If I contact you unexpectedly, I am corrected very harshly and made  
to feel like a piece of shit. I was really sorry because I know its the wrong thing to do... But is it okay for you to do it to me ? Hmm...?

It's a seller's market

This isn't a government-sponsored program, it pick-and-choose.  I firmly believe that every provider has the right to turn down a customer. Thank goodness for variety on both sides