I am new to this scene and have to take a short break from it for personal reasons But what I enjoy most depends if I am the top or the bottom and I enjoy both for different reasons.

What I enjoy most about taking the submissive roll is I love to please and get a kick out of watching my wife get off flogging me or ordering me around. A close second is for a while I only have one think to worry about, pleasing my wife. It is great stress relief. I also get to face some of my fears in a safe way as well which is also a plus.

What I enjoy about being the top is barking orders an watching my wife complete them no matter how silly they are. I also love the fact I know my wife loves being the bottom and pleasing me. I love pushing her and I always enjoy watching/giving corporal punishment to a hot female. Great fun.

I just told you what I enjoy about the BDSM activities I partake in, what about you? What do you enjoy about BDSM?

Great topic!

I honestly think I got into the scene because of the fashions . . .  Funny how the sight of a beautiful naked woman in a magazine would be like "Nice!", but the sight of that same woman head to toe in leather, latex or vinyl would be like "Holy fucking shit!"  That's why I really appreciate (or get disappointed by) the level of effort others make at BDSM play parties to dress the part.

It gets the heart pumping and the mind becomes extremely focused which can be quite enjoyable.

It's hard to put into words something that is so emotional and physical at the same time.

I'm not into pain, but the loss of control over the situation is what excites me.

Not being expected to be the aggressive partner, in fact, not being Allowed to be the
aggressor is very exciting.

Being in control by having a lady under restraints. I tell her to focus on her pussy. Watching her breath heavy because she is nervous. Listen to her muffled moans in a ballgag. That stuff gives me a instant hard on, lol. The best part is have penetrating the pussy while the lady is restrained. She wants to move but can't move.

My favorite part of being a Top is the willingness of my bottom to please me. I absolutely love a willing, compliant gent or lady who presents him/herself for MY pleasure. Yes, as a pro, most of my clients have an agenda, but when they give me a free hand in determining how I fulfill their agenda, that, for me, is some serious hotness.

As a bottom, I love giving my Top the same feelings I experience as a Top. I know just how hot it is to have someone jump when I say so, so I make sure that any Top I play with gets that same experience. Plus, I am a pretty hardcore masochist, and there are some activities that I willingly bottom for simply because they get me off, like an all out OTK spanking or caning...I allow myself to be selfish that way sometimes

Finally, I think as a Top or a bottom, I love fulfilling someone's fantasy. So many that I see come to me with a story, some fantasy that they have had for a long time that they are finally ready to explore and I get a kick out of setting a scene, putting my own twist on their fantasy, and hearing them tell me afterward just how awesome it was....can't beat that feeling with stick !!

The BDSM thing is quite new to me, but I have done enough research to realize I am not a sadist, but bascially a bossy bitch who likes to be large and in charge!  I love light bondage, spanking, and submission without total restraint or inflicting serious pain.  I have def learned the difference between pain and sensation.  CBT, Goddess Worship, face sitting...I like combining the erotic with submission, so am more interested in a hybrid experience.  
So far so good!  New things to learn, for sure, but what I am doing right now is really fun for me.
thanks for all your input, btw.  I appreciate a place to be able to ask questions and explore possbilites.

xoClair

I like being a bottom; caning is my specific fancy.

I get dressed up in a corset with a short, SHORT dress and high heels and no panties. Then, I bend over a table or chair (for the support) and let the top cane me (or spank with his or her hand or a hairbrush) until I get off with both an endorphin high and a really hard orgasm.

No, I don't do the submissive thing; you can't tell me to get on my hands and knees and get your slippers. Tell me what to do and I'll tell you where to go.

But, you can cane my behind until it's red and striped and black and blue - and I'm happy as a little girl with a handful of cookies! I even have a site specific to this and under a different name, but I haven't learned yet how to add that to my TER repertoire.

The boring answer:  I love the freedom it gives me to be who I really am.  A multi-faceted kinkster who doesn't really have 1 true label that fits me.

The fun answer: I love that moment when I'm playing with someone I really connect with and I can sense that they are truly flying through subspace, and it's because of me, because of what I am doing, because of the journey I am taking them on.  When I put my hand under their chin, and lift their eyes to mine, and they are foggy and glazed over with passion and that lovely rush that accompanies any good scene, it sends me flying right along side of them.  Indescribable.

The most fun answer: I love it when I'm using my whips and paddles and various instruments on someone and I get aroused while doing so.  Or when I'm doing anything and get aroused.  I know a scene is going well when I realize that I'm kind of dripping down my leg.  If someone has that kind of chemistry with me, then there's really nothing else I can ask for or want.