Hey guys and gals,

I'm not new to the game anymore and I like to think I'm extremely courteous and respectful of the providers time as well as my own.  This is where I ran into an issue and I'm really feeling bad on my end but I'm also not entirely sure I should be.  What it boils down to is this, there is someone (I'll keep names withheld) whom I recently saw some new reviews and pictures etc..and determined I'd like to see her.

We exchanged e-mails and seemed to hit it off, which let to texts, and finally, an appointment.  Now, we did speak on the phone as well.  Anyways, day of, she texted asking if we were still on, and I informed her we were I just needed to shower and I'd be on my way.  She texted me the exit off of the highway and said to text/call when there.  No problem.

I texted and she replied with her address.  Now keep in mind this is at about 8P.M. and I'm in an unfamiliar, and to be honest kind of sketchy (in my opinion) neighborhood.  I parked across the street from what I thought was the home and called asking if she could see my lights.

"I dont know, I'm on the third floor, just go in the side"
I said I'm just not sure which house you're specifically referring to because there are no street lights.  Can you tell me what to look for.
"I'm not sure"
Well...there's a bunch of people outside and I'm not about to go wandering around by myself trying to find your place.  By people I mean three hooded black men just standing around and two other walked past my car.

She proceeded to act like I was an idiot, couldn't fathom how I couldn't find where she was located, kept asking me if I was on her street but then was very vague in her descriptions of which house and such.  I had a terrible feeling about it and ended up driving away.

She has reputable reviews, and was so out of character from our previous conversations.

Finally, I drove almost 50 minutes to see said provider and received 3 calls and texts and then an e-mail saying she was shocked at being stood up etc...


Am I wrong in leaving here?  How do you not know enough about your own place to guide me in?  I just want to make sure I'm not the only one.

Has anyone else ever had anything like this?

So apparently she didnt care enough about gettin the business from ya too take quick stroll out front and meet up with ya  out there and glance around to have a few landmarks handy, Apparemtly 300 plus an hour isnt high enough pay to do these activities, for this person, or maybe they just were intentionally blowin you off and got freaked out aN DTHAT WAS THERE WAY OF GETN POUT DOIN NAPPT WITH OUT BEING HONEST AND SAYIN EY SOMETHING CAME OUT, PEOPLE ARE WEIRD SOMETIMES AND DONT JUST SAY WHAT THEY WANT AND TRY N GET OFF HOOK BY DOIN STUFF LIKE THAT KNOWIN YOUL CANCEL, SHE PROB OPBVI DIDNT WANT THE APPT , CUZ WE ALL KNOW ITS NOT TO HARD TO WALK OUTSIDE N TAKE A LOOK UP YOUR STREET N SEE LANDMARKS, OR SAY HEY, I WORKED TOO HARD YESTERDAY , I DO APOLOGIZE BUT I AM SOME HOW PHYSICALLY SPENT, NOW AND PLEASE CAN WE RESCHEDULE AS I DONT WANT YOU WQASTN YOUR MONEY AND TIME, gUYS TEND TO APPRECIATE THAT AS OPPOSED TO YOU COMING AND THEY GET A SLOW BORING APPT CUZ YOUR BEAT.

You followed your instincts, somewhat sketchy area that you are unfamiliar with, it was at night and she was not helping.  The fact she could not just come dawnstairs to guide you in is a problem. Had you knocked on doors and it was the wrong house, that could have been a whole other problem.

Explain to her why you left and if she doesn't get it, then suck is life. You have yours! Pleanty of other providers willing to work with you to keep you safe.

Move on.

No question. You did the right thing. You have a pm

She was so inhospitable to you that it seems it was she who was dumping you, not vice versa.

In any case, you did the right thing because personal safety is paramount over anything else.

and more than any client should ever have to deal with. I mean she does not know where her own house is? Bad area? That's simply retarded so I hope she was not asking for high dollar, because there is no excuse for that. You're not in the wrong...she is, and trust me I don't bat for the other team but speak in the name of common sense. Live and learn, but in the future do more research. Seems this would be something that would have been noted in reviews if the guys she sees even write them.

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With so many quality independents and agencies out there why bother to take the risk?

Yeah London I 100% agree, and I waited and waited to see her and the reviews kept coming and were all great and then our rapport was great so I figured it was a safe bet.  IF you want to PM me I'll tell you who it was but no worries either way.  Appreciate the response

I appreciate all of the input and feedback from everybody!  Just to make one last note, the provider in question is...or at least seems...reputable.  She has numerous pretty damn good reviews this year, 5+ reviews alone from the last couple months... so maybe I caught her on an off day but it just didn't sit well with me.


Anyways, I definitely appreciate it everybody

I don’t know Donnie Brasco, but I do know London Rayne.  She is a major contributor on the GD and a barrel of laughs in my book.  She will visit Boston sooner or later.  I hope others enjoy her posts as much as I do.  Look her up on the GD.

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I had a similar situation as bri_smith one time.  That provider is no longer active so I don’t mind sharing the story.  Her apt was in an old (now dumpy) section of Lynn Ma.  I had never been in this part of town before and was completely lost.  The one-way streets made it even more difficult.  All the housing looked the same to me (triple deckers?) and you can’t see colors at night.  She was giving directions as I drove around.  After going around the same block three times I told her I was giving up.  She was telling me to go left, and the left was one way coming out.  

Not end of story…I had passed a laundromat a few times in my circling and mentioned this to her.  She said to go there and she would meet me.  I park in front and her brother drives her there.  They pull up next to me and she jumps out of his car and into mine.  She gives directions as I drive to her place.  It was close (and simple for someone who knows the way).  

Lots of other stories with this girl….she was the one with the two large attentive Dobermans.

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you have a pm on another matter

OMG! I laughed out loud when I read it.  Who else but Angel would write something like that?  Effin priceless!!!

Hahahaha dirk amen brother.  She is one of a kind ain't she

Guess, it was way too much to ask for her to just come and peek her head out the door or the window. Maybe she had another gent still there, and didn't know how to react properly. Either way, so not cool to have a guy waiting. Time is valuable.

The simple rule to follow is: if you don't feel right for any reason, walk away.  My belief is that this will keep you out of problems 99.99% of the time.  So you did the right thing for whatever reason.