I've been playing on both sides of the Vanilla aisle for quite a few years now.  (meaning I've enjoyed both BDSM sessions as well as hobby sessions).  I've found one thing is true of both.  The connection you share with either a provider or a domme has to click, at least for me.

I guess I'm sort of an authenticity freak with a well developed 'faking it' radar.  I never blame a gal for faking it.  I just also never call her back.  There are some pretty amazing gals who are pretty amazing at making me feel great even when I know they're not having as much fun as it seems.  But there is something special about someone who's really into it.

This may actually be more true in BDSM sessions.  I'm not a masochist.  I enjoy power exchange and intense T&D.  I like a mistress who is close.  Who gets into my psyche and has a good time fucking with me.  There is a connection that can be created in these situations that is real.  That;s what I seek.

Curious what others think.

W