first off, i have been a lurker on ter for about two years. i am not a "hobbiest" in the sense as i can count on one hand how many times i have frequented a provider in my 50 years of life. i have found the information on this site priceless and in some way feel like a member (from a distance) of the family and feel like i really know some of you from reading the posts on a pretty much daily basis. for 2 years now i have been wondering about this site and am I in no way being condescending in any way in what i am about to say. i truly love this site.

my question (and i am just going to spit it out):

why in the world would anybody that found a wonderful provider share that information so that any tom, dick or harry would want to be with her? i found that woman and want to keep her a secret. maybe i'm selfish, insecure, yada, yada, yada, i dont know. enlighten me people, i sincerely respect your opinion.

as wine lovers discuss, and share wine with like minded oenophiles. In fact, some pussy has a fine bouquet. You can't own a provider, or hide her in a closet because she is your ATF. That doesn't work, and yes, it's selfish. If you discovered a great restaurant, wouldn't you want to tell a friend that was a "foodie" about your find?

Welcome to TER hun........I love TER too!  This IS a place where we share....we share our information about each other so that we can find our perfect matches.  That is why we have reviews.

Its just the name of the game, hun.   We post, we discuss and we share.  I wish you luck in your endeavors here sweetie.

Lisa of Boston



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People share their positive and sometimes not so positive adventures to help the others in the community.  Some share not to make the woman so busy, but to help her with her business.  Some others share to let others "friends of the board" enjoy what they have enjoyed.

Now considering that you have only a handful of visits in your 50 years, how could a woman who hit all the right notes with you stay as an economic success?  It would be the best for all, yes you included, that you share your adventures.

Have fun, play safe, and communicate.

Yes, foodyguy you do make an excellent point. I suppose I really wouldnt be supporting anyone with my .1 visits per year. Its probably best to share as to prevent the provider from getting a so-called real job making $8 per hour at McDonalds to make ends meet. I really cant see myself in the drive thru 3 times a day either. Once again, it is all about the almighty buck. I have a date friday and will ask her if she wants me to share. Hows that? This boy is growing up.

Thank you to all.....

Dates are less fattening than Big Macs.  We await the menu and review.



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You do raise a good question.  I look at it as kind of a community you became part of as you participate in hobbying.  Hobbying is not a public, recognizable and approved activity.  Probably many think we're perverts(well.....a bit), but we know we're not, thus have to find some people who share our interests without being defensive about it.  But what is true, yes, after a wonderful session with some of my favorite providers, I do get a bit jealous!!

Ziss,

Jealousy is a part of it. I think one of the reasons I havent become a VIP is that I dont want to see the "details". I want to believe that she only does certain things with me. I mean, lets face it, the term GFE (girl friend "experience") is just that, an experience, an illusion of being your girlfriend. I love the illusion if only for an hour or two. Thats what makes it fun, but trying to stay in that frame of mind without getting jealous or wanting to keep her all to yourself is difficult. Its hard to articulate; do I make any sense?

Since you've been around for a couple of years, you have to have noticed that we share a lot more than our experiences with the ladies. Just as the ladies have a sort of "sisterhood", the guys here also have a "brotherhood". And there is a certain common connection among everyone, ladies and gents alike. Although most of the friendships are electronic, there are those occasions when we get to meet one another face to face. I've had a few of those occasions, and made some genuine friends. If you read a lot of the local boards, you'll see that the people share some very personal parts of their lives, good times and not so good times. When someone is going through a tough stretch, you'll notice a terrific outpouring of compassion from all the other members. That my friend is genuine community, and genuine frienship. That is why we share.

Go have yourself a wonderful date. Then come on back and share a little.

She is trying to make a living. What would be the point to keeping her all to yourself? It's an hour or two of good sex my friend, after that both parties move on. If I truly like a gal I want her to be successful, happy and safe.  Giving her a good review here on TER and saying good things about her to other hobbyists increases the chances of her seeing more like-minded men who will, hopefully, enjoy her company as much as I did and treat her just as well as I do.

These gals can't pay the bills with the money they make from one regular.