I booked an appointment via P411 with Lily (P267113) last Friday, we confirmed the appointment Sunday morning, and Sunday afternoon when it was time for her to visit my hotel ... nothing.

I had to google her old email address to contact her because she wasn't responding to P411 messages, and when she found the time to get back to me she was willing to hook up with me -- almost 3 hours after our agreed upon time.

Anybody else had this chick flake on them?

Depends on how horny you might be

I'm not horny enough to tolerate this sort of shit.  I ended up finding another escort who was about 100 cheaper anyway.

I responded as soon as I was able to do so, and I explained the reason to you. It was also only 26 minutes after our agreed time, not 3 hours.  

I don't deny responsibility for not being there on time. However family has to come first, and it's not exactly easy to log into the P411 site from your phone and send messages while with family.

Had you been willing to wait for me, I had definitely planned on making it up to you for the inconvenience. I definitely don't just make a habit of flaking on people.

Lily,

The appointment was for about 4pm and when I contacted you via P411 at about 3:45pm to let you know I was at the hotel I got no response.  When I finally got in contact with you via email at about 4:15pm you told me about your family member and having to help him do a job.  That's understandable.

Of course I would've been willing to wait for you if you could've been at my hotel 26 minutes later, but that isn't what you said to me.  You asked if we could meet at 7pm instead.  7pm is 3 hours later than our agreed upon time of about 4pm.  (I had other plans for that 7pm timeslot.)

I vented about this here because I went out of my way to schedule the appointment a few days in advance, I booked a hotel room in your area for your convenience, and ultimately all I got was  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I'm disappointed that I wasn't able to meet you, and I wish you well.  From what I've read you sound like a nice girl.

Why don't you pick a more convenient way to communicate than P 411 Private messaging. I know I have to speak for others when I say, I HATE it when a P 411 provider won't give me another way to contact her after we have scheduled an appointment.

 
If you had simply given the OP a phone number with which to exchange text messages, all this could have be avoided.

 
Let this be a lesson to the guys and girls alike. We live in the 21 century with a plethora of various technologies that allow us to communicate with each other, it's our own fault if we don't use them.

 
One last thought. Email of course is preferable to PM, but text, in my case at least, works MUCH better than email in situations like this. I get so many Emails in the course of the day that I don't have my phone set up to notify me whenever I get a new email, my phone would literally be beeping at me every 30 seconds some days, OTOH I am notified instantly when I get a new text. Communication is key to keeping misunderstandings like this to a minimum, it would behoove all of us to pick the best medium to be able to reach the other in case of an unexpected emergency. I don't like to be inconvenienced by having an appointment set back or rescheduled, but the better the lady is at communicating to me what is going on, the more likely I am to be understanding of her situation.

 
Oops, one LAST last thought. Lily, why did you make your client have to hunt you down? Anyone truly professional would have reached out to her client first and not waited until he contacted you. I honestly can't imagine blowing off a business obligation without notifying the person with my sincere apologies long before that person has to track me down to find out what happened.  Sorry Lily, but whether or not I/we buy your story about your emergency, that doesn't excuse your lack of professionalism by not reaching out to your client and making him hunt you down instead. YOUR bad, not his.

You made it sound like I didn't contact you until three hours later, at least that's how I read it. The hotel you booked was over an hour drive from me, not exactly in my area. I still needed to run home and take a quick shower too. I probably could have made it in two hours, but I said three just to be safe in case there was traffic. I didn't want to be even later after already having to delay.

Like I said, I'm not denying my responsibility for screwing up, I just felt that you made it sound like I didn't even respond until three hours later. I did try to contact you earlier, but wasn't able to because of the close proximity of family at the time.

P411 messaging was his choice, not mine.

Lily,

When I first made contact with you to book an appointment I asked you to "recommend a hotel in your area that would be convenient for you".  Exact quote.  You responded with a short list and I chose a hotel from that list.  If the hotel I chose was an hour away from you then all you had to do was tell me and I would've chosen one that was more convenient for you.

Also, the reason I contacted you via P411 was because that's where I found you.  P411 messaging was the only way I knew how to contact you since there was no phone number or email address in your profile.  I was later able to find your email address because I googled "FunSizeGirl" and came across an ad site where you had a listing.  (I've never had a problem making an appointment via P411 with other providers.)  

And in one of my last P411 messages to you I gave you my phone number and asked you to text me when you arrived at my hotel -- this message was sent 2 days before our appointment!  Would you like me to post a screenshot of our communications to jog your memory?

he said she said. I have to agree the that phunkee munkee is completely in the right. A simple apology probably would have sufficed FunSize but you insist on weakly defending the indefensible flakyness.

I did apologize privately by email when the incident occurred, and I was still willing to come and make it up to him. I wasn't the one to take this public after the fact, but I also can't ignore a threat to my livelihood like this either. I'm not going to say that I've never been late to an appointment before, but I don't flake.

Yes, the hotel was only 15 minutes from my home, the problem was that I wasn't home. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

Like I said, this wasn't a planned thing, so I didn't have access to your number at the time. I contacted you as soon as I was able to do so.

I'm not denying my responsibility for not being on time, but since you chose to publicly attempt to damage my livelihood after I had already apologized and tried to make it up to you, I had to respond.

I really don't have anything more to add on the subject.

Your excuse/s ring very hollow to me. As a professional the FIRST thing you should have told your brother is "yes, I will help you, but first I have to cancel my previous engagements" Instead, you made him chase you, is it any wonder he is a little miffed? And please let me correct you. You didn't apologize "when" the incident occurred, you only apologized AFTER he tracked you down, who knows how long he would have been waiting to hear from you if he didn't take it upon himself to look up your email?

 
Please keep in mind why TER was created in the first place, it was created to share information, both good and bad, so the community can self police where it comes to bad behavior on the part of both the guys and the girls alike. I have seen literally dozens of posts by providers threatening to black list a guy for less. Personally I give the OP kudos for "naming names" so many people make posts like this without ever saying who flaked on them which is only so much "whining" IMHO. One thing I will bet on, having your behavior made public will most definitely be going through your mind the next time you think about flaking on an appointment without even calling. NCNS is like a DUI, you typically get probation on your first offense, but your second offense will most definitely have an impact on your livelihood as well it should.

Can't know for sure who is being honest in these situations but seems like the lack of communication is a big factor. I can't imagine that if we switched roles a working girl wouldn't do the same thing if not worse. Not saying all girls out there would do things with bad intention but if the girl in the situation grabbed a hotel and the guy was a no show she would say something as well. Worse yet girls want a ton of info on us guys to see them, who knows what some girls would do with that info if they were rubbed the wrong way.  

Just recently had a girl go crazy on me over a review. I wish I could post all the info somewhere. Thankfully she has very little info on me but I can't imagine what lengths she would have gone if she had my real info. Dangerous game we play here, especially now a days since TER is basically dead and there isn't much accountability anymore

I have someone cancel on me last minute at least once a week. The whole reason I stopped offering incalls was because of cancellations and no shows. Even doing outcalls I've had guys cancel while I was literally on my way to them. But I don't come here and discuss it publicly.

I've also noticed a difference in the way some guys act now since there's no longer any accountability on them either. I had a serious safety issue with a client last month that put me out of work for a week, but there's no place left anymore for me to warn other providers about him.

When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

 
When the thread first started, and even after your initial response, I am sure I wasn't the only one who was thinking "this is NOT that big a deal", but the more you tried to avoid responsibility for what happened, which was 100% on you,  the less sympathetic you became and now at this point I can honestly say this incident and this thread would be enough to keep me from booking you. All you had to do was fucking apologize, admit it was your fault, and no one would even remember this thread twenty minutes from now. but I guess that would have been too easy. lol

This isn't an attempt to damage someone's livelihood; I have no interest in doing that to anyone who's acting in good faith.

This is an attempt to hold someone accountable for their behavior.  It's also not personal, its business.

The purpose of a place like TER is to share info on both escorts and clients.  If I ever book an appointment and don't show up, or if I'm so late that an escort has to contact me several times in order to find out what's going on then I fully expect her to call me out in a forum like this.  

That's one of the reasons forums like this exist, and it's our only recourse when we feel cheated or robbed.  I hope the escort in this case learns to stop making excuses and becomes a better provider.  I'm done with this matter and have nothing more to say.

(I no longer have VIP so I can't read the DMs that I've received.)

Ladies and Gentlemen are spending a good amount of time building their Switter profile.  Switter profiles are subject to praise and accusation in response to the owner's behavior.  Those who wish to maintain and publicly show a good reputation do so on Switter.  It takes a lot of work and I do take a strong Switter presence as equal to good reviews.

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