After reading about the disappearance of Quinn below it got me wondering a bit. I am planning a trip to Vegas and I found out the provider I have been dreaming about seeing for a while now has fallen off the face of the earth. Shut down the website, etc. etc. She wasn't the proverbial flash in the pan but was established and very well reviewed. Inquiries brought the standard "she'll be back if and when she wants" etc.  So my question is this....why don't providers "close up shop" like any other business. We don't need to know about their personal life but a simple...I'm retiring....going on sabbatical or relocating to France would seem appropriate. I know this is a "different business model" than most but it would seem to just make sense.  Would probably cut down on unwanted inquiries, etc. Anyone have any insight?

But other times, there are cataclysmic events that take place and leave a gal very little time or inclination to go out with any kind of style.

I'm afraid you'll just have to file this under the heading:  "Shit Happens", and let it go at that.

Mr.Fisher is right, "Shit Happens."  It is the same thing as why hobbyists leave too with no explanation.  It works both ways hon.

Missy

might indicate a personal issue.  

Also I would anticipate that that notice would go unnoticed shortly thereafter and we would still have too many questions about the provider.

When they go away whether for a short time or forever let them be.  If they want to be found they will make that apparent

Look at Paige Lynn.. sge was well established & very well thought of... things change.. same thing with Paige ' s friend Kendra... other things come up in your life and you have to react.

Is to do what your dream provider did. She doesn't know your looking and definitely doesn't care.
she's not playing hard to get.  she's really not interested in being a provider for now.its obvious and that's  why your getting the proverbial, as you say " move on" answer .there are so many great providers in Vegas and for that matter boston so you won't suffer at bit.

This industry is much different than a typical business as you mentioned. This industry is dependent on secrecy for most of us men and women alike. Some girls do say farewell and even give notice at times. When they abruptly disappear there is a reason, best to let it be. Life can be unpredictable and  things can get tricky especially when keeping sacred secrets. The good news is many will return when they are able!  

I think I muddied the waters by indicating an interest in a provider who has retired. That comment was only included as a segue into my question. Restated...the real question is why is there a disproportionate number of Providers who just don't communicate that they are retiring or even just taking an extended vacation? I ask the question only out of interest and fodder for conversation.

I like Mr Fisher's comments that some do and some don't and shit happens. However,having said that, other recurring arguments are that a provider may have sudden personal issues or it's a confidential profession or they want to just vanish. So here's the dilemma....many many providers have shown a great talent for running their business. Great website, appropriate pricing, solid security and let's not forget great service  : ) yet all of a sudden they can't post a simple 3 sentence note... As if James Bond will somehow trace the message to her secret location and expose the whole shooting match? Mmmmm.  

I have some theories but I'd love to hear from more providers and reasons for/against. I guess I'm just a curious guy.

Lastly, a quick comment to Sensual Missy...I agree it's a 2 way street and I'm an old fashioned guy who believes there's something said for style. I think how you end any relationship personal or professional says a lot about who you are....and please don't misinterpret that as a slam against anyone....hon

I will give you an example :
Girl runs a successful "business" and she is professional in all the ways you mentioned.  One day someone for whatever reason sends links to her family.  Her kids, here mother, her father, her employer, her neighbors.  Bam her life is upside down and she may lose everything she loves in her real life.  She immediately pulls down every ad and her website. Why doesn't she post a " three sentence note" you ask? That 3 sentence note could be sent back to family.  Instead of everything disappearing and zero "proof" that sentence dates the exact exit. 2+2. In this example she has no idea WHO outed her and she would be foolish to trust anyone.  Saying goodbye and documenting the date could be used against her.  Picture if a married man was outed, in a nano second his world is exploding. He has no clue WHO outed him. Do you think it would be wise to put anything else out there? It is unfair to judge any girl in this industry if she leaves quickly.  You cannot compare this world to a  9-5 mainstream business. A fast exit may not be the best way but at times it is the ONLY WAY.  
I am only giving the example because you didn't understand the vague post.  I AM NOT IMPLYING THIS EXAMPLE HAS HAPPENED TO THE GIRLS YOU MENTIONED!!!!!! Only want you to consider the many reasons why those three sentences are not prudent at times.

Also, it's not just gals in the escort business.

There was a coffee shop next to our office I used to have breakfast at nearly every day. It had been a neighborhood fixture for about 30 years.  One morning, the door was locked, not even a sign.  A few months later it re-opened as a liquor store.  A few months after that I noticed an article in the paper about some guy being arrested for sexual assault against kids.  The name rang a bell.  It was the proprietor of said coffer shop.  I could recite at least 3 other similar scenarios of local long term businesses that closed suddenly and mysteriously.

And then there are Enron and  Bernie Madoff, but you get the point.

A provider I've know two years that traveled to town monthly. She always made contact we always hooked up and occasionally OTC ( after a paid session) we would have dinner etc.  

She recently got engaged and was felling sad about her secret life..after her most recent tour which was according to her successful she returned home as usual....three weeks later I get a text:

I'm retired . Please do not make contact  
Thank you for all you've done and if I need you I know where to find you.
Please respect my privacy.

She was or was not caught and received an ultimatum.  
 

It happened that sudden and we hooked up for two plus years. I won't know until she make contact again, if she ever does. I respect her exit and understand that because she didn't have a work phone this text to me was necessary.

Hope she does great she was a good kid but I'm not inquiring to why because it's not my affair.

They dont care about the situation at all since they are off tobrighter pasteurs, Any time I cut back or stayed with regulars or left to start a new and be with a man i loved. I left this behind and was not giving explanations or ever seen again for sometimes years. Hopefully they did thier means to an end no signing off needed, This is to get through a short period for most. They dont look back most, Especially if you like for example witnessing the disrespect , mean spirited humans that do play in the hobby and woman haters and just over all debbie downers,  
 You can see wherre we wouldtn feel the need to sign off publically, ........................I know when i retire i am bnot posting my story on my web site itll just get taken down and thats it, Thats what i did last time like when i moved in with the biker and did cosmetology school. I tossed the phone that was it mind was made up and i was off!. Just be happy for them this is a tough job and attracts alot of abusive men that enjoy hurting and even killing . Prostitutes been targets seen as easy targets by serial killer since dawn of time and also many that see them just do so to belittle, insult , and to make them selves feel supierior.  
 Just be happy for them retiring is a positive thing for them not a bad thing, This isnt meant to be a long term "career". And for those whom choose it to be that I feel sorry . Its not an easy or fun job all the time, It can be very mentally challenging dealing with abuse, During appts or in fake reviews, Where she was holding herself in a high caliber arena and then that abusive, Verbal abuse is worse than physical and that fake review on her was up for days and was assanice!
   She was and is highly inteelligent and popular immediatly, It is obvious she is a good business woman and i just think the whole issue with the neagtive fake reviews is one the really bad down falls the idustry,
                 Same goes for just bad mouthing publically for some one not being a perfect stepford wive robot ho that never had a bad day never experiences tough times,
               I had a guy wale on me week ago because i returned an appt request and told him about how i needed appts and was going through a hard time due to fibro. The lack of humanity, Laqck of compassion and just over all mean spirited insults and abusive behavior, It makes me so grateful i scare those ones off before having the displeasure of meeting in person, Of all the 90 reviews and 200 whitelist. I have to say i been blessed and am fortunate for the Mr fishers, charlie101's, i just am glad for whatever reason i scare off the ones looking for this flawless stepford wive type, I have mental and physical things i struggle with every day and dont like being in this life, I make best of it.
                   I cant wait to do dog grooming school and settle down and have a nice normnal life away from relying on my looks and bj skills to pay my rent, unfortunetly this is where i am and the fact some the guys have no understandings that not all us our perfect, yes i called people before and tell them i am struggling and behind,  
 That doesnt deserrva a public hanging and ridcule and bashing, A gentlemen would have said hey you know what I got 80 bucks be right there i want one your relaxing thai ocean side massages! let me try and help!Q
                     To make fun of some one s hardships and bash them for not having the easiest go of things,  
 Its obviuos that this shouldnt be a long term job especially for those only doibng it because they are or are recovering from some maybe more trying times than most,
            Some ladies are business women and they are good at it, SDome landed here from maybe being homeless as kids or maybe mental illness got in way thier dreams for short time, To call people otu and just not have compassion, To get angered by the simpe fact that no. Not all the escorts alive are happy with themselves to be in this line work, We need to project this fantasy flawless intellegent , wine and roses facade , persona and the few that have wailed on me on this boeard for being anything but perfect and yes asking for help. I just dont get it sometimes or understand why thier are so many  nuts out there. Thank god i been lucky and meet all nice clients that are polite gentlemen,  
    Thank god i scare off the ones seeking unrealistic expectations of any huiman being for that matter, The reaklity is some us are doing this to try and pay off student loans. Some us cant do this workin at a bar as a bartender, i know i cant pay rent buy food buy my adhd meds that are 325 a month and get outta debt so i can do the career I want with out using this as my extra income, good for who ever it is that they got out, It just isnt a good job to do full time or long term, ... I know i could and never have been capable of it long term, I did the massages with ending 13 years ago to poay for thai shiatsu school. I lasted a year then . Then thankfully met a nice hells angel That took me in and i lived in a mansion with him.  
                             That guy that said start saving to me, That was funny, As if i have no other skills and need to "start saving " as if i wont be able to make a living after dog grooming school and this is my only purpose or talent, That statement really was like, "WOW!"  
 No woman is doing this to "save" I have no saving from this and will ot i am doing it to get out of debt and regardless my financial decisions with what i do wether save or not isnt any thing that ANY hobbyist need give thioer two cents or advise me on,
 Some the guys views or need to direct orders on us like we are thier property, Its really quite amusing,

I'll read this post then.

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Enjoyed reading the different points of view on this. I can understand most points and there are a few I would question, but we're all different and that's what makes it so interesting. There's a saying that goes... "where you stand depends on where you sit". My takeaway is that I certainly haven't experienced the obstacles of the business that have been expressed here and some of the reasons why a provider would just up and leave and now I have a little better understanding of those issues. I would never comment on any one individuals situation and this thread was never meant to do that. Having said that, I would hope that providers who are not in a compromised position would see another side and not just "disappear". Contrary to Angel's post I would bet most of the folks on TER are pretty upstanding people, care about the well being of the people they have seen and don't want to "waste a lot of time and make a lot of noise" about where is so and so?? I still think that 3 line note would be well received... and by a 3 line note...it could be as little as 3 words...I'm retiring...now. Take it from me...I'm old....I know stuff...

she was off her meds again.  it may be a good read but i feel bad for her.  has good thoughts and then its off to rambling about another subject.