I was writing my retirement letter and leaving the business because of the attack I was getting by a hobbyist. It was an on going attack since before I even got to Boston and it has continues right up to now. Enough to make me want to quit.

The gentleman posted a review here on TER (Obviously not flattering) after a major attack on me on BigD.net where I refused to ever see him and basically told him it would be a cold day in hell before I would ever book an appointment with him so that he could write a bad review. (Bad reviews are the only thing he writes)

Well, he did see me, in July. He kept his identity from me, long enough so I could not figure it out. And then he posted his review. Does anyone here see the deliberate attempt to make me look bad. The sick behavior, is this an okay thing to do?

I wrote here on TER because the review is here, and I think that people who rely on these reviews have the right to know just what type of guys could be writing the bad ones.

And ladies, do be careful. He enjoys having a miserable experience. He always does. If you want any more information please email me, to save yourself from the insanity that I have been subjected to.

And gentleman, I erased all his personal information, and I know he relied on this since I make it clear to all that I keep no record of anything. But in this case, he drove me so insane that I bought this information after posting a reward for it. I know exactly who he is, but I could not tell you why he does what he does. He is obviously sick in some way! I would never disrespect the confidentiality, but here is a case where it can be harmful to others he might try this with. Im going to be gone soon, so who will he seek out next? And it is not fair to all of you to read these reviews from this distorted mind.

Thirsty- Can something be done about this? I have all the proof of this vendeta than anyone could possibly want. I mean, how real is a review if your seaking out to have a bad one even before the session. This is an act of hate, can I do anything about this?

Desperate, upset, sad and frustrated! Im sorry to share this all with you, but I think this is very wrong. It has been so hard on me that this is the reason I wanted to quit the business.

Ma-ling

Ma Ling I am so sorry to read you are so upset.  If every provider left the profession that has met an asshole there probably wouldnt be any left.  However, don't let your anger get the best of you.  I read that you put a reward and have bought his personal information, if you use the information in a inappropriate mannor you are just jeopardizing every providers safety in Boston.  We rely on personal information to verify our clients.  To do the right thing is to ignore him. Afterall you didn't realize it was the same guy until after he posted and told you he saw you.  You are held in high regard by the posters, they love you don't let one guy ruin it.  Hope you are feeling better feel free to email me if you like [email protected]
crystal

 Even the best girl gets one or two bad reviews. Some girls have a bad day. Or a client you want nothing to do with.

 It is always a good idea to read a few reviews both good and bad for the same girl. That way you can get a better feel for what to expect.

 I would not let an online attack provoke you. I have notice people being personally attacked online since I started using the internet (1978). It is just the nature of the media, it is not going to change. Do not let it bother you.

Crystal, Well put I agree 100% with you! Ma-Ling I hope you can get over this and take care of yourself! Do not give this "Person" so much power over you and the way you feel! It is not worth the stress on yourself and he does not deserve to rent space in your head.

Take a few day's or whatever you need away from the board's to think straight before you might do something that will hurt your character. Get rid of his personal info. it is not worth jeopardizing yourself.....He is not worth it!  Anger and frustration clouds our judgment, I know I've been there!

I've heard Wonderful things about you and I'm sure you will do the right thing! Ditto for me as well...If you need a friend feel free to contact me anytime! ~Hugs & Take care of yourself~ Chrissy

Ma-ling, you need to just learn to say "f*ck it", and do what you need to do for yourself. Trust me, these ladies are giving you the best advice. Btw, good luck with your agency


Mel

youve been edited from one forum for your venom ! keep it up and they will banish you here too! maybe a change of scenery is a good idea for you dear!

I have never been banned anywhere. I think you should get your facts strait. But Venom, yes I do have for those who try to mess with me. I am not the quiet girl that sits and takes crap from anyone. No submissive here.

Ma-ling, did you really post the following? Your own words condemn you:

Now if an agency is asking VB to see one of there (sic) girls because they know he is a reviewer and will write about his experience with the lady, hey what is wrong with that? Sounds like a good marketing strategy. (If I ever open an agency I will keep that in mind) But only if the review is true. I don't know what happens behind closed doors but I do know that VB has a reputation for being dead on with his reviews. I have not read any complaints here on the board like "hey VB, why was the girl such a b*tch to me when you had such a great time with her earlier this week". Maybe I just have not read enough of the boards but as far as I can see, his reviews are definately (sic) not false.

I didn't think much of the negative post of you because it contrasted so sharply with other reports of your services. But... the more I see of your posts, the more doubts I have about your integrity, and your emotional stability. Both factors figure into to my calculations when deciding which providers to see. I don't understand why you have chosen to continue your tirade here after being cautioned elsewhere. Every time you post you raise more questions about the advisability of seeing you! I also sincerely hope your review was not taken down from this review data base just on your word alone. If you publicly state that you see no ethical problem with bartered reviews, then you certainly should tolerate a negative review. I would cast more doubt on any rave review of you by certain parties than the negative one in question and that is true only because of your very recent actions and public statements.

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You act as if everyone here on these boards are perfect angels. You don't think people know the obvious? If you email a girl, my name is this and my handle is this and I am a poster, then  you are automatically suggesting something, and unfortunately MANY do this. So, do you plan to change it all by yourself? It happens, and that is life. As long as the guy is honest about his reviews as VB has always been, (I do not know of anything to the contrary) then what harm has been done. I myself do not give free service for a review, and free was not the question here!

The question at hand is about SP's getting reviews and knowing the client is a poster? Maybe even giving a discount to posters? Well, I will tell you the only discounts I give are to my clients who saw me my first week in Boston. Does anyone find fault with this? Am I breaking a rule for giving a discount to some? Anyone can twist anything they read or hear on these boards. It is up to us, to do as our mind and private parts want us to do.

xox Ma-ling

Im sorry that you feel this way about me, but I speak my mind and prefer not to sugar coat anything. To some that is my problem, to others that is my charm.

Maling, first off this guy also gave me a bad time. He said he saw me and walked out.  I am positive I never met him and also  I never had a walk out (I did have a guy get guilty and teary eyed a couple of weeks ago because he never strayed from his marriage, gave him a beer, talked to him and told him it was best he leave since he was so nervous and guilty, but that was 3 months after the "lie").  I see very few new people, and although I don't keep info, I am well aware of who I see since most gents are regulars.

This guy is not worth being upset about.  He was allowed to act completely reckless almost ALL the time elsewhere.

Crystal and Chrissy are right.  Don't give this guy the satisfaction of getting to you.  Your faithful friends (clients) will always be there and the truth of your services will prevail in future reviews.

Focus on all the nice guys we meet!  I have heard many guys say what a great lady you are both on a personal and service level.

Take care,  Kate





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...it is nice to know I was not alone in his attacks, but I am really sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that.  It really does not matter anymore, but what is important that if it is to ever happen again, us talking about this here will help another girl whom might be his next victom of such circumstances.

When we write reviews, we are reminded in rule #15 that these reviews "are considered fiction" and for entertainment purposes.  So don't sweat it, especially if you've been the subject of a half dozen reviews or more.  We expect some fiction and unfairness, both good and bad, and, hopefully, can detect patterns and can make educated guesses on the providers whom we may enjoy the most.

Dappa -

As one who has had the pleasure of meeting Ma-ling, I can assure you that her integrity is beyond reproach and she is probably one of the more stable women I've had the pleasure to meet.  Feisty certainly, but that hardly makes her unstable. I would not extrapolate her rather public spat with this one hobbyist to imply that she is anything but gracious and discrete with her clients.

Ma-ling has two faults on these boards: She can't spell worth sh*t (a fact she freely admits and I've chosen to forgive her on this point) and she has a tendency to react strongly without first considering the consequences of her posts.  While you might interpret this to mean she could be less than discrete with private information, her public reactions are in response to issues raised in a public forum.

The context of the quote you chose had to do with Ma-ling coming to the defense of a friend when he was viciously attacked on the boards (by an anonymous poster).  Whether VB was "right" or "wrong" in his behaviors is immaterial - she was about the only one courageous enough to stick up for him while a lot of other folks were behaving like jackals around the carcass.  She took an "innocent until proven guilty" approach that frankly took a lot of guts.

For her defense of VB, she took a really nasty shot from the hobbyist referred to in this thread ... who had a seemingly life-long grudge against VB.  Ma-ling's pissed off - and frankly after reading the threads I can't blame her.

Ma-ling has announced her departure from the Boston scene.  When she leaves, she will leave many more friends behind than enemies.  Those of us who knew her wish her nothing but the best.  Those of you who haven't met her have missed out on a truly wonderful experience.

Final word of advice to Ma-ling:  Let sleeping dogs lie.  Those of us who know you know the real score.  Good luck, Sweetheart!!

MileHigh

SOme think I was over exaggerating because I was upset over a bad review. Im not sure how much of what is below is true, but right from the horses mouth. Or the friend of a horses mouth...lol. What ever it is, this proves the act of hate rather than just a plain old bad review.



"By the original Dogbone"
A very complicated situation has come about that I will try to explained but I expect will never be understood. The original Dogbone is writing this post to the board and an individual person whom at one time on the board had class with character mixed in but was hit hard by someone who had an agenda. Lets begin shall we. Some time ago I subscribed to TBD as Dogbone. I am also a poster on TER also as Dogbone. A friend of mine came into the hobby after I discovered the board and I introduced him to your once intact community. He as everyone else was experiencing some good and bad sessions and as I was retired from posting asked me if he could use my handle as I was no longer using it. Foolishly I said OK. So months ago his posting began using my handle Dogbone, again this was OK as I had not posted for months and was mainly on TER. I would from time to time go to the board and read his posts. Realizing he was causing tremendous board rage asked him to stop. He made an attempt and I made him change his handle and thus 9stiff appeared and the foolishness continued. I told him he was going to regret what he was doing and a lot of people had a lot at stake but it continued. Well the day has come and I regret what he has done to individuals, especially Ma-ling. How do I make this correct you all ask well by apologizing to Ma-ling for a lot of unfortunate slander she has put up with. Ma-ling as I have never met you the times we have talked you seem sweet and genuine. It is very unfortunate that this train came crashing into your life but I hope this will clear it up for you. If you recall you and I had a very nice conversation about your meeting with Ashley and I was all up for it. Due to reasons beyond my control I was not able to attend that event that I am sure was as close to heaven on earth for some very fortunate sole. Again this is a public apology to Ma-ling for something that never should have happened. Ma-ling please don't shut off Boston as one of your visiting cities as this would be very unfair to those that get the opportunity to spend time with you. This is probably a shock to all of you and you probably can't believe what you are reading but it's true. I am retiring Dogbone and 9stiff forever and will never be on this board again. A year ago when I was posting I said some things that were not easy for some to accept and as my writing ways are not always in the best taste I would never smash someone I have never met, Ma-ling. As for VB I won't even go there as I am not up to speed on what ever really happened with the new Dogbone/9stiff but I am sure the truth, other than through me will come out. To all of you be safe in this hobby. As Mature Gentleman would have said we are suppose to be having fun and it looks as though we are not. He was wise in his ways and probably the greatest poster on the board so think back to how he may have cooled off the flames of all this and listen to yourself as he was as wise as they come. This is a final farewell to all of you and I hope you can heal your community as it was because this should clear up a lot for most of you. One last thing I ask is do not respond to this post as I will not be reading the board anymore. I have not for months so you can respond with each other. As for the providers who have met me know I am a perfect gentleman in their presence and never should have let what happened happen. I am truly sorry especially to Ma-ling. Take care all, have fun and be safe. Party on The original Dogbone.