This goes to a certain gentleman, who I had pm'ed with yesterday. Since you chose to put me on ignore, for anyone knows, I will say what is on my mind, regardless lol I chose to address to you, publicly, since you chose to post a little excerpt from me the other day (taken out of context- like my mother always said: if you are going to do something, don't do it half-a$$ed). Another thing, it was very rude of you to do so, without my permission.  If I say something to you back channel, that DOES NOT give you the right to do a bang up copy and paste job, and only put in a post what you wanted to read from it, just to make you feel good. I have been a member of TER for a long time now, and NOT ONCE, has any of the fine gentlemen who post on this board, would ever stoop this low (hmmm..goes to show who are gentlemen, and who are  NOT). I WOULD appreciate it, if you are seeking to quote from me, USE the whole entire text, not just a portion of it. OH YEAH, as one person noted already, please brush up on your typing skills, for they are as lacking as your trustworthiness. Lets all remember that pm's exist for a reason. I took what you initially posted on the general discussion board, and directed my feelings to you back channel.  YOU chose to take what I had to say, and directed it to the board, but out of context. This goes to show  you folks, when back channeling, be careful of what you say, and who to.

Sincerely,

Mel

Now, how did you like them Apples??? !!!!







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Two snaps and a big wet kiss baby!

I am the person she is talking about  Now melinda i posted a reply to that thread because there are many views as i do not think it is entirely up to the lady to decide if I can post a review like i said i would ask why she does not want one if she says because i dont want people to think i see a lot of men well that does not qualify as a good reason for respecting her wishes

you brought this war on i never asked  you to pm me privatly i do not even know you and i hope i never get the chance to

all i am saying you as a provider do not have the ultimate say if a review should be posted like i said if you are flying ubder the radar for a valid reason thats fine but not because you dont want a long list of reviews thats not good enough for me

these review are here for a reason and they are very helpful
hell if every provider did not want to be reviewed then TER would not exist besides there are many people who like reviews I have learned from past experiences on how a review should be written and not to be very grafic now IMO a provider has the right to say please do not be grafic and i would respect that 100%

But do not insult me at all i never insulted you my typing may not be the best but i try to contribute.

secondly i do respect people and the board and you cannot say i am not trust worthy well hell you dont even know me.
no as far as the private mail
you never said keep this between us if you did i would have secondly i did not mention your name
I did not agree with you  saying and i quote the whole line.
Melinda:"I DO FEEL THE MEN HAVE A RIGHT TO POST,AS LONG AS THE LADY GRANTS HIM THAT WISH" END QUOTE i have a problem with that line we do not need to be granted a wish by you are you a gennie

if you have reviews up already and they are current it should not matter

I do respect the women and i ask if they mind if i review

and like i said earlier I think that review should be tasteful

I chose to ignore you because you seem like you have an answer for everything

I dont know you  and i dont care to know you you may be a nice person but dont insult. because i never insulted you


and those apples were only apple sauce

Col hogan
Col hogan

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is that the next time you want to quote me, PUT THE WHOLE ENTIRE PASSAGE IN THERE, NOT just what you wanted to hear, darling. If you got any problems in regards to NOT putting the correct text in anything, then don't do it at ALL.  COMPRENDE'??????????? Lets hope you are able to comprehend that, AT LEAST.

Hugs, and Kisses,

Mel

p.s. The feeling is mutual, in NOT wanting to ever get to know you. You just made a jack-ass out of yourself, by admitting to taking what I had to say to you privately, and throwing it on the discussion board. I hope that you do NOT ever do that to anyone else, for your reception on the board, WILL WEAR THIN.

meowww

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that was the whole sentance if you like i will post the entire pm you sent
hogan
you decide

Let me help you out here: I posted everything so far that I have

REMEMBER: I have all the emails that you and I have. There was MORE to that sentence, and you KNOW IT. YES, infact, I will copy and paste everything that I had to say to you here:

LISTEN WE NEED NOT DEBATE i did not mention your or anyones name at all  i did not expose you at all you pm me and started this i an just responding to an open forum thats all we all have opinions and no one knew you e mailed me privatly
----- Melinda wrote:
Hi there, Col Hogan. I just got back to my computer, and was about to write to you, and then I noticed that you made a statement about what I wrote to you via TER email. I will admit, that I was a bit shocked, that you would write something that was private via TER from me to you, which is a big no no, and it was also taken out of context. You neglected to write the FULL statement of what I had to say, but what you chose that would be valued to your point. Here is what I had to say (from the bottom):  

I do feel the men do have a right to post, as long as the lady grants him that wish, to do so. I think permission should be asked, unless she was a ripoff, etc. that I do agree on. Anyways, no offense was taken Life it tooo short to be miserable, right? lol Anyways, I hope you h ave a great week..

Now, that no where differs from my original point on the Boston board, or in any of my posts to you. I noticed that you neglected to put the remainder of my context in that post, for it says what I had originally been saying: that I personally, would want to be asked first, before a review has been written. I have my reasonings, such as I dont'want too many reviews, for then I would be considered high volume, that was in my first email to you, I believe.

Please do me a favor, if you are going to put my words in your mouth, please make sure to put the FULL context and not just a few words that may suit your purpose. I have thought about putting both emails into a post below yours, but that would only creat a flaming war.

Sincerely,

Mel


----- colhogan wrote:

i have to disagree in part where you say only if the lady grants him that wish The Gent does not need the ladies permission if that were the case TER would have that in its rules

I am not trying to argue with you so dont think that ok.
you see i feel that people have the right to know some details maybe not all the private details but some and its also helps us keep our vip status with out having to pay $$ for it when a guy lays out big $$$ he should have some braging rights

now there are certin cases he may have to not post a review if a lady is flying low under the radar

but to say i dont want people to know i see a lot of men do dont post is crazy

its a tough subject thats why i ask before we even set up an apointment if the provider minds reviews if she says i dont want any posted thats when i decide do i see her or move on pleanty fish in the sea

but thats my opinion from one mans point of view
Col hogan
----- Melinda wrote:
Hi there, Col Hogan Sorry for changing your spelling, by accident..ugggh lol Anyways, I wasn't sure if that was directed at me, or not, so I chose to back channel Trust me, I do understand your point. I do feel the men do have a right to post, as long as the lady grants him that wish, to do so. I think permission should be asked, unless she was a ripoff, etc. that I do agree on. Anyways, no offense was taken Life it tooo short to be miserable, right? lol Anyways, I hope you h ave a great week..

meow and kisses,

Mel

----- colhogan wrote:
its col hogan not hagan

i understand i was not directing this at you at all i believe that a provider has the right to be asked not to be reviewed as well as the gent has the right to write one both parties should come to a agreement thats all

and the review should be truthful i know some women dont want 10 pages of reviews and thats understandable but if every provider did not want to be reviewed then there would be no TER

i hope i did not offend you in any way at all

----- Melinda wrote:
Col Hagen, the reason why I ask for no more reviews, is because I am not looking to get 10 + pages or so, which makes me sound repetitive. Also, it makes me look high-volume, which I am not. Honestly, I am not 21 anymore, and the idea of having men lining outside my door, does not fit well with me (no pun towards anyone here). When asked why by a client, that is what I will always tell him this reasoning, and I will then let him  use his best judgement. Now, 99% of the gents out here, are true gentlemen, who could understand my feelings on this, and would not want me to get hurt. Those are the clients that I see, want to see, and keep. The 1% can kiss my big black boo-tay, and see someone else, for I will refuse to see them again lol


-- Modified on 9/11/2003 8:13:52 AM

This started out as a reference to an anonymous provider. It's one thing if someone incorrectly attributes a qoute to another person either by name or inference. Whether or not the quote in question was incomplete or an out and out misquote, it HAD been anonymous and therefore harmless.

You can't put the Genie back into the bottle.

Just my opinion...

thirsty

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Melinda I dont know what your problem is but i do not agree with all that trash you just posted i am glad you did it saves me the trouble
I am quite sure you will post to this response

you are wrong IMO we have the right to review maybe you should ask TER for a section for reviews on the client


this is america which all men are created equal you have your views and i have mine

you will never find every ont to agree with you on this subject same goes for me

remember you contact me you started it i only answered the original thread  Did you pm every one else that responded
to the thread

i am thinking what the hex is the point i have better things to do
good luck  good bye
hogan

First of all, I understand Melinda's point of view entirely.  As a provider, she (or any provider for that matter) is constantly being scrutinized and perception and reputation is extremely important.  Many men have preconceived ideas of what a "provider" is.  the internet has helped in most cases to dispell the stereotype, however although many men engage us, they still, in their minds have a very low opinion of us as people (eg., the type of girl I'd F%&K but never marry.")

Having said that, I have interacted with CH, and he really is an upscale guy with a true blue heart.

What we have here is miscommunication.  CH, lay off of Melinda because she is a #1 provider (and I do not say that about every provider, trust me) And Melinda you are a very smart woman. We have known eachother a long time.  Yeah his spelling sucks lol, his opinions on reviews make me nuts, but he is consistent and honest.

CH, I think you need to do a double with Mel and me (after you call me back of course) -- and God Bless America To All! lol..

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If I tell someone something, I expect it to be between him/her and I. If I wanted to discuss something with everyone, I would do that. I don't need a middleman to tell anyone else what I have on my mind. He crossed over the line, by relating what I had to say, and had some nerve to NOT to put the entire passage in the post. No one would like it, if anyone took what they had to say privately, and directed it to the board.

Mel

but  BIGGG NOOO Thanks to that idea....lol

That the next time you want to quote someone, be 100% accurate. Don't take anything out of context to make you look good (it only makes you look like an a$$). Also, this goes to show to everyone on the board, that they need to watch out for U, when back channeling, for they could be NEXT. Do I need to say more? See, darling, you are the one that started this in the first place, by putting it out on the board, I did the proper thing by addressing it to you

Hugs, and Kisses,

Mel

That was to add levity sweetpea.  He is not a bad guy.  And I will spank him big time..you hear that colonel?  I will spank you big time, if you are lucky!!!!!

I know you were trying to help, babygirl, thanks

But in this situation, the only person who can help him, is himself lol

Mel ; )

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Thanks for the kind words aphrodisia i am very intelligent and i can spell i just hate typing thats all too bad there is no spell check
I am sure Mel is a top provider i never questioned that
But we have different opinions and she still ads injury to insult by saying that i am the only one who can help my self so melinda i have 2 things to say

one we have different opinions and since i value mine more i win
and 2  opinions are like a%$%$%holes we all have one

i will never insult you or anyone publically i may have mis quoted you but it does not matter you saw what the moderator wrone no idenity was exposed by me you were the one who exposed your self

hogan

who the hex cares melinda no bodys name was mentioned no one knew you said that to me it doesnt really matter ge wiz let it go
hogan

Sorry. I also value my opinion, as well. My opinion tells me, that I were to take something that was back channeled, and post it on the board, AND have a nerve to only post on piece of a sentence, that person would be not too happy about it. But then, common sense plays differently with everyone..

Enough Said.

Mel

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or will it help you feel like you accomplished something today

hogan

-- Modified on 9/11/2003 9:44:58 AM

I will tell you what would make me REALLYYYY Happy

A hot fudge sundae..yummy! LOL This goes to show, that yes, I have sweet tooooooth Getting back to the matter at hand, my issue with you, (Which you keep failing to comprehend), is that if someone tells you something, it was meant directly for you. I hope that you were able to understand that concept (?) If not, come and join me at Brighams for the Sundae, my treat, and I will be happy to explain it, thoroughly for you to understand. I never ever want to leave any conversation with anyone, and have them miss-understanding what I am trying to say (tounge twister there..uggh lol).  


Love, Hugs, and Kisses,

Mel


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i'm coming over RIGHT NOW to make sure you erase EVERY email on your hard-drive that may be from me ... cuz girlfriend, you just made yourself an enemy!  
but wait ... it's not (just) on your hard-drive ... hmmm ... it's probably in your TER PM inbox too .... or wait maybe ... also stored on your ISP's mailserver ... DAMN!  

well anyway, i think you get my drift. so there, that's how i feel (private email is sacrosanct) and if you have a problem with that ....

[talk to the hand]  !#!@#$!%!

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just a sundae, baby lol

Love,

Mel

I do understand what you are saying but where you are wrong is that i do not need your permission i can say whatever i want in no way did i identify you just because you back channel me doen not mean i cant post anything next time say  keep this between us like all people do who back channel
thanks for the offer i am on a diet but ill take a bottle of poland spring water
hogan

I feel like I'm watching my 5 year old nephew argue with his sister.

Poland springs coming right up lol

Look, people are pissed off at us right now lol Lets not add more fuel to the fire. Besides, all I can think of right now, is my Fudge Sundae, dagnabbit!!! lol

Anyways, lets just agree to disagree, amicabily (yikes, now did I spell that right? lol )

Have a great afternoon,

Sincerely,

Melinda

Too bad I am not in the area today to supply you with them...

(snip)...however although many men engage us, they still, in their minds have a very low opinion of us as people (eg., the type of girl I'd F%&K but never marry.")...(snip)

Aphrodesia,

I've never understood why a man who might engage a provider would have a low opinion of one. I mean, really, who are we to talk? It just seems so hypocritical.

Regarding marriage, I'm probably in the (vast) minority here, but I honestly wouldn't have a problem marrying a former/retiring provider. If I loved someone enough to marry them, that aspect of their lives wouldn't matter to me.

I don't know how I'd feel about marrying an active provider who had no plans to retire. I'd like to say that it wouldn't matter, but this would probably not be entirely truthful. I have a mostly open mind and heart, but I'd have to actually be in the situation in order to figure out what my true feelings would be.

Well we can get married.  At $2,200 every 24 hrs., I'd be a very happy woman.

the single most ridiculous thread I have seen in greater than a decade of internet hobbying.  Congrats to all for bringing posting to a new low.

My .02

Wei

If you don't want the thread to go any further, do not add posts to it. Then, you would be just as guilty, as Col Hogan and myself.

I am going to say this again: I apologize for the LENGTH of the post. I DON'T apologize for my feelings for the initial post, which did cause a chain reaction.

Also, this is not the first time, when any situation involving TER members, had an outbreak, and the thread has gone on longer than this. So, please don't act like it is the end of the world. Suck it up, and move on. I have.

ENOUGH SAID.

Now, can we all breathe in and out, and lets all get laid!!!! lol I plan on it..

Have a great weekend, everyone!

Love, Hugs, and Kisses,

Mel