I am naturally dominant, but I love to role-play & have recently opened my menu to offering sub/switch services it's fun!
I am struck by the difference in the number of submissive ladies in the population (including many of my very best fiends with benefits) and among providers.
I am a true chameleon switch and Enjoy straight forward GFE and have really enjoyed (tho not too recently) being completely submissive (including to --at different times-- four different dommes :- two professionals and two friends with benefits-- who have so pushed my boundaries that I get completely owned); and dominating mostly Fr with B (including two friends with benefits whose intense pain seeking is beyond my abilities to satisfy ) and I have enjoyed Angie who is not at all into pain ( fine with me) whose submission is so sexy.
I think being a submissive provider needs to be particularly tricky. unless you know your client very well. I know at least two providers who told how much they enjoy submitting to their "masters" or outside interest with whom they feel safe.
I wish it was nearly as easy to find a sub provider or even a domme provider into heavy sexuality as it it to find a great GFE,
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who is indeed into heavy sexual activity.
I think she enjoys me as my tastes are not too demanding of her, thus alleviating her of the burden of having to be too out there. But then again who knows? She is perhaps pining that I should be more demanding, for she would be hard pressed to be demanding lest she drop her sub persona.
All I know is that I am very blessed to know her.
Care to share the name of the sub of whom you speak?
Thanks for the mention!...I totally enjoy submitting and giving pleasure, as well as bondage and discipline. When I was younger I enjoyed pain and having my limits pushed, but I have found with age, I get off more on the psychological aspects of submission.
I will be doing some traveling this month with a VERY hot DOMME, who is the perfect ying to my yang! She is extremely sensual, and knows how to push all the right buttons, not only with me, but with submissives of all kinds from mild to extreme, and while she has been mostly UTR for several years, she has many years of experience in the BDSM community!
You are making me blush!
That sounds hot! I would love a sub woman to play with my guys with Both Dom and Sub men! Oh wow I thinking of the scenes we could create. Mmmmm
Being a sub woman is fun but have not found anyone I trust enough to be able to bring out the sub. Only one person has done it so far.
I can vouch for angie......a true bottom. Check out my review
I love to dominate her. She is often a very bad girl and needs to be disciplined.
I am truly submissive naturally, but if not dominated properly, my tiger emerges and I will dominate the situation often just to get my partner to rise up and dominate me as needed.
Mmmmmm
you are one of a very few submissive professional ladies I have been anxious to meet and not one of you really attractive ladies live in Philly (Is it the Quicker thing? I wonder) so except for rare opportunities and infrequent contact I don't get to see any of you regularly. So sad.
Aw thanks Dr Joe 😊
I have switched before as well but only after getting to know the person.
I like being naughty and dominant!! Lol
What is it about Chicago?
I understand Las Vegas or even LA and NYC is...well MYC, but how come every time there is a great domme I discover or a sub or just someone who sounds particularly delicious, they are more likely or not to be in Chicago?
Oh well, your pictures are great and you sound exciting so no surprise, your home base is Chicago.
I am naturally dominant, but I love to role-play & have recently opened my menu to offering sub/switch services it's fun!
And I am a sub all the way, I don't switch and have been doing it my whole life but professionally started offering it 2 years ago. I pretty much do it all lol.... Only limit is severe pain. I do well and stay busy but overall pro doms are more in demand imo and that's why there are more. And if course yes it can be hard to "let go" with someone especially if they are a new client but I've found a lot of bdsm clients become regulars to delve deeper and eventually get into more intense sessions.
Like you said, being the submissive one can be difficult with a guy you don’t already know. Right now I have a Vanilla session first to get to a certain level of trust and comfort before truly subbing for someone. When I’m in that zone I want to just let go and not have to be as guarded.
But it can be IMMENSELY rewarding, so I’m trying to book these appointments more!
She is very turned on by consensual non consent and that seriously takes a lot of trust in her Dom.
We have started with her as my Dom, she has collared me and gives me such a wonderful flogging, spanking etc. Then she does a fantastic sensual sex situation.
Later in the evening we both switch and I restrain her, use estim toys on her and then we go to the consensual non consent and I take and do what I want, with her saying no and rejecting my advances, to an extent. I get what I want, force myself on her. It is so sexually charged.
Neither of us have gotten to our safe words. And orgasms are incredible.
She is a very rare treat. She totally trusts me and I totally trust her. We also have vanilla GFE sessions.
The downside is that I don't live near her and only get time with her every few months.
Yes!!!! I love being a switch!!! I am submissive and dominant. Who knew? Lol it's nice when 2 switches get together 😏 sensory overload! 😜
XOXO
TL
And I mean, I LOVE my sexuality.
I am pretty happy to own the fact that dominating someone and engaging sexually with them should not be mutually exclusive. Pleasure is pleasure and I love mine.
As for subs, I'd also recommend Lena Duvall. She is quite the submissive player, submissive in all the right ways and sweetness oozing off her.
It is always tricky when I session with someone the first time. It is a balancing act of being mindful, focusing on them, and trying to relax because since I don't know them, I don't know their signals, body language, how serious they are (is it authentically them or what they think they are supposed to act like) , how much is this a kid in a candy store and out of control. I give my best and communicate.
When a person repeats with me, I know them better, am able to relax more, settle into my head space.
Submission isn't compliance. When I am submitting, I may make funny/different noises or funny/different faces, novices are not always used to taking that in. It can be tricky to guide a newbie through that from the bottom. If I am not saying "yellow" that i am approaching my limit, you are good to go. It cuts both ways for relationships to grow. And everyone is different in their responses to stimuli.
I find it very rewarding to play with a partner I have known years, and I know how timid they were back then, and now they are smooth and confident and a honor/joy to play with.
I've been asked many times if I sub professionally. The answer is no. But in my everyday life I like to do sub things if that makes sense. I love submitting to "Daddy" doms and other activities that make me a sub. But naturally I am a dominant personality....I lean towards sensual domination and am a true switch. It takes a lot for me to want to submit but once I do I love it and the reason I don't offer it now is that is would feel fake if I did. Never know when someone may come along and change that though.
I'm not a sub at all; never have been, but I am certainly a SENSUAL domme, based in South Florida and travel to NYC and Chicago.
I'm keenly aware of the masculine sensibilities, just as I am My own feminine grace.
I enjoy many scenes from medical fetish, to sissification, to strap-on play, to tie-n-tease NURU (I coined that, Myself, btw).
TPE is a huge turn-on for Me.
We're not all whips and chains, but that's the beauty of BDSM-- it is as complex and ardent as the people in its community.
xoxo,
GypsyMistress
Hello,
I am a dom/sub/switch gfe provider who pro-dommed in the past for years, but am quite versatile.
-Devorah
I am a dom not a switch. I love to be in Control and i love sex. I think it is also a turn on to have a Sub to tell him or her what to do, and how to please me.
If i know the guy for some time and we Party than ones in a while i love a nice Spanking, or tied up and so on but i Need some time to really trust him to do that Kind of play
There are dozens of us professional submissives. The reality that Dominant companions outnumber submissive ones is not really an issue. One just has to know where to look and how to research for a companion who is well versed on curating those types of experiences.
I think there is more money in femdom, so pro submissives are harder to find. I actually don't know of any locally here in Minneapolis area. However they're not hard to find on sugar babe sites. Again they don't usually say they are submissive right out, but that usually comes up soon enough in discussions. I've met four submissives in the last year or so.
After decades in the adult business being more open to sub/dom & switch activities is only natural. I love to role play! Playing sub is fun.