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In general, you and i are on the same page, i am against imposing my kink on the general public without their consent.  

i have however, had partners that i was liquid bound with , that discreetly filled my empty champagne glass with pee (this done while they made a visit to the bathroom and walked the glass back to the table) for me to drink.

i have been at restaurants that have "One fits all" private restrooms and done naughty things in them.

i have been at restaurants, been given a toy to insert in the restroom, and come back to the table to hand a remote over (long tablecloths make good covers for toys that aren't wireless).

i have taken my stocking off and dunked  it in my partners drink then placed it in his mouth for him to suck the drink out of.It was a St. Patrick's Day and it was pretty wild in that bar anyways.

So, yes, i have made exceptions.

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LeChiffre18783 reads

I am personally generally opposed the idea of public play, because it's really not "consensual" (from the "safe, sane and consensual" dogma) on the part of passersby, some of whom might be out with their children, but I understand the appeal.  Curious to know how others feel about it.

Another concern is cell phone cameras -- Here's an example posted on Gawker.com of a D/s relationship in a public park.  Hopefully, both parties are "out" to their friends and family about being kinky.

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mrfisher15776 reads

Did you ever check out 42nd street and B'way back in the 1970s before Guiglianni cleaned it up?

Now there was a non-stop show!

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Fair_Use19234 reads

I was a regular in that scene. Good old days to be sure.

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mrfisher14451 reads

It made Mardi Gras on Bourbon Street look like an Amish church service.

My most vivid memory was of a guy(?) who wore a 6' paper mache dick on his head.

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Fair_Use15514 reads

...vagina. The theatre she performed in had 12 shows daily and she was there everyday. After each performance a line of men would pay their 5 bucks for 1 minute of DATY.

I called it home.

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ClairJordan13328 reads

Not to date myself...what's the chime in???

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submissann17932 reads

How did he balance a 6 foot dic on his head?   That takes talent.  i'd be in awe.


i missed all the good stuff, frill, frilll, frill.

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AtticusBlack15302 reads

I agree with your concern.  

However if it's done done discreetly and with style, it can be as powerful and meaningful as any S&M in private.

The invisibility of it going on makes gives it a wonderful intimacy.

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LeChiffre16554 reads

I agree that it can be done effectively and with less risk of exposing the general public.  Maybe one of the best ways is when you're out in public wearing something underneath your clothes that others can't see . . .  as a man, perhaps wearing female lingerie or a chastity device under your male clothes.  You probably also have a lot more latitude if you are "playing" in, say, a lingerie store ("We're buying panties for HIM!") that are oriented towards adults.

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submissann13739 reads

i've been at Victoria Secret when a charming, vivacious young lad all of a sudden held up a pair of pink panties with some little heart motif in sequins and shouted to the the very reserve man leaning against a wall overseeing the shopping

"Aren't these too wonderful?  Do you like them?"


i really wanted a runway show of those panties done by the young lad but the gentleman was a tad taken back, as obviously he didn't see this shopping spree going this way.....

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MistressKiley14740 reads

I tend to agree with you, LeChiffre. I don't like the idea of random people (possibly including children) being exposed involuntarily to others kinks. However, I have attended street parties (not BDSM or sexuality related, like Pride, etc.) where seeing someone on the end of a leash wasn't too much of a surprise, the joy of living in a college town ;) I've also found ren faires to be quite the fun place to participate in a little discreet public play :D

Of course, there are also our own Horns and Halos parties here in Phoenix (Fetish Prom, Fetish Ball, etc.) that are incredible parties for kinksters and fetishists...they put on amazing shows!!

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sixgunsteve15679 reads

that subtle public Domination can be very erotic.........grabbing a womans mane in a public restaurant........a semi-public spanking while sitting in my car in a public parking lot....and in SF......maybe a bit more......walking my sub down the street using her hair as a leash.

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submissann14526 reads

In general, you and i are on the same page, i am against imposing my kink on the general public without their consent.  

i have however, had partners that i was liquid bound with , that discreetly filled my empty champagne glass with pee (this done while they made a visit to the bathroom and walked the glass back to the table) for me to drink.

i have been at restaurants that have "One fits all" private restrooms and done naughty things in them.

i have been at restaurants, been given a toy to insert in the restroom, and come back to the table to hand a remote over (long tablecloths make good covers for toys that aren't wireless).

i have taken my stocking off and dunked  it in my partners drink then placed it in his mouth for him to suck the drink out of.It was a St. Patrick's Day and it was pretty wild in that bar anyways.

So, yes, i have made exceptions.

Related Link: http://www.submissann.com

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tarasterling16229 reads

While I have to say I think that for NYC or San Francisco a scene like that in public is not really so bad. Here in S.F. the city blocks off a whole street and fills it with S&M three days a year (Folsom, Dorey and Harrison street fairs).

That said I personally prefer subtle gestures. Imagine not having access to your wallet or cell phone, having to ask permission for every move you make...

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MollyRobinson16022 reads

I am planning an evening out with a very sexy androgynous looking (when she is dressed in a custom tailored suit) girlfriend of mine. I will be dress very fem and a little over the top.
We are going on a dinner date to a very bougy part of town to a 5 star restaurant. Our public displays of affection will most likely consist of feeding each other, laughing and flirting with on lookers :)

Ok so we like to tease the upper crust who are confused at who we are and wonder if we belong in their world. We dress in designer everything and there are always whispers about who we are.

You really should try it, its fun!!!

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