In finding an SO or forming a relationship unless she is a provider.  

I love the relationships I have with providers. LOL

Picking up civvie girls in bars requires some degree of conversational skill, decent looks and a bit of luck.  Hiring an escort requires that you be willing to give a woman enough information about yourself that she will be willing to let you pay her to have sex with you.

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Bostonguy, I love your postings. You formulated it EXACTLY when you wrote, ‘Picking up civvie girls in bars requires some degree of conversational skill ...’  

But as to looks, who cares? Women do not care how a man looks but do care how he holds himself and how well he treats her.  
 
As they say in Europe, a man has to be a bit more handsome then a monkey but, more importantly, has to please a woman in all the ways she desires. You Americans do not have any idea how sad and ridiculous a visiting American male can look in Europe: sitting alone in the company of male friends looking around as if he fears something. But yet in his eyes you can see his desire to have an attentive girl sit next to him.  As soon as a girl will try, he will start complaining that in Europe there’s too much drinking and dancing and that he is a hardworking, hard-playing American man who believes in Jesus Christ. OMG!!! As you can imagine this is the way most American males are …  
 
And on TER in the U.S. there are a lot of males who are even-less social than males in general.  There’s a reason you come to TER, and it’s not always that you want to be discreet but that you can’t convince a woman to love you.  
   
If it’s not your money, I do not know what else (or who) made you feel that way - maybe your American women. You are soooo insecure worrying about your assets. With no house and no money, you would feel as though you were a ZERO.  
 
Trust me: no nation in the world other than America puts monetary value on human relationships - between men and women especially. You males are totally fine as long as your wives tell you that you are.  As for me, I never would notice if you had no money when we met.  Some wives have the guts to say, ‘If you hadn’t had money, I would never have dated you.’  How should that make you feel?  

You’ve been taking this stuff up to your ass, poor American man - even smiling and making jokes about it. Meanwhile, any other man would simply indicate unhappiness and say to his woman: ‘Am I good enough that you would love me even if I didn’t have this house and didn’t have my boat?’ Without his boat and his car, an American man would feel very insecure and consider himself a zero.  

Of course the problem comes not just from your women but from you men, too; you U.S. men are also not angels.  But I don’t care because I’m not planning to marry any American man, whether he has money or not.  Either way would be wrong.  Money makes people become horrible and lose the fundamentally human trait of thinking about one’s lover separately from bank accounts and fancy houses.
 
Oh, sorry, I changed the subject. I was trying to tell you that everybody in the U.S. has to go to a therapist to learn normal ways of socializing: they need to get cured of sitting and watching TV in sports bars and of hitting on girls in ways that make them run away from you hard-working, hard-playing Americans!  Ha ha!  

Fact is that in Europe if you see 4 or 5 men sitting alone in a bar with no women there, they will prove to be your fellow Americans.  And you on TER are even more shy. It is Escalade, with tons of postings on TER, who admitted once that he was brave enough to give a woman his business card and invite her up to the room. But who knows?  Maybe one of your women will report you as a sexual predator. [‘LOL’ assumed. -Ed.]
 
Sad, sad, sad country. Love relationships, true values and sex are all screwed up.  I myself don’t live here, but I at least can escape from time to time to keep my checks-and-balances.  How do you keep your checks-and-balances and stay an active adult? TER?? DC?? P411?? Come on! PM me if you want to hear more.  

But Bostonman, I LOVE what you wrote about TER and DC, etc.  You said you need to give a provider your personal info so she’ll feel comfortable letting you pay her for sex! Could not be any clearer.  

Same with wives. I hope your wife married you because she feels good about you and is therefore able to let you pay for her. But here a hooker can be more honest than a wife. She can choose to see the hobbyist or not to see him; if she doesn’t like him, she would not lay with him. Are your wives doing it or not? Or are they decent women, ha ha ha? Oh, I guess they are ‘decent,’ or we [providers] here would not be busy at all.    

Kisses. Sorry for my imperfect English.  

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Bostonguy, I love your postings. You formulated it EXACTLY when you wrote, ‘[Picking up civvie girls in bars] requires some degree of conversational skill ...’  

[But] as to looks, who cares? Women do not care how a man looks but [do care] how he holds himself and [how well he] treats her.  
 
As they say in Europe, a man has to be a bit more handsome then a monkey but [more importantly] has to please a woman in all the ways she desires. You Americans do not have [any] idea how sad and ridiculous a [visiting] American male can look in Europe: sitting alone [in the] company of male friends looking around as [if he] fears something. But yet in his eyes you can see his desire [to] have [an attentive] girl sit next to him.  As soon as [a] girl will try, he will start complaining that [in Europe there’s too much] drinking and dancing and that he is a hardworking, hard-playing American man who believes in [Jesus] Christ. OMG!!! As you can imagine this is the way most American males are …  
 
And on TER [in the U.S.] there are [a lot of] males who are even-less social than [males in general].  There’s a reason you come [to TER], and it’s not always that you want to be discreet but that you can’t convince a woman to love you.  
   
If it’s not your money, I do not know what else (or who) made you feel that way - maybe your American women. You are soooo insecure [worrying about] your assets. With no house and no money, you would feel as though you were a ZERO.  
 
Trust me: no nation in the world other than America [puts monetary] value on human relationships - between men and women especially. You males are totally fine [as long as] your wives [tell you that you are].  [As for me,] I never would notice if you had no money when we met.  [Some] wives have the guts to say, ‘If you hadn’t had money, I would never have dated you.’  How should that make you feel?  

You’ve been taking this stuff up to your ass, poor American man - even smiling and making jokes [about it]. Meanwhile, any other man would [simply indicate unhappiness and say to his woman]: ‘Am I good enough that you would love me even if I didn’t have this house and didn’t have my boat?’ Without his boat and his car, [an American] man would feel very insecure and [consider himself] a zero.  

Of course [the problem comes] not just from your women but from you men, too; you [U.S. men] are also not angels.  [But] I don’t care because I’m not planning to marry any American man, whether he has money or not.  Either way would be wrong.  Money makes people become horrible [and lose the fundamentally] human trait of thinking about one’s lover separately from bank accounts and [fancy] houses.
 
Oh, sorry, I changed the subject. I was trying to tell you that [everybody in the U.S.] has to go to a therapist to learn normal ways of socializing: [they need to get cured] of sitting and watching TV in sports bars and of [hitting on girls] in ways that make them run away from you hard-working, hard-playing Americans!  Ha ha!  

Fact is that [in Europe] if you see 4 or 5 men sitting alone in a bar with no women there, they will prove to be [your] fellow Americans.  And you on TER [are] even more shy. It is Escalade, with tons of postings on TER, who admitted once [that he was] brave enough to give [a woman his] business card and invite [her up] to the room. But who knows?  Maybe [one of] your women will report you as [a] sexual predator. [‘LOL’ assumed. -Ed.]
 
Sad, sad, sad country. Love relationships, true values and sex are all screwed up.  I myself don’t live here, but I at least can escape from time to time to keep my checks-and-balances.  [How do you keep] your checks-and-balances [and] stay an active adult? TER?? DC?? P411?? Come on! PM me if you want to hear more.  

But Bostonman, I LOVE [what you wrote] about TER and DC, etc.  You said [you need to give a provider] your personal info so she’ll feel comfortable letting you pay her for sex! Could not be any clearer.  

Same with wives. I hope your wife married you because she feels good about you and [is therefore] able to let you pay for her. But here a hooker can be more honest than a wife. She can [choose to see the hobbyist] or not to see him; if she doesn’t like him, she would not lay with him. [Are] your wives doing it or not?? Or are they decent women, ha ha ha? Oh, I guess they are ‘decent,’ or we [providers] here would not be busy at all.    

Kisses. Sorry for [my imperfect] English.  

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