In this activity, the rules of discretion would dictate that the less said, the better.

I for 1 hate liars & have never lied about being a PRO player because I would hate for anyone whom I really care for to find out on their own.  They may feel betrayed, so why lie?

Never say anything personal over the phone.  I prefer to look them in the eyes when I speak my peace.  Hope that helps honey & if he doesn't want you plenty will!

Cheers & Happy 2012!

My two cents . . .   If You are engaging in potentially unsafe(r) sex in Your amateur vanilla porn (i.e., no condoms) and will be playing with someone in a sexual way or doing things involving blood play where Your play partner might be at risk at receiving the transmission of a disease as the result of that type of play, then You have an ethical obligation to disclose, as would anyone with HIV/AIDS, Hep A thru D, etc.  It ceases to be a consensual scene when both parties are not aware of potential medical issues and health risks and could otherwise choose to take additional precautions, such as gloves, masks, condoms, dental dams, etc. to prevent those medical issues and health risks.

an important reason comes up.  
I can't remember the last time I told a friend with benefits or a playmate my political registration.
Incidentally though, it would increase the pleasure of her company to find out a friend with benefits or a playmate was a provider.

Save that for when you didn't ask the question.

We sometimes feel an obligation to share information with people when it is neither in our interest or appropriate, and to not do so sometimes makes us feel like we are doing something wrong.

I don't know how many times I've been saved by asking this question myself to others I have trusted.