Dear Clair,

i know many Dominant Females, Domme's, Dominatrix's, Masters (yes, that are female), Tops (yes, that are female), Domina's, Mistress's, Ma'am's, Priestess's and Goddess's.

i think each of us tries to convey the parts of who we are by choosing a title, by taking a label that best suits our authentic self.  Perhaps the label should be held as a "context" and the person's preferences for sensually, sadism, masochism, what their BDSM playlist is, and what skills they shine at are content.  that gets mixed in with intelligence, humor, wit, charm and charisma.

i know a woman whom calls herself  Goddess, who has awesome skills of inflicting pain because she is a sadist and loves doing that.  i know a Mistress who has light skills of inflicting pain and demands complete obedience.  She loves protocol, ritual, and domestic service.

This same discussion can be made for bottom's, submissive's, slave's, pain sluts, and lovers of servitude.

What is your authentic self, Clair?


~a

Wow, just found that TER has a bdsm section.

Ms. Clair, if i'm seeing a Pro., then a Dominatrix who is skilled at Her trade is very acceptable. However, if i'm getting into a relationship, i prefer a Dominant partner.

My understanding is that the term Dominatrix refers to a professional (p4p) woman who provides a dominant BDSM experience for her customers. A Dominant Female is a woman who takes a dominant role or position in her relationship  with a partner whether it be p4p or not. In her case, there may or not be a BDSM component. It is very difficult to offer a much more detailed definition as tastes and personalities of the two people involved are so individual. As for my personal preference, I will pm you.....