I was trying to make arrangements to meet a well-reviewed provider, and one of the things she asked for in screening was my TER handle. She apparently checked out a few of  my reviews and felt they were too harsh, so she decided not to meet me. I'll admit I've had some bad experiences, primarily as a result of being too optimistic about back page ads, but I don't think any of the negative reviews were unwarranted (rip-offs, bad implants/attitude, etc).

I've had plenty of positive experiences, but I tend not to bother writing yet another glowing review for providers who already are highly rated if I don't have anything new to say. Based on her response, it looks like this approach has not served me well. Should I write good reviews in order to make myself look more approachable? Should I stop writing negative reviews and let others make the same mistakes I did?

1) Anything negative you write will come back to you by way of the providers' back channel.  
2) Writing mostly negative reviews makes you look like the one with a bad attitude.
3) Being overly critical on a provider's looks can make other providers uncomfortable.

You said yourself that you tend not to bother writing yet another glowing review for providers who already are highly rated.  Fuck that dude.  Write about your good experiences too, because that only brings more credibility to when you give a bad review for rip-offs and bad attitudes

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Think about it from her perspective.  Why would she bother seeing you (assuming she has enough clients that she doesn't need to do it for the money)?  From where she stands, she takes a big risk with no reward.  She sees a guy who basically only writes bad reviews, so the first inclination is that you're hard to please.  So basically at best, you won't review her.  But there's a good chance you'll give her a bad review.  All risk no reward (in terms of reviews).

When I see over 50% of reviews are negative I would most likely pass as well.  It does give off the feeling that your difficult to please.  It certainly doesn't make you a bad guy, maybe you have a wife, gf or s/o that is drop dead gorgeous. The actual review to many of us is not the end all be all. We WANT you to be happy and have a great time. No one wants to walk in expecting to let you down. If you wrote a few reviews when you have great experiences it would balance out. I did read your reviews btw before posting. The ironic part is the rip offs don't care about a reviewers history.  Its the real deal girls that check and may say no ty. Just my 2 cents and I still feel that if you see someone its your RIGHT to write a review. Just know that some girls may shy away if you appear to be consistently disappointed.

I think that when a client makes an escort aware of any review handle(s) his reviews and board posts become fair game for determining whether or not she would like to meet him.
After all, any information that you find about us online (or offline for that matter) helps you determine whether or not you would like to meet us.  

With that being said, the review profile doesn't tell the entire story.

I've known you for years DrGee and you're one of the sweetest and best guys around.
If I didn't know you & you were to contact me today I can't say that your profile wouldn't raise my eyebrows, but it wouldn't necessarily be a deterrent either depending on the actual content of the reviews.

If someone uses abusive language and routinely scores low, no one can fault a business person for choosing to avoid a $300 appointment which could cost them $3,000 in the long run.
But if a person's scoring is just devoid of the hyper TER inflation grading curve (i.e. "newbie" or "rare hobbyist" who scores literally "6 is for I really thought she was nice") and the language describes their experience with tact and not in an ungentlemanly way I think that escorts who are more interested in making money without ego bullshitting around than fiercely guarding their "average" will work around around that by being communicative.  Though she declined- at least she gave you a direct answer as apposed to just ignoring your interest all together.  When declined a lot of low reviewers will simply say "I will not review you" and usually honor their word so there are workarounds to this.

If someone looked at my TripAdvisor profile as a whole they'd probably think  "wow, what a picky bitch"- my profile doesn't describe my experiences at routinely excellent 5-star hotels; I login and tell my story when something is really fucked up or unclean as a warning to other travelers so I sympathize with you.  By the reviews you've written anyone can see that you're an adventurer going into uncharted Backpage territory lol.  I'm sure lots have men have silently thanked you for writing your experiences on otherwise unknown quantities.  Its not as if you've written low reviews of girls routinely well-received.  
No one is playing in Monopoly money here- if you have something to say it for the benefit of others who would like to avoid the same issues

But when you write bad reviews I think  you just have to have a self-awareness about it, approach it realistically and with empathy to ladies you'd like to meet, move on where you must, have a good reference who will speak well of you (I've just Whitelisted you) and let the ladies know that you are about making an individual connection  with them...not getting online to slam  girls for the satisfaction of it.  If you were to write all of your good experiences they'd probably be equal to the ones that you've posted and ironically many girls would then look at your profile as one which would positively reflect well upon them if you reviewed them highly because of the element of realism in your body of reviews.  An 8/9 means so much more to me from someone who has written a few 7/5s than 15 9/10s.

Have a great summer ,
A

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Wow. The same experience with a provider declining to see me lead to canceling my TER account and restarting from scratch with a new name as TER will not allow a hobbyist to delete reviews. I had some negative reviews and when the provider who declined to see me asked about them, I explained that in many some hasty, instant gratification-based choices, had had bad encounters where not only the 'provider' was poor, but borderline ripoff. I was white-listed by three upscale providers, but that didn't carry any weight. I was shocked and upset, hence the steps I took as described above. It really shook me and I stopped seeing providers altogether for awhile. I feel the same way the original poster did, reluctant to post 'yet another glowing review'...it's almost funny as I am considered handsome and in shape, to the point of a few ebony providers wanting to get to know me outside of the profession. I'm relieved that I am not the only person this has happened to. Now I am going about getting white-listed all over again...happily, I might add...lol

to be having the same experiences since 2008. Your reviews aren't harsh, just rookie mistakes. With all the negative experiences you've had, one would think you'd stick with more reputable women. I admit that it would give me pause. It's not the BP trolling. There are some great ladies that advertise there. But you know the difference between the way BP girls work and legitimate ladies work. You should be beyond getting 'tricked'. Your reviews are supposed to tell us a story, that you were once 'young and dumb', now you avoid trouble.  

Our communications would have to tell a different story for me to be confident in meet.

I wouldn't be dissuaded if someone had a few positive and a few negative with whitelistings. To each their own but for me its a game changer when I see the whitelist.  Even if you chose not to write a review about the girl, the action of whitelisting equates to a positive experience. Its only if it appears the reviewer is having consistent negative experiences. Reviews are being utilized for all types of service today.  Doctors,  contractors, advisors, attorneys. If you were a contractor and read the same person posted negative reviews about the last 7 contractors he hired,  it may lead you to think oh boy this one is going to be hard to please!  Some will still take the challenge but others may pass. Naturally its different in many ways but the overall premise is the same. I understand not writing the positive and writing the negative to warn others, I can see the point and it makes sense however the girl doesn't know if that's the case or if you are just impossible to please.  In your case the whitelist would have made all the difference for me, glad you are back and having fun!

Well...

Just as anything and everything that providers write and say can lead to a gentleman choosing to or to not see them, everything that a hobbyist posts on TER can be a factor in determining if a lady will see you. I not only ask for a TER handle but if it was not provided, I search the email on TER to see if they review. I've been accused of doing this to decide what sort of performance I would give, however it's for this exact situation.  

Case in point:

I had a hobbyist contact me for an appointment. I noticed that he tended to prefer spinner types. Those who he had seen with a curvier body type, he gave lower scores. But I decided that I would see him and perhaps this was just a coincidence. After all, not everyone reviews all providers they see. Sure enough, I got the lowest score I've ever received before and since. Now I make it a point to check.  

 
Every lady has different criteria. Different things raise red flags whether it be for their safety or their business

I think a lot of you don't consider how much reviews effect us. A bad review can potentially cost us thousands in income, just as a good review can bring us thousands. By not writing reviews for good experiences, and only bad ones, the only benefit to seeing you is what you're paying. But the risk of you potentially writing a bad review may very well outweigh that relatively small income. If the majority of your reviews are negative to average, then you give the impression of being a difficult client, and most (who are not desperate) will probably pass.  

Writing a good review is often better than tipping for a good experience

Ally is correct that to delve into backpage territory and then give a harsh even if honest review can be a caution flag for a better known provider that does not need to ' gamble' on you.

But if you are whitelisted like she did for you then you should find more doors ore' I mean legs opening up for you in the future.

 
Ally is a tough screener herself and will not see people she feels incompatible with and it's probably saved her some criticism and pain here on the board . her 300 versus 3000 comment is spot on long term thinking.

Move on to your next wish list provider and pm her stating you are whitelisted and will only review her if she allows you to after the rendezvous ..and keep your word and post good reviews and then this other provider may rethink her position down the road..

Good luck

Definitely some food for thought. Naively, I never considered that I'd be judged based on my reviews. Guess I'll just have to run out and have some good experiences that I can write up so I can tip the scales to the positive side...

After all, your poor reviews are in line with what other hobbyists also opined.

You might want to avoid seeing gals with no reviews or poor reviews however, and also be generous about giving good reviews when you have good experiences.

For a provider to reject you makes me think she is not sanguine about her chances to get a good review, so she's probably done you a favor by not seeing you.

Regardless of how well reviewed a lady is, getting new positive reviews helps to bring her profile to the forefront.  You should definitely review highly reviewed ladies, unless they ask you not to.

I would not dismiss someone based upon him writing negative reviews, as long as he provided references who could vouch for him, and is not blacklisted.

Having said that, I do look at the reviews he has written and often look at the best 2 and worst 2 to help me determine how to maximize the experience for all involved.  If you don't provide examples of what you do find exciting, how is one to know?