSE/wilder ride than necessity or requirement for most clients.

I find that the majority of my clients are less preoccupied with the acts I provide and are more so interested in how I make them feel when I'm providing them...but that's just me, my appeal and my service and why I qualify what I generally do as GFE.

My service is GFE/PSE and it includes what you mention, however, I love what I do and that is my service I provide to all my "clean" clients.  Your girlfriend or wife at home most likely does not and will not suck your cock let alone CIM or facial, that is why you cum here.

So in my opinion, CIM or facial is PSE.  Now bring your cock to me please I need to do something with it...

And I agree that thinking you will find real romance from a provider is misguided, and frankly pathetic.  Typically it spooks a provider, creepy.  I have ever kidded myself about the nature of the relationship.  I know it sounds perverse, but paying for sex turns me on.  I know that some provider friends of mine get turned on by it too.

GFE is the fantasy that you have really connected with each other ... and that is most obvious in your partner's willingness to kiss you. I have one companion that I actually do like very much as a person but, for whatever reason, she is the only "GFE" provider who really doesn't want to kiss. No one else holds back, so I'm pretty sure it isn't me. The failure to share the simple intimacy of kissing destroys the GFE illusion for me.

I'm looking for a performance that will sweep me off my feet just like I go to a movie or theater expecting to be immersed in a performance that will transport me to another time and place.

After it's done, I'm under no illusions that this gal loves me or that I love her in the sense that we normally reserve for our SOs.

No one ever complained after a great performance of Hamlet that Paul Schofield isn't really Hamlet so the whole thing was a farce.

Sex is a great aesthetic experience, and that's how I view it.  It combines both the body and the mind, so the attitude of the gal is very imporrtant to me.

She is certainly no PSE, or even GFE.  Not even any FS for that matter.

But as a tantrika, she is par excellence.

There is so much variation in this hobby that to use the criteria of menu to determine the provider's classification is to end up with some pretty uneven results.

Now, what do we call getting into a tub of warm chocolate syrup with someone?

8o)

I totally agree with you on that! I love love love to kiss.... Maybe that is why my BBBJ is soooooo good!

..... it just like PSE will vary as long as hobbyist are looking for something different in the kind of GFE they want or like  and/or what the provider that likes to call herself GFE "offers".

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"GF" Experience implies to me some foreplay and TLC. It may also require that the client make some effort to make it a good experience for the provider, instead of treating his provider like some kind of slave or less than human, thus fueling the arguments for those anti-hobby people who want to intrude and make trouble in the name of human rights.

As for me, I would be happy with a provider who was as nice and caring as the female medical practitioners I've known. Both give care for pay.

You're a CGE? Catty-Girlfriend-Experience.

"Rookie" or not, she's probably been practicing being a girlfriend for a long time.

Please don't bring hate or "throw shade" on this board. It ruins everyone's "experience".

xoxox,
KK

Maybe I was harsh with my words with KK - I apologize -  though I still believe that the way it was transcribed in the thread was so one dimensional, so one sided -  and personal, it felt like she was meaning this is how it is for ALL of us providers. I am an 'inclusive' escort that doesn't categorize or advertise GFE/PSE services (for legal reasons) so when I read that thread I reacted. Everyone should have their side of the story and not be belittled. Again, Sorry KK.

its more about the mind fuck than te acts involved.

Swallow cof greek I dont provide any of those its not GFE in my opinion.
A GFE experience I think should just flow comfortably and easily, relaxing and deeply seeded in Passion.

Takes 2 to tango but its not about what we do more about the way we do it.

Mr Fisher that would be a GFE experience  Great food experience!

Do some history research and look for the St Bart scale, he had it very clearly defined and everyone agreed.

I also agree that it is being overused, if you go by the St Bart scale. A TON of Ladies will say they are GFE but don't even come close to the St. Bart scale.

Tony