I just recently had my first call with a dominatrix and I am pretty disappointed. I found her in eros
 it took many emails and many days to finally just get a telephone call. I am mostly intrested  in sensual domination and tease and denial. On the phone she explained how she does things and it sounded really hot I  mentioned tease and denial she explained to me that she will never touch me or do anything sexual. Is this normal or do bdsm providers never do the regular stuff like bbbj or sex. How will she tease me if she won't do anything sexual and what's the point if there is no release.
Does any body know any really good and pretty bdsm providers that will do everything a regular providor does plus sensual domination.

You can find such escorts on the Fetish/Fantasy section of the Eros Guide in your city.

Where are you located? There are many excellent providers around the country who are into BDSM...

Courtney Sparks can meet your needs.

There are some dominatrixes who do have sexual contact with their clients.  Having been with a few of each, I refuse to say which ones are "the ones that will" and which are "the ones that won't".

It is rather annoying though, that this particular area of the world of adult entertainment is so clique-ish and secretive.  The "ones that won't" insist that theirs is the "one true path" and that "those who will" are just "escorts with lots of toys"--which is a bunch of bullshit.  One of my favorite pro-dommes is pretty much FS (albeit at a different $$ rate than for non-FS)--and she is more accomplished in her craft than any other pro-domme I've ever met.

Even among those who won't, the boundaries get pretty blurry:  Does handjobbing a client to a "ruined O" count as sex?  Some would say Yes, some would say No.  Even if they won't let you penetrate them, what about if they penetrate you?  Is that sexual contact?

As always, my feeling is it's two (or more) people in a room.  What they choose to do (and what they choose to call it) is up to them.

Remember the old saying about how "I can't define pornography, but I know it when I see it"?

This is the same thing:  I can't define the difference between a pro-domme and an escort with a lot of toys, but I know it when I experience it.

(And btw, none of this is meant to be dismissive of fetish-friendly escorts.  I see several such ladies regularly, and I have a great time with each of them.)

TER is pretty weak in categorizing DBSM providers.  Hard to figure out who is a don a sub or a switch or what they mean by S&M ligt or S&M heavy ;(  Any board or site where BDSM specialty providers advertise?

...unfortunately.  Your best bets are backchanneling providers or hobbyists who have posted reviews to get more information.

I sent you a pm; I don't know if you got it though.

Click on reviews at the top of the page, then click on advanced search and fill out the form. What you're seeking is actually very easy to find. Reading reviews will serve you much better than someone explaining what they will and won't do over the phone. And honestly, if someone I didn't know told me on the phone that she WOULD be doing anything sexual to me, that would raise a big giant red flag with flashing red lights on the end. Good luck with your search

I am located in NY. Where could I find the providors?

In general, pro dommes don't offer sex.  I say "in general" because, versus where things were 15 years ago, there are more and more who do.  Not always easy to find them, though, reviews are a good start.

If you want domination that is like the kind of domination most people have in the bedroom -- that is, domination that is infused with sensuality and sexuality (GFD as it were) -- you have to look at other areas of the sex industry.  The good news is, over the past 5 years, many sensual massage girls have started offering domination, and at least in my area of the country, many of them are highly skilled to the point that just based on domination skill alone, they are as good as an intermediate-level pro domme ... plus, you get the happy ending.  Although there are fewer of them, there are definitely escorts who are skilled and/or trained in domination, and offer an amazing experience (we are well past the days that all you could find was a "hooker with a whip" -- there are escorts offering legit skilled domination).  The main thing here is, to get sex with your domination, you'll want to spend more time looking through massage and escort ads, searching for "domination" or "fetish", that will get you there faster than looking through domination ads trying to divine who may or may not offer sex

...then you have hit the jackpot.

And Yeah, until you do, I agree that the "bondassage" niche offers some pretty fun times.  Plop that term into Google, and you'll probably find some decent options in almost any part of the US.

Agree, although I'd point out that "Bondassage" is a registered trademark, the providers who are legally able to use it have taken a class and gotten trained in the particular activities and flow of Bondassage.  It's a great option, but it's also expensive -- in this area, until recently Bondassage offerings commanded a 50% price premium (!!), and in many cases with a 1.5 hour minimum.  Although prices have come down.  In any case, it's a great option and I would not discourage anyone from it.  But I would point out that you do not have to pay the significant price premium that Bondassage commands in order to get fantastic massage/escort+domination.  In fact, my very best experiences were just with regular massage girls who were great at domination (in two cases, they also moonlighted as no-sex dommes on the side).  So while it's a great idea to search for Bondassage, you definitely want to widen your net by searching for escort and massage girls with more general terms, like "domination" and "fetish".

In short, Bondassage is not a synonym for massage/escort + skilled domination.  It's a trademarked term, the women who offer it are trained in Bondassage, and command a significant price premium -- which is great if you want to experience the activities and flow in bondassage, but if your domination interests lie elsewhere, no reason to pay the premium

There is a difference between sensual domination and corporal.  To me, Domination is about attitude- being in charge of our time together.  What that includes is up to us-well, me, but after we have discussed what you would like to get out of the session.

I have never had any use for 'boxes'.  Other people attaching names to what I offer is all on them.

I'm trained in Bondassage and love the ritual of restraint, Edging, submission, sensory deprivation and percussion play...and I add my own, very erotic spin to it.
I love using my body, watching a man appreciate the hard work I've put into it during my 'pre-game show', catching his ooohs and ahhs as I rub my breasts over his body while he is blindfolded and restrained...hey!  It's my world, my Game!

As far as raining for Bondassage or NOT-just realize that Bondassage is a copy righted brand and you cannot advertise yourself as a Bondassage Practioner if you have not been certified.  Why are people afraid to spend money to make it? Makes no sense to me.  Doing the training, and offering Bondassage sessions has been a huge part of my growth as a professional and as a human being.  

Play safe, always!!  
Good thread

I agree completely with Clair!

I'm also a certified practitioner of the sensual arts of Bondassage and Elysium. We offer an exclusive experience and any T & D fan should experience!

Love you Clair!