The M&G party throwers are a rather cliquish bunch.

If you're serious about getting a response.

I'm not sure that posting here is the best way to get a response to your question.

Instead, you'll attract all the alias posters.  Perhaps that's what you were looking for in posting.

If I edit my posts it disappears for 24 hours +/- so I thought I'd just post a new one.

PD

Maybe she can start her own M&G.

p.s. I'm not her, but I was also not invited.

If anyone wants to attend the private meet and greets held, screening is required. If you are already a member of the board then you were invited but didn't check for the info.
Next time please contact one of the Moderators on that board to better help with your question. We are more than happy to have ANYONE join us that passes screening to our standards. It is not the decision of one person but a group that handles that particular board. So if safety for all makes a board of many a clique then we ARE.
Sorry that you didn't make it. Hope you do next time.
AR
XO
PS: The negitive alaises can go screw. That's why you AREN'T on the board.

cast or no cast you are one sexy mamacita xxoo

I think that it absolutely sucks that a small gather of people decide who will attend a local meet and greet.

I understand the significance in screening and necessity in so doing but they also do that to a tee in Vegas but I guess that Boston hasn't got the screening down as yet.

I asked politely weeks ago, and even asked for the date of the proposed meet and greet but never received an answer.

Wtf !!!!

Lucretia is a legendary figure in the history of the Roman Republic. Her husband was Lucius Tarquinius Collatinus, her father was Spurius Lucretius Tricipitinus and her brother was Publius Lucretius Tricipitinus, one of the two second Consuls of Rome. According to Roman mythology her rape and consequent suicide were the cause for the overthrow of the monarchy and the establishment of the Roman republic.

My guess is since you were removed from the board you hope to overthrow something? I doubt the alais you weild could aquire that type of power.
BUT, let me know how it works out for you.
A

it sounds as though it was more of a private guest listed party than a meet and greet. I have no idea I didn't inquire myself, I do know I had plans for the evening so was not available, point is it sounds more like a few friends getting together than a m&g. But what do i know.

The M&G group DOES post on TER as to the methods to receive an invite.

The are over 160 invited guests.

Usually 60-80 attend the party.

99% of all screened inquiries receive an invite.

Rocket science it is not. Exclusive it is not. Reasonably safe and discreet for our guests and community??? Guilty as charged.

All I know is that I have a great time with old friends and meeting new!

Until the fall....

I don't understand I provided all required information requested plus some which has always been more than enough to book with a provider for her time yet I fall into the 1 percent of those that don't meet the requirements to attend your M&G. As far as I'm concerned this was only open to certain people and was left for a few to decide based on their opinions not facts as to who could attend. I would love to have the list of those that were in charge of this decision.

I am a professional, attractive, and should have more than met any requirements to attend a party.  I provided references, and my TER ID to the organizers.  I offered to provide any additional information.  I never heard back.  That's just rude.

If you say only 1% are not invited, and 160 got invitations, then the few people on here who were not invited put you over your own estimate.

I suspect you invite people you know, and don't have time to screen all the new people.  If so, then just say so.  I am a little troubled by CrimsonLass' gloating that she was picked to attend.  It's a little pathetic.  It's a party, for goodness sakes, not an honorary degree.  Didn't we give up "cliques" in high school?  (I am using an anonymous ID as I want to speak my mind here, and then let it go.)

eyeluv2look First I would like to say I would be one of those people Second I would like to say that I have no clue who you are.  The verification is done through 2 people AR and myself.  We volunteer to do this and do not get compensated in any way.  We do it to ensure the safety of others.  So I guess I am saying after you sent all the necessary info did you follow up with the provider you sent it to???  Believe it or not we actually work as well and we are not perfect we can lose things in the shuffle. I will say if you were turned down it is because your references did not verify you, or your references are craigslist.  If you didn't get turned down than odds are you were lost in the shuffle.  Odds are you didn't check up on it either by re emailing the contact person and following up.  Ok so there is a saying if at first you don't succeed try again. You can email myself or Angie Renee or both.  If you were turned down because of lack of references I am not going to apologize for that I am going to say grow up. The safety of a room full of people is far more important than you feeling we gave you the shaft.   No one is special when we say two well known references we mean it!!!! Even if one of the references are AR or myself. I will go further to say the person who started this thread did get an invite to the party.  Eyeluv2look any questions feel free to email me [email protected]

This was my first M+G.   The people doing the screening were quite kind when one ref didn't pan out (very busy, couldn't answer back). They got back to me, and we went to plan B.  It was on relatively short notice, too.

So, they went the extra mile to be helpful.   Everyone was very kind.   Even though it was my first, I felt immediately welcomed.  

She may be relatively new to TER, but I can also say that Heather Jana is wonderful woman - very trustworthy.   It may have been a communications screw-up or just her relative newness to TER.    Patience and establishing good trust relationships is important in all human activities, it seems to me.   They're particularly important here.

A huge thanks to the organizers (again!).

Crystal, what a great link!  Takes me back..
I'm sure the lovelight flowed and it surely is the season.  Wish I could have made it.
I loved the Bellamy Bros., great harmonies.
I never noticed what a resemblance Bill has to one of our esteemed elders, uncanny.
Keep up the good work ladies, definately next time.

cliques do exclude ppl from joining in.
This is part of why I never bother to get involved with the festivities of the whole Boston M&G parties. I too have percieved them as very cliqish. Thats fine I guess if you like cliques. I personally don't

I don't think Crimsonlass wrote that to rub it in. I think she wrote that to pick on how absolutely ridiculous this all is.

This entire thing reads like a bad John Hughes movie. The backbiting by the providers on here and in back channels is absolutely astounding.

That's funny! Because I asked for an invite and had just seen one of the screeners 48 hours before the party. I have been screened and gone to M&G's in Las Vegas withing the past year. First I got a "I'll tell you where" and in the end all I got was sorry the list was shut off before I could get you in. And now we know that isn't true. Of course I knew that before I was told. I just wish people could be upfront and honest and say it is a closed clique group party. Instead of saying it is a Boston M&G. And I was screened with references before this provider would see me. So I know that my references are good!! Maybe next time.

This is a f*cking John Hughes film.

I am going to throw a big f*cking party at my mansion in June, and you are all invited.  Everyone, except for Crystal and Angie Renee.  

That's all.

I am relatively new to this.  Exactly what happens at a Meet and Greet?  Just exchange of phone numbers, or anything more intimate?  Anyone?

Real simple solution to this so called problem. Get off your asses and throw your own.

My gosh I have never heard so much whining as goes on after every meet and greet.

Grow up

And no I did not attend nor did I seek an invite, just for the record

I am relatively new to this.  Exactly what happens at a Meet and Greet?  Just exchange of phone numbers, or anything more intimate?  Anyone?

I went an M&G about three years ago.  Since then I've been dropped from the invite list for "lack of participation".

No big deal.  If I want to see any of the girls...just pick up the phone.

Thank god. I wouldn't accept an invite from an alias.

Please let me say that First of all To the Mod's of the recent M&G you all did an outstanding job.  I know how difficult these things are to put together and to do so with the protection and saftey for all.  To AR and Crystal I realise you must have screened close to 160 potential people looking to go and this must have taken hours of your VOLUNTERED Time   to the two of you my thanks and utmost respect for the efforts you do.

To the rest that feel this Boston M&G is a "Clique" lets be real.  I have attended many and each time I see so many new faces.  Clique NO safely run and possibly non desireables un invited Yes.  It is not the responsibilities of the Mods to get back with each potential guest.  Do things fall through cracks with all the verification going on Possibly.  People thinK the ladies doing thE screenings have nothing else to do but wait for requests for invites.  Yeah thats what they do sit at their PC waiting for people to ask to come........  

I have noticed that at least the Mods are not hiding behind any Alias when they answer the thread.  As for others Get a life.  This has never been a Clique nor will it ever be.  I just hope that the A**holes who are trying to stir up Sh*t haven't caused the great Mod team we have had for years to say F**k It.  It is a thankless Job  and these people go out of their way to make it the best possible get together they can.  they try to make the location accesable to many and we know we cannot please everyone.  You know some people can be professional, ATTRACTIVE, have money and you know what???  They could possibly be ASSHOLES that the entire M&G team deems an Un desireable guest for the benifit of all the others who go.  

Whats really funny is how close to 160 people say they want to attend and EACH year lest than a third actually show up.  This means that many hours of verification by the Mods was spent verifing those that wernt coming anyway.  But the Mods still did their part and Verified and checked references.  

Clique  You must be kidding.......GREAT JOB BY THE ENTIRE M&G TEAM.

I WILL THROW A PARTY IN AN OUTHOUSE AND PROBABLY GET MORE THAN ARE INVITED TO THE ALIAS MANSION.

-- Modified on 5/10/2009 3:15:21 PM

Somebody call the Whaaaambulance!

Seriously folks, just plan and implement another M&G if you're really feeling left out. I've never attended one, so I don't know what the big deal is.

But the whining makes it sound like I'm back working at my first job as a behavior manager of a local elementary school...

-- Modified on 5/10/2009 3:21:51 PM

Appreciate your view Paco but what you call Whinning is for some appropriate I guess but the threads to defend a group of people being accused of having a Clique as a reason to hold private M&G are warranted I think.  I am not one to post often but when I see the attacks against some very long standing people in this Boston Group who for years have done nothing but try and help other hobbiests AND Providers well I needed to speak my mind.  The group who tries each year to put together a M&G to help all in this community get together, does it because they want to and because they have for years felt this was one great city to Hobby in.  Its not Whinning but sticking up for friends when they get unmercifully attacked by alias posters trying to do nothing but stir up shit.  This Boston group used to be one of the best with ervyone helping each other.  in the past year it has appeared to become a bashing ground for both providers and hobbiest.  We need to get back to the way this board used to be and everyone getting along. For the Mods I stuck up for I would do it again as would many others as they have been around quite a long time on this board and this board needs more people here with their willingness to help others rather than cut the feet out from under them.  Just my 2 cents

I got invited.

Look folks, after what has just happened with the CL sicko, any type of social event for hobbyists and providers is a positive thing.

We're all struggling now. Gents are losing their jobs or best case, taking pay cuts.

Providers are lowering their donations and hoping they have any business at all. We're all trying to keep our heads above water.

It was a positive and affirming evening to speak with old friends. To compare notes, to support each other and to exchange a hug. I needed it and it helped me to see folks I know and meet new folks.

Instead of bashing each other here, let's be thankful that this event took place at all. If you were not invited don't take it personally.

The organizers have a lot on their plate, it's volunteer and they were doing the best they can. Just make sure your ducks are in line for the next one and if I get invited again, come on over and give me a hug. I always need one.

Smiles and Soft Kisses,
Anneke

I'm not "criticizing" those who put the M&G together, but those who complained about not getting invited.

It's been a tough year in regards to hobbyist and provider safety so sometimes a judgment call needs to be made.  It stinks, but that's life.

Just my 2 cents, uninformed as they are.

I have not been to a Meet and Greet.  Can someone please tell me what goes on at one?  All this talk is over the heads of those of us who have never attended one. Thank you.

PartyMonster:
Please feel free to ask this question on the Meet and Greet TER board. I'm sure you'll get several different answers, depending where in the country the response comes from. People are more than happy to let them know what their experiences are on this topic. That board, in MHO, is the best place to ask.
Good luck.
AR
XO

I attended the party, it was my very first and I am thankful for all the screening that is done in advance. Most know, I tend to keep to myself, I knew 2 people at the meet...no one else...to say it is a clique is very unfair.  

Just my opinion, of course.


Thank you to everyone I met that night for making me feel so welcome!

Ashley
xo

I hope my opinion reflects those of many of you reading this...but I am all for having a broader cross-section of our community attend these functions -- So I'd encourage anyone who wishes to be included to contact the mods (who have been kind enough to post their email addresses) and get verified.

I am sure I speak for more than myself when I say that these events are usually very well run and that they make my life as a careful hobbyist much easier.

Thanks again to the Beantown organizers.  Well Done!
WTD

And the time to get verified is prior to the last minute.  That way you can follow up if there are any issues to be resolved.

Hey, Howdy Foody.

You RSVP for Meet and Greets way in advance, and then you preach to others?

Tell me.  Honestly.  Do you pick out your underwear and socks for the week, and leave them out?